Nanny always wants to be everywhere early

[Anonymous]

I was this way when I started working for a new family because it was an area that, even though I was familiar, I didn't know the exact timing of things. After about a month of driving to routine places, I knew it took 7 minutes to drive from home to the library and would leave 10 minutes early instead of 15-20. She's getting used to the kids, she's getting used to the activities. Let her be.

[Anonymous]

Leaving early? If you need her to stay until 5 and you happen to arrive home at 4:40pm just say, "pls stay until 5, I have to take care of some things upstairs/outside/in the kitchen. Thanks."

Many nannies and people show up early sometimes to work because of horrid traffic patterns. That is prudent, but doesn't mean you start the clock early nor end it early!.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a new nanny and she's great! The only problem we're having with her is that she leaves everywhere way before she needs to. She leaves at least 10 to 15 minutes before is really necessary and I'm wondering if it's because she wants to play on her phone or get an extra break. My husband thinks it's no big deal because she is always at least 10 minutes early to work so he thinks she is just always like that. I would like to ask her to stop leaving so early to do things, but I also don't want to rock the boat. What do you think?

What do you mean leaves everywhere early? Like leaves the kids paid classes or preschool or play dates early? Leaves the house too early?

[Anonymous]

OP here. She leaves the house 15-20 minutes before my daughter's school gets out even though it's only a 5 minute drive at most. I know parking is hard at that time but that's and like way more than enough time. When she takes my daughter to piano or dance class she leaves 30 minutes before the class starts but it usually only takes 12-15 minutes to get there. She does the bulk of the housework pertaining to the kids so there is always something that could be done. I worked it out in my head and she gives herself almost an extra hour over the course of the week by leaving so early. She gets her contacted chores done but she knows there's always something that could be organized or cleaned in our house. I'd rather her leave 5 minutes early and spend that extra hour a week helping more around the house. However like my husband pointed out, she works for almost an extra hour just because she's always early and starts work right away. And no, she doesn't try to leave before her end time just because she came in early nor does she get paid for the time she's here before her shift actually starts. She could sit in her car until her actual start time but instead she comes in and gets right to work. I guess because of that it's just a wash.

[Anonymous]

Hmm. I'm not sure she's leaving for classes early to avoid to dying up the house of if that's just her extra cautious MO.
We always leave the house clean each morning for the nanny (kit nice, toys away, clothes away) and she makes sure of the same by 5pm or she zooms around and does it once I get there.
If your house is getting more and more use (which having someone there all day will do), but less and less tody, I agree, something is wrong. Better time management could help.
What do your kids say the nanny does when they are sitting around so early for piano, or school, or whathaveyou? Or when they nap? Maybe she is used to more downtime or phone time. Hard to tell.

[Anonymous]

Tidy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a new nanny and she's great! The only problem we're having with her is that she leaves everywhere way before she needs to. She leaves at least 10 to 15 minutes before is really necessary and I'm wondering if it's because she wants to play on her phone or get an extra break. My husband thinks it's no big deal because she is always at least 10 minutes early to work so he thinks she is just always like that. I would like to ask her to stop leaving so early to do things, but I also don't want to rock the boat. What do you think?

Don't rock the boat for this, but yes, everyone turns on the energy charm first thing in the morning when the boss is around!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She leaves the house 15-20 minutes before my daughter's school gets out even though it's only a 5 minute drive at most. I know parking is hard at that time but that's and like way more than enough time. When she takes my daughter to piano or dance class she leaves 30 minutes before the class starts but it usually only takes 12-15 minutes to get there. She does the bulk of the housework pertaining to the kids so there is always something that could be done. I worked it out in my head and she gives herself almost an extra hour over the course of the week by leaving so early. She gets her contacted chores done but she knows there's always something that could be organized or cleaned in our house. I'd rather her leave 5 minutes early and spend that extra hour a week helping more around the house. However like my husband pointed out, she works for almost an extra hour just because she's always early and starts work right away. And no, she doesn't try to leave before her end time just because she came in early nor does she get paid for the time she's here before her shift actually starts. She could sit in her car until her actual start time but instead she comes in and gets right to work. I guess because of that it's just a wash.

Your nanny sounds very responsible. She is making sure she is always on time and a little early. You need to stop thinking of her so poorly. Thinking she is basically stealing away time from your precious house cleaning. She is prioritizing your child over your house. 1 extra hr over the course of a week is really nothing when you are dealing with 10 minutes here or there. Heaven forbids that 5 minutes each day before she leaves she takes a bathroom break that's 25 minutes each week op. !!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I guess my husband was right...The nanny is always early to work and comes in and starts work right away, so that probably does rule out her leaving early because she's lazy or wants an extra break. I guess I was just looking for something to find fault in because she seems too good to be true. Thanks for being nice with the responses too, as I now see that I was being kind of ridiculous.

I think there something wrong with you. Need a check up and feel sorry for you nanny.

[Anonymous]

this post is so irritating to me and even more so after reading OP's second response where she seems to sink further into her craziness by telling us "...but she has an hour to herself all week where she's doing nothing!"

If I were this nanny, I would think I was performing perfectly. how is anybody in the world supposed to know their boss thinks they are shirking duties because they show up to things early? OP, you're a jerk and honestly I feel sorry for your nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She leaves the house 15-20 minutes before my daughter's school gets out even though it's only a 5 minute drive at most. I know parking is hard at that time but that's and like way more than enough time. When she takes my daughter to piano or dance class she leaves 30 minutes before the class starts but it usually only takes 12-15 minutes to get there. She does the bulk of the housework pertaining to the kids so there is always something that could be done. I worked it out in my head and she gives herself almost an extra hour over the course of the week by leaving so early. She gets her contacted chores done but she knows there's always something that could be organized or cleaned in our house. I'd rather her leave 5 minutes early and spend that extra hour a week helping more around the house. However like my husband pointed out, she works for almost an extra hour just because she's always early and starts work right away. And no, she doesn't try to leave before her end time just because she came in early nor does she get paid for the time she's here before her shift actually starts. She could sit in her car until her actual start time but instead she comes in and gets right to work. I guess because of that it's just a wash.

Oh god, you should like a complete and total nightmare MB. Trust me, this is not the hill you want to die on.

[Anonymous]

*sound

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have a new nanny and she's great! The only problem we're having with her is that she leaves everywhere way before she needs to. She leaves at least 10 to 15 minutes before is really necessary and I'm wondering if it's because she wants to play on her phone or get an extra break. My husband thinks it's no big deal because she is always at least 10 minutes early to work so he thinks she is just always like that. I would like to ask her to stop leaving so early to do things, but I also don't want to rock the boat. What do you think?

Seriously?

I'm with you. to the OP, I think you and the nanny need to part ways, because you sound like a nit-picker, and no professional nanny needs someone to micromanage their bathroom breaks, even down to the barest nanosecond. You sound like someone who feels that they are not getting their money's work, because the nanny isn't doing things in the manner you would. Daycare would be the best option for you.

[Anonymous]

OP can we have your nanny's number so we can tell her she should start looking for new jobs?

[Anonymous]

Would you like my nanny OP?
I just went out to her car where she was complaining about the Britax car seat and found both straps each TWISTED about 5 times. She thought that was fine.

I don't know if this is a deal-breaker or not but stuff like this (poor judgment, stupidity, lack of common sense, possibly laziness) happens on a monthly basis. She's been a nanny for 9 years, 3 different families.

I'm not fine with this ignorance or stupidity. My husband is too busy with work to deal with it.