Nanny always wants to be everywhere early

[Anonymous]

We have a new nanny and she's great! The only problem we're having with her is that she leaves everywhere way before she needs to. She leaves at least 10 to 15 minutes before is really necessary and I'm wondering if it's because she wants to play on her phone or get an extra break. My husband thinks it's no big deal because she is always at least 10 minutes early to work so he thinks she is just always like that. I would like to ask her to stop leaving so early to do things, but I also don't want to rock the boat. What do you think?

[Anonymous]

I think that you should. Be happy that she is responsible enough to be early.

[Anonymous]

Let this go please. It really isn't important. And in the future, try not to assume the worst in everything your nanny does.

-Signed Military brat nanny who can't seem to show up less than 10 minutes early to anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a new nanny and she's great! The only problem we're having with her is that she leaves everywhere way before she needs to. She leaves at least 10 to 15 minutes before is really necessary and I'm wondering if it's because she wants to play on her phone or get an extra break. My husband thinks it's no big deal because she is always at least 10 minutes early to work so he thinks she is just always like that. I would like to ask her to stop leaving so early to do things, but I also don't want to rock the boat. What do you think?

You sound like.a complete nightmare already.

-HM

[Anonymous]

I am always early and typically give myself at least 30 minutes to get somewhere even if it's down the street. You never know when a train will delay you, wreck up in front, detour. I've never been late ever in my life. If my boss told me to stop leaving early I couldn't handle it. I would have a mild panic attack because I believe being 5 minutes early is on time and being on time is late. And late in my world is unexceptable.

[Anonymous]

Think the best of people. She probably is simply anxious about getting there on time. She sounds very responsible.

[Anonymous]

What is the potential downside of her leaving early? Trying to imagine a scenario--like she is picking kids up from school and you'd rather she be folding laundry or something until the last possible minute?

[Anonymous]

I'm early for everything! It stresses me out to be late. Traffic in this area is pretty bad. I always add extra time to drive to the location in case there's a traffic issue.

Op-let this go. This is one thing I wouldn't worry over.

[Anonymous]

I grew up with a mom who was ALWAYS late. It drove me nuts. So I am super early to everything. About 20 to 30 mins early is where I prefer to be. BUT if someone says come over at 10, I will arrive at 940 but I wont go knock until 10 because I think it is rude to show up to someones house early.

I go to my charges school a half hour early because the parking is HORRIBLE. However I don't clock in until the time he gets out of school since it is my decision to be early. I don't expect my employers to pay for my quirky early habits.

I highly doubt it is to get more breaks or phone time. She just likes to be on time!!

[Anonymous]

OP here. I guess my husband was right...The nanny is always early to work and comes in and starts work right away, so that probably does rule out her leaving early because she's lazy or wants an extra break. I guess I was just looking for something to find fault in because she seems too good to be true. Thanks for being nice with the responses too, as I now see that I was being kind of ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I guess my husband was right...The nanny is always early to work and comes in and starts work right away, so that probably does rule out her leaving early because she's lazy or wants an extra break. I guess I was just looking for something to find fault in because she seems too good to be true. Thanks for being nice with the responses too, as I now see that I was being kind of ridiculous.

I'm glad you came to this realization. also, whenever the "looking for something to find fault in" demon rears, it's ugly head, come back and reread this post.

[Anonymous]

I tend to be an early person but when I am going places with my charges I ALWAYS leave extra early ... transporting a kid or multiple kids takes more time than traveling alone and so many things can go wrong that will take extra time (tantrums, diapers, spit up, etc). you need to relax, lady. would you rather her early or late?

[Anonymous]

Yikes OP - I totally agree with everyone else that this is NOT something to be concerned with. You could have a nanny that is chronically late - that is a serious problem. You could have a nanny who loses track of time and that's a problem.

Instead you have someone very conscientious and reliable and you're looking for a negative?

Yikes. You really need to curb that instinct or you will make a fabulous nanny miserable in the job.

-MB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a new nanny and she's great! The only problem we're having with her is that she leaves everywhere way before she needs to. She leaves at least 10 to 15 minutes before is really necessary and I'm wondering if it's because she wants to play on her phone or get an extra break. My husband thinks it's no big deal because she is always at least 10 minutes early to work so he thinks she is just always like that. I would like to ask her to stop leaving so early to do things, but I also don't want to rock the boat. What do you think?

Seriously?

[Anonymous]

"Our nanny is never late and I hate it", said no sane parent, ever.