Is this micromanaging?

[Anonymous]

This is not micromanaging - you should be talking to your nanny about how the day is scheduled (particularly because you may want it consistent between the week and weekends), and as the parent, you get the final say. If this is the only thing she's responded like this on, I'd sit down with her and try to understand her reasons, and then work together to fix them. However, if she is not receptive to such a conversation (especially if she's just trying to maximize her own downtime at the expense of your kids night time sleep), or doesn't follow your instructions on other things as well, it might be time for a new nanny.

[Anonymous]

OP, how old are your kids?

Not to excuse her behavior, but as a nanny myself, one of the toughest parts of this job is when a parent requests that I awaken a sleeping child. Ugh...It's so tough because they are so young and I feel personally that a young child shouldn't be awakened just for the convenience of his or her parents.

I do it if I am instructed to per my duty, but God how I hate doing it.

[Anonymous]

OP you are not micromanaging - What you are experiencing is classic passive aggressive reactions, which happens all the time to my (DW's) requests with our housekeeper: if she arrives very late and departs early but leaves the house unfinished with vacuum cleaner out and dried clothes tossed unfolded on the couch. So I ask (3rd time) to check all bathrooms for towels, soap, and TWO rolls of toilet paper. If I ask her to finish the laundry, fold it and put it away, it will be just the same way the next week. So I had DH make the same request = no problem.

Same thing when I asker t make sure there was one roll of TP on each wall dispenser and four towels. Instead she throws SIX rolls in room DH had to talk to he about that again.

Peculiarly, when something goes wrong, foreign women workings NOW laundromatts, delis,Koreon food, Chimese feet often want to get a man of the House the picture because he will appear more threatening. As an extremely exeducated feminst, I think these trips when the maids play a game, then the la

One nanny stole our credit card while we were on vacaton, I caught it when reviewing the bank statements, and and discovered on return on $600 in charges with her signatures. She never did admit it, although the items were teen boyscouts stuff, boy scout stuff, shoes, food, and lost of stuff in Arlington. We renewed her contract to say that we would deduct from her salary $20 a month to start paying off the debit on my credit card. She said she agreed but wanted to run it by - you guessed it - another male authority figure - her priest. I said "Are you Sure" - it clearly indicates that you stole from us and that we were giving her a second or third chance. It did come back from her minister and our lawyer and was signed an happy, except that quit a month later, so we were left with and $600 - a great deal for he. Not so much for us because we knew by

[Anonymous]

No micromanaging at all, your nanny is crossing a line. I say this as a nanny myself, if she is not listening to your requests you have an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you are not micromanaging - What you are experiencing is classic passive aggressive reactions, which happens all the time to my (DW's) requests with our housekeeper: if she arrives very late and departs early but leaves the house unfinished with vacuum cleaner out and dried clothes tossed unfolded on the couch. So I ask (3rd time) to check all bathrooms for towels, soap, and TWO rolls of toilet paper. If I ask her to finish the laundry, fold it and put it away, it will be just the same way the next week. So I had DH make the same request = no problem.

Same thing when I asker t make sure there was one roll of TP on each wall dispenser and four towels. Instead she throws SIX rolls in room DH had to talk to he about that again.

Peculiarly, when something goes wrong, foreign women workings NOW laundromatts, delis,Koreon food, Chimese feet often want to get a man of the House the picture because he will appear more threatening. As an extremely exeducated feminst, I think these trips when the maids play a game, then the la

One nanny stole our credit card while we were on vacaton, I caught it when reviewing the bank statements, and and discovered on return on $600 in charges with her signatures. She never did admit it, although the items were teen boyscouts stuff, boy scout stuff, shoes, food, and lost of stuff in Arlington. We renewed her contract to say that we would deduct from her salary $20 a month to start paying off the debit on my credit card. She said she agreed but wanted to run it by - you guessed it - another male authority figure - her priest. I said "Are you Sure" - it clearly indicates that you stole from us and that we were giving her a second or third chance. It did come back from her minister and our lawyer and was signed an happy, except that quit a month later, so we were left with and $600 - a great deal for he. Not so much for us because we knew by

Why in the hell would you keep a nanny who stole from you?