Nanny went out last night and came back engaged.

[Anonymous]

Betrayed?? Is she not allowed to get engaged? Get a life for crying out loud. Sounds like you don't deserve her.

[Anonymous]

Throw them an engagement dinner and act happy! Show your child how to behave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is basically giving you six month notice. That is more than enough time to get your shit together and find a new childcare provider who will care for your imaginary newborn. Your nanny is going to be living the dream, engaged and supported by fiancé until she finishes school. Damn you're lucky she didn't up and leave now

imaginary newborn? We plan on having a child very soon. We don't want her to put her life on hold, but this is really the worst possible time to do this (on her end). It's not like we can just put off having another baby. We really do want her to be happy but it is hard knowing that she will be leaving us very soon.

[Anonymous]

Just like in any working relationship she can leave anytime for any reason. Your talking crazy. Six months is a long time. Calm yourself and ask if she can recommend any nanny friends when the time comes. Treat her well now, or she will get tired of your selfish and inappropriate behavior and move on sooner.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am sorry for your situation. I would like to offer some compassion and understanding for what has happened. I would like to believe that your expressed anger is somewhat a bit as if, your husband came home, and suddenly announced he found another family, and will soon be moving out. The initial disbelief and shock can be traumatizing, not only for your family, but on a different level, for the nanny as well, even though she initiated the upcoming change.

I therefore ask you to reconsider how to proceed. This is vital not only for you and your family, but for the nanny. Even thorough you have every right to acknowledge your feelings of betrayal, it's crucial to keep at the forefront what the nanny has given to your family, from the bottom of her heart.

Some here wlll never understand that the intimate fulltime homecare of a stranger's child, is one of the most profound gifts one can give. Most mothers dream of a nanny who will love and care for the child "as her own". Many nannies indeed fill that "maternal" role during the parents' daily absence from their children. Unfortunately, many nannies do not, for whatever reason. Please work through the disappointment and heartache. Your child needs that of you.

Please begin to pave a new path with the nanny, one of appreciation and mutual respect. I sincerely hope that you will allow and support an ongoing relationship with the nanny, after she is no longer your fulltime caregiver. Your child needs that, and so does the nanny. Maybe write her a letter expressing your heart-felt best wishes for her happiness, and how you hope to still be an important part of each other's lives, in whatever capacity possible. I believe she will be eternally grateful for that gift from you. I wish you all the best.

[Anonymous]

While your nanny may be a gold digger, she is still a person.
I get that you are in shock about the situation and finding a new nanny while you are in the process of making a big life change yourself is not ideal.

You also knew she wasn't going to be with you forever. It just sucks a little on your end because it is happening sooner than you expected.

Wish her well and start looking for a new nanny. You could have a couple days of overlap with a new nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While your nanny may be a gold digger, she is still a person.
I get that you are in shock about the situation and finding a new nanny while you are in the process of making a big life change yourself is not ideal.

You also knew she wasn't going to be with you forever. It just sucks a little on your end because it is happening sooner than you expected.

Wish her well and start looking for a new nanny. You could have a couple days of overlap with a new nanny.

lol how is she a gold digger? Should she actively seek out a poor guy to fall in love with? She got lucky, don't be a hater.

[Anonymous]

OP, you aren't even pregnant yet! Sure, you may wake up pregnant tomorrow, but it may also take you three years to get knocked up. You were just given six months notice. That is five months and two weeks more than most employers get. Appreciate your good fortune, and stop being both crazy and selfish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you aren't even pregnant yet! Sure, you may wake up pregnant tomorrow, but it may also take you three years to get knocked up. You were just given six months notice. That is five months and two weeks more than most employers get. Appreciate your good fortune, and stop being both crazy and selfish.

Yes we are not pregnant yet but we are expecting to conceive within 2 months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
This is painfully obvious as a troll post. You can tell by the way the "MB" is obsessing over the "nanny's" ring, the fiancé's apt, etc.


+1

+2.

Sealed when she added the conceive within the next few months. OP is not an MB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think she is a servant, in fact we love her dearly. I just feel that suddenly we have a lot of stress put on us because she is leaving all of a sudden.

You are selfish and self-absorbed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
This is painfully obvious as a troll post. You can tell by the way the "MB" is obsessing over the "nanny's" ring, the fiancé's apt, etc.


+1

+2.

Sealed when she added the conceive within the next few months. OP is not an MB.

If you believe your assertion to be correct, please report to admin, or have you already done that? Somehow I doubt it, because you may be the real troll here. Just a hunch.

[Anonymous]

When I came home one evening engaged, my employers were elated. They went on about how I deserve to be happy, and what a beautiful family we will make. They later took us to dinner and gave us our first engagement present. They know that I'll be finished with school soon, and badly want a baby of my own, so I'm sure they're expecting I will leave soon, but it hasn't stopped them behaving like normal people who truly care about someone. I second what another poster said; you don't love your nanny, you love what she does for you, and now that she won't be doing it anymore and it isn't on your timeline, that "love" is nowhere to be found. Get it together woman, and be nice.

[Anonymous]

Cannot believe how many people are falling for this troll post.

[Anonymous]

It's much more satisfying to call out you trolls here, 11:59, so everyone knows not to take you seriously.