Your Child Was Spanked At Palisades Storytime

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are a busybody, OP. Learn to mind your own business.

There are certainly posts on this board reporting "bad nannies" where you might be entirely right. This is not one of them. We are not talking about a nanny on her cell phone ignoring her charge, or someone being a little too snippy for an over-concerned mom's ears, this nanny verbally and physically abused a child in plain view of many other parents and caregivers (and at a place that she presumably frequents). OP is right, if a nanny is behaving this way in public, how is she when no one is around?

[Anonymous]

I agree this woman is out of line, but where is the same outrage when a parent is overly harsh or physical with their child in public? I really have to ask myself is OP truly believes that the safety of children is everyone's business, or if its just everyone's business when its the help, when its a black woman putting her hands on a white child. Sorry, OP, your concern is not coming off as genuine. Had the nanny been white, and able to pass for the child's mother, you wouldn't have said a damn thing. But go ahead. Stick it to the black woman who forgot her place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are a busybody, OP. Learn to mind your own business.

Child abuse and neglect
are EVERYONE's business.

It's time to speak up, people!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree this woman is out of line, but where is the same outrage when a parent is overly harsh or physical with their child in public? I really have to ask myself is OP truly believes that the safety of children is everyone's business, or if its just everyone's business when its the help, when its a black woman putting her hands on a white child. Sorry, OP, your concern is not coming off as genuine. Had the nanny been white, and able to pass for the child's mother, you wouldn't have said a damn thing. But go ahead. Stick it to the black woman who forgot her place.

What a fine example of a racist.

[Anonymous]

I personally don't care what color you or the kid is. If I see you hitting on a child, I promise you, I'll be in your face.
Got it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree this woman is out of line, but where is the same outrage when a parent is overly harsh or physical with their child in public? I really have to ask myself is OP truly believes that the safety of children is everyone's business, or if its just everyone's business when its the help, when its a black woman putting her hands on a white child. Sorry, OP, your concern is not coming off as genuine. Had the nanny been white, and able to pass for the child's mother, you wouldn't have said a damn thing. But go ahead. Stick it to the black woman who forgot her place.

What a fine example of a racist.

I didn't say she was racist. What I'm saying is that something inside her didn't like what she saw, but it would be a completely different conversation if the nanny looked like the child. Her skin color has everything to do with this, and you know it.

[Anonymous]

OP you should post on the palisades list serve

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree this woman is out of line, but where is the same outrage when a parent is overly harsh or physical with their child in public? I really have to ask myself is OP truly believes that the safety of children is everyone's business, or if its just everyone's business when its the help, when its a black woman putting her hands on a white child. Sorry, OP, your concern is not coming off as genuine. Had the nanny been white, and able to pass for the child's mother, you wouldn't have said a damn thing. But go ahead. Stick it to the black woman who forgot her place.

What a fine example of a racist.

I didn't say she was racist. What I'm saying is that something inside her didn't like what she saw, but it would be a completely different conversation if the nanny looked like the child. Her skin color has everything to do with this, and you know it.

You have absolutely no idea what OP would do if she saw a parent doing that. If it was a parent OP wouldn't have posted on the nanny forum so don't jump to conclusions just because OP gave important identifying features of the nanny. It doesn't matter what race the nanny was, OP did the right thing by reporting it here. By criticizing OP you are basically saying it's acceptable for the nanny to do what she did because she's African American. Or at the very least you are saying she shouldn't be reported just because she's African American.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree this woman is out of line, but where is the same outrage when a parent is overly harsh or physical with their child in public? I really have to ask myself is OP truly believes that the safety of children is everyone's business, or if its just everyone's business when its the help, when its a black woman putting her hands on a white child. Sorry, OP, your concern is not coming off as genuine. Had the nanny been white, and able to pass for the child's mother, you wouldn't have said a damn thing. But go ahead. Stick it to the black woman who forgot her place.

What a fine example of a racist.

I didn't say she was racist. What I'm saying is that something inside her didn't like what she saw, but it would be a completely different conversation if the nanny looked like the child. Her skin color has everything to do with this, and you know it.

You have absolutely no idea what OP would do if she saw a parent doing that. If it was a parent OP wouldn't have posted on the nanny forum so don't jump to conclusions just because OP gave important identifying features of the nanny. It doesn't matter what race the nanny was, OP did the right thing by reporting it here. By criticizing OP you are basically saying it's acceptable for the nanny to do what she did because she's African American. Or at the very least you are saying she shouldn't be reported just because she's African American.

Did you miss the part where I said "I agree she was out of line"? I simply questioned OPs motivations. The conversation would be quite different/non existent if the woman appeared to be the child's mother.

[Anonymous]

If it were the child's mother I would not have said anything because I don't correct anyone's parenting. A nanny is much different black white whatever. If the parent ok'd the nanny using a spanking as discipline that's fine but if the nanny is spanking the child and the parents have no idea I think they must know this is how their nanny "cares" for their child. I didn't make it to storytime, blow out diaper but I will call the library after nap and ask the Story time librarian if she recalls the incident.

[Anonymous]

I'm pretty disgusted that people are defending the abuser. OP is doing the right thing, I doubt the mom knows her kid is being mistreated.

[Anonymous]

I don't agree with what the nanny did. A child should not be spanked in public. However we don't know if the parents are okay with spanking.

In the south spanking a child with a paddle in school is common place. I have many friends who's kindergarden boys get spanked at school all most daily and then the parents at home use a belt . Around the dc area parents are alot less strict but in the Bible Belt it's "spare the rod spoil the child." We don't know where this family comes from and what there views on discipline are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't agree with what the nanny did. A child should not be spanked in public. However we don't know if the parents are okay with spanking.

In the south spanking a child with a paddle in school is common place. I have many friends who's kindergarden boys get spanked at school all most daily and then the parents at home use a belt . Around the dc area parents are alot less strict but in the Bible Belt it's "spare the rod spoil the child." We don't know where this family comes from and what there views on discipline are.

You're ridiculous

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree this woman is out of line, but where is the same outrage when a parent is overly harsh or physical with their child in public? I really have to ask myself is OP truly believes that the safety of children is everyone's business, or if its just everyone's business when its the help, when its a black woman putting her hands on a white child. Sorry, OP, your concern is not coming off as genuine. Had the nanny been white, and able to pass for the child's mother, you wouldn't have said a damn thing. But go ahead. Stick it to the black woman who forgot her place.

What a fine example of a racist.

I didn't say she was racist. What I'm saying is that something inside her didn't like what she saw, but it would be a completely different conversation if the nanny looked like the child. Her skin color has everything to do with this, and you know it.

You have absolutely no idea what OP would do if she saw a parent doing that. If it was a parent OP wouldn't have posted on the nanny forum so don't jump to conclusions just because OP gave important identifying features of the nanny. It doesn't matter what race the nanny was, OP did the right thing by reporting it here. By criticizing OP you are basically saying it's acceptable for the nanny to do what she did because she's African American. Or at the very least you are saying she shouldn't be reported just because she's African American.

Did you miss the part where I said "I agree she was out of line"? I simply questioned OPs motivations. The conversation would be quite different/non existent if the woman appeared to be the child's mother.

NP here: It SHOULD be a nonexistent conversation but it isn't because YOU brought it up! You have no idea if she would have acted any differently had the Nanny been another race. She also mentioned two other nannies she was impressed with. one of which is also AA. She saw something that is absolutely worth posting about and a description of the Nanny is both relevant and necessary.

[Anonymous]

Please post to the palisades list serve