Your Child Was Spanked At Palisades Storytime

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty disgusted that people are defending the abuser. OP is doing the right thing, I doubt the mom knows her kid is being mistreated.

It's only one racist here who thinks she has a right to question OP's "motive". She should know her raging racism is not welcome here, nor will it be quietly tolerated.

[Anonymous]

Could you post it on the list serve?

[Anonymous]

OP is doing the right thing. If my child were being treated like that, and someone saw it, I would want that person shouting from the rooftop.

And depending on where you live nannies, you are mandated reporters and if you see abuse, you may be required by law to report it, depending on the laws of your state.

[Anonymous]

Spanking is not abuse pp

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Spanking is not abuse pp

Legally, spanking is not classified as abuse in the US. But if it endangers the child, it would probably be considered child abuse. As many parents do not believe in corporal punishment, it would seem right for them to be made aware if their nanny was using spanking as a discipline technique. Moreover, a casual observer does not know if this is something that happens regularly, inappropriately or more severely in other situations, which might take it into the realm of child abuse, so I think it is better to err on the side of caution.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Spanking is not abuse pp

Whether "spanking" is abuse is subjective. Is one hit not abuse? how about 3 hits? or 5? or 7? or 15? At some point the reasonable person would say spanking crosses the line and becomes abuse. I don't spank my children so if anyone laid a hand on them even once, I would consider it abuse. I understand some parents do spank and some people might be comfortable with up to three spanks. But to say that spanking is not abuse needs to be quaified by exactly what you think 'spanking" a child means.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am grateful you are out there looking out for our children. Thanks for posting.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree this woman is out of line, but where is the same outrage when a parent is overly harsh or physical with their child in public? I really have to ask myself is OP truly believes that the safety of children is everyone's business, or if its just everyone's business when its the help, when its a black woman putting her hands on a white child. Sorry, OP, your concern is not coming off as genuine. Had the nanny been white, and able to pass for the child's mother, you wouldn't have said a damn thing. But go ahead. Stick it to the black woman who forgot her place.

What a fine example of a racist.

I didn't say she was racist. What I'm saying is that something inside her didn't like what she saw, but it would be a completely different conversation if the nanny looked like the child. Her skin color has everything to do with this, and you know it.

You have absolutely no idea what OP would do if she saw a parent doing that. If it was a parent OP wouldn't have posted on the nanny forum so don't jump to conclusions just because OP gave important identifying features of the nanny. It doesn't matter what race the nanny was, OP did the right thing by reporting it here. By criticizing OP you are basically saying it's acceptable for the nanny to do what she did because she's African American. Or at the very least you are saying she shouldn't be reported just because she's African American.

Did you miss the part where I said "I agree she was out of line"? I simply questioned OPs motivations. The conversation would be quite different/non existent if the woman appeared to be the child's mother.

NP here: It SHOULD be a nonexistent conversation but it isn't because YOU brought it up! You have no idea if she would have acted any differently had the Nanny been another race. She also mentioned two other nannies she was impressed with. one of which is also AA. She saw something that is absolutely worth posting about and a description of the Nanny is both relevant and necessary.

[Anonymous]

Some of these kids do need a good spanking HOWEVER, that's the parent's job not the nanny. It's their child so let them handle any disciplinarian actions. If I'm being honest some of you parents need to be slapped for allowing your children to be disrespectful to their nanny from what I see every day at the park but that's another topic. This does sound extreme and I am glad you posted this. I am a nanny myself with three decades of childcare experience under my belt and I have never spanked anyone's child. If the child is disrespectful and the parents refuse to correct it I leave I am not spanking, humiliating, yelling at any child that isn't mine. Everyone deserves to be respected at their workplace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the OP. If the parents are okay with the nanny spanking their child I take no issue with it. Most parents aren't okay with corporal punishment and if this nanny behaved like this while there were several eyes on her who knows what she does to Will when it's just the two of them. AA is African American. She had an accent so maybe a better description would be islander.

I am going to storytime again today and am prepared to intervene should she even just speak harshly to the boy. I also will talk with the Librarian just in case Will comes in alone with his parents one day.

Stop being a busy body. It is none of your business.

[Anonymous]

Thank you for posting about this incident. There are a lot of trolls on this website. That scare away new parents and those trying to do the right thing. Please repost the incident on your neighborhood listserv.

[Anonymous]

The original post was in 2013. That kid is now a teenager.

Probably in therapy.
Or on drugs.
Or wearing a purity ring.
Or failing 9th grade.
Or started college early.

And probably fine.

[Anonymous]

You are a fed working full time and caring for your kids. Hum…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am grateful you are out there looking out for our children. Thanks for posting.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I personally don't care what color you or the kid is. If I see you hitting on a child, I promise you, I'll be in your face.
Got it?

Me too.
Get these aholes out of childcare.