Nanny "lost control" with me, now I'm worried about her around my children.

[Anonymous]

I would need more info on what precipitated the blow up, how early she came in, how laate you were, whether you told her you were running late, how long her day was total etc. If you were there in the a.m. you shouldn't have had her come in early, esp since you knew you had an appt later in the day. If the kids were so sick you needed her help, then they were sick enough that she needed your help later in the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would need more info on what precipitated the blow up, how early she came in, how laate you were, whether you told her you were running late, how long her day was total etc. If you were there in the a.m. you shouldn't have had her come in early, esp since you knew you had an appt later in the day. If the kids were so sick you needed her help, then they were sick enough that she needed your help later in the day.

Exactly. Moreover, I looks to me that both the parent and the nanny were out of control that day. I wouldn't be surprised if the nanny is already in the process of lining up her next job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this were a true story then I would say you are an effing bitch but as toy are Too Tall troll, wait a minute, you are still an EB.

Uhhmmmm. Ok.

[Anonymous]

Yes, OP is the TTT and the EB!

[Anonymous]

OP, you stated that you were not "in the best of moods" and that you may have come across poorly...can you please elaborate on this? I just wanted to see how justified your nanny's reaction was to you.

Anyway, it doesn't sound to me like she did anything out of the norm.
It sounds like a very stressful day for everyone involved.
She doesn't seem like she has any anger issues to me.

[Anonymous]

She could have stuff going on in her personal life and the chaos of the day could have been her breaking point. Yes, of course it wasn't ideal and was unprofessional but she's a human being- I'd let it go and just keep a closer eye on her next week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I've had my nanny for about 18 months. We've had minimal problems with her, and overall she has worked well for us. Today has been a very bad day for us all. Two of my children are sick, as well as my husband. I called her in early, she is very flexible and agreed to the new schedule for the day. I was with her in the early part of the day, but had an appointment in the evening. It was hectic, and I ended up being late. So I was not in the best of moods when I arrived home. I guess I came across poorly, because out of nowhere I asked her a question and she snaps, "I cleaned up your children's puke all day and you are going to treat me like shit?" I was shocked, and she was too. She immediately apologized, and said she was tired and started crying. I feel bad, because I know she's young and may not yet be mature enough to be able to handle her emotions and her mouth. I said it was fine, I've snapped at people as well, but NEVER my boss. I was just going to let it slide, since it was obvious she didn't mean it HOWEVER it got me thinking... She has shown not only shown me a lack of respect, but also that she doesn't not have a very good handle on her emotions. I fear she may lose control with my children, and I don't just mean verbally. I saw a new side of her, and it makes me second guess who I leave my children with when I'm at work. I may be overanalyzing the situation, but I'm still a bit flabbergasted. It may just have been a bad day all around and something I need to just let go. You know how mothers are though, I guess my "Mama Bear" instincts are just in hyper drive. Thoughts?

Okay, so you knew it was going to be a long, stressful day- but you called her in early, even though you were going to be home all morning?
Additionally, "I ended up being late, so I was not in the best of moods when I arrived home" --- Um, how do you think your nanny felt??

[Anonymous]

Mama Bears takes care of their own cubs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I've had my nanny for about 18 months. We've had minimal problems with her, and overall she has worked well for us. Today has been a very bad day for us all. Two of my children are sick, as well as my husband. I called her in early, she is very flexible and agreed to the new schedule for the day. I was with her in the early part of the day, but had an appointment in the evening. It was hectic, and I ended up being late. So I was not in the best of moods when I arrived home. I guess I came across poorly, because out of nowhere I asked her a question and she snaps, "I cleaned up your children's puke all day and you are going to treat me like shit?" I was shocked, and she was too. She immediately apologized, and said she was tired and started crying. I feel bad, because I know she's young and may not yet be mature enough to be able to handle her emotions and her mouth. I said it was fine, I've snapped at people as well, but NEVER my boss. I was just going to let it slide, since it was obvious she didn't mean it HOWEVER it got me thinking... She has shown not only shown me a lack of respect, but also that she doesn't not have a very good handle on her emotions. I fear she may lose control with my children, and I don't just mean verbally. I saw a new side of her, and it makes me second guess who I leave my children with when I'm at work. I may be overanalyzing the situation, but I'm still a bit flabbergasted. It may just have been a bad day all around and something I need to just let go. You know how mothers are though, I guess my "Mama Bear" instincts are just in hyper drive. Thoughts?

Okay, so you knew it was going to be a long, stressful day- but you called her in early, even though you were going to be home all morning?
Additionally, "I ended up being late, so I was not in the best of moods when I arrived home" --- Um, how do you think your nanny felt??

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

Mama Bears takes care of their own cubs.

It's strange that such a nanny hater as yourself trolls nanny forums.

[Anonymous]

Let it slide..cleaning up puke all day isn't fun.

[Anonymous]

I snap at my boss a lot. More often than not she deserves it but I would never yell at kids. I'm a fairly hot tempered person but it never translates to me yelling at the elderly or children hahaha. I wouldnt sweat it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I've had my nanny for about 18 months. We've had minimal problems with her, and overall she has worked well for us. Today has been a very bad day for us all. Two of my children are sick, as well as my husband. I called her in early, she is very flexible and agreed to the new schedule for the day. I was with her in the early part of the day, but had an appointment in the evening. It was hectic, and I ended up being late. So I was not in the best of moods when I arrived home. I guess I came across poorly, because out of nowhere I asked her a question and she snaps, "I cleaned up your children's puke all day and you are going to treat me like shit?" I was shocked, and she was too. She immediately apologized, and said she was tired and started crying. I feel bad, because I know she's young and may not yet be mature enough to be able to handle her emotions and her mouth. I said it was fine, I've snapped at people as well, but NEVER my boss. I was just going to let it slide, since it was obvious she didn't mean it HOWEVER it got me thinking... She has shown not only shown me a lack of respect, but also that she doesn't not have a very good handle on her emotions. I fear she may lose control with my children, and I don't just mean verbally. I saw a new side of her, and it makes me second guess who I leave my children with when I'm at work. I may be overanalyzing the situation, but I'm still a bit flabbergasted. It may just have been a bad day all around and something I need to just let go. You know how mothers are though, I guess my "Mama Bear" instincts are just in hyper drive. Thoughts?

Okay, so you knew it was going to be a long, stressful day- but you called her in early, even though you were going to be home all morning?
Additionally, "I ended up being late, so I was not in the best of moods when I arrived home" --- Um, how do you think your nanny felt??

Exactly.

I completely agree. It was a long stressful day. No one likes cleaning up vomit all day.

[Anonymous]

This is why I specifically state in my contract that vomit is the sole off-limit bodily fluid for me. I will not take care of kids with infectious gastro viruses. I'll take care of colds and flus, but if it's a stomach thing the duty falls to Mom or Dad. In fact, parents have forewarned me if their kid has a stomach flu and I get the day off as a result. Surprisingly, each parent i've worked for has agreed to this term and it has never been an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Mama Bears takes care of their own cubs.

It's strange that such a nanny hater as yourself trolls nanny forums.

Normally I too roll my eyes at the "raise your own kids" poster, but this OP may actually deserve it. Her kid is sick and miserable, so she decides to spend LESS time than usual with him/her, and doesn't even arrive home on time. The nanny who has been caring for sick kid all day dares to actually express anger at her self-centered MB and OP tries to characterize it as a latent anger management problem. This woman is not in touch with what it actually takes to be with a sick kid all day or she would a) have some empathy for her nanny and b) want to be there providing comfort to her kid, rather than having the nanny come in early and leave late. The fact that she blames her anger at the nanny on a "Mama Bear" instinct rather than just copping to the fact that she doesn't like being called on her shit puts it over the top.