Nanny said charge was a PITA.

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Anonymous wrote:I adore my charge. I would throw myself in front of a bus if it would protect him, I shower him with hugs and kisses all day, and have never so much as raised my voice to him (well, aside from a loud and serious-voice "no!" when he was first learning to explore and wanted to play with power outlets) and I have, privately, referred to him as a jerk on rough days. Sometimes kids are jers. Sometimes grown-ups are too. It's just life. I don't think you should say anything at all because you have no idea of the context of her comment - maybe this was her first day back after two weeks with grandma and the girl's being more difficult as her schedule is disrupted. Maybe the comment was in reference to her MB ("omg she's being such a PITA, I'm not looking forward to naptime when I have to sit down with her and do blahblahblah."). As you said, you have ASSUMED it was about the little girl but have not offered any context to say so decisively. Keep your mouth shut and next time assume the BEST until given reason not to.

And before anyone starts calling me a terrible nanny, DC's mom - my MB - has called him a jerk to me herself. Obviously we both love him and it is just a way to let off steam occasionally.

Sorry, left off - so she wasn't interacting a lot with her charge. So what? The park is my chance to NOT interact because DC is distracted by the stimulation and doesn't need me to. Some days I am more hands-on than others, but that is certainly where I talk to him the least. He gets me 1:1 another 9 hours of the day, can we not just do our thing without your judgement? Completely OTT to tattle on her to her boss for absolutely nothing at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is PITA

It stands for Pain In The Ass

[Anonymous]

Haha. I hope the nannies who think OP needs to mind her business, have kids one day who get treated like crap and see then if they want someone who knows to stay quiet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Haha. I hope the nannies who think OP needs to mind her business, have kids one day who get treated like crap and see then if they want someone who knows to stay quiet.

I have reported a nanny before, for treating a child poorly. I also waited until I saw them together three times to make a judgment call, though.

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Anonymous wrote:Haha. I hope the nannies who think OP needs to mind her business, have kids one day who get treated like crap and see then if they want someone who knows to stay quiet.

OP saw this girl 1 time. She answered 1 call. There is nothing about OPs post that indicates a pattern of bad behavior whatsoever. If you ask me, OP thinks a lot of herself and is ego tripping over the fact that this girl is working a position that wasn't good enough for her ie. she thinks she's better than her, and is looking for ways to lord it over her.

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OP, she was probably calling you a PITA, not the child. Mind your own business!

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Anonymous wrote:OK as a mom who has had bad experiences with nannies in the past, I think you would be doing a great deed by talking with the parent. It's not just that she called her a "PITA" but personally it drives me crazy how nannies are constantly on the phone while they are supposed to be watching people's prized blessings (their kids). Nannies, if you are on this forum and frequently talk on your phone while watching the children, HANG UP! Talk on YOUR time, not when watching children. checking your phone constantly is going to have a bad ending one day.

UGH. OP you sound like a responsible person, do what you feel is best, but from a mom's perspective, I would appreciate your feedback if I was comfortable enough to offer you the job in the first place.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny and my charge and I were at the park. We bumped into this other nanny and I recognize her charge. Her charge, was a child that I was originally given the position to care for, but I turn the down. I was excited to see the little girl, to see how big she has gotten, I remember how tiny she was. I didn't introduce myself as the original candidate. I started small talk with her, I didn't see why surprising her the fact that she was their second choice was a good idea. We chatted here and there, I asked her questions about the little girl and how she likes the job. Before she could answer, her phone rang. I stepped away but was within an ear shot of her. I overheard her say to her friend, 'Omg. She's such a PITA. This is getting old and I'm not looking forward nap time'. I'm not sure who she was referring to, I'm going to assume it was the little girl. When I did interview, I was forewarned napping was something she just could not get comfortable with. She was a light sleeper and you had to hold her until she was asleep. The nanny ended the conversation and she kept checking her phone, while following he child around. She wasn't bad but she was not as attentive. She did play with her, but also kept checking her phone. The mom and I don't have any hard feelings towards each other. I don't talk to her, but don't see why I can't at least let her know she deserves a better nanny! Should I something?

For starters, you have no idea that she was the second choice in the way that they thought you were better. She might not have had contact and interviewed with them until after you had turned it down. That in no way means she is less than you, which is the way it sounds by how you worded things.

2, if you know that the child is basically a PITA when trying to get to nap by how the parents told you she was, then why would you be surprised to hear the nanny say this? That IS a child that is a PITA with napping. Having to be held, that is not something anyone wants to do. I would be very frustrated every day as well. That was also a private conversation and doesn't sound like anything that bad.

3, maybe she was checking her phone to make sure she didn't miss an important call or text? Maybe from the mom, maybe something was going on in her personal life that ONE DAY that you happened to see them? You keep going on about how they could have a better nanny, but you didn't really see or hear anything that shows this to me, definitely not something that was shown to be going on regularly.

4, you are NOT friends with the parents. You applied for a position, that you didn't end up taking. No where does that give you any claim on deciding what is good for that family and child, or that you should ever talk to the mother about anything that is not between the 2 of you (meaning not about another person, unless you saw her being completely negligent).

You seem to be thinking you are a lot closer to them all than you really are. Move on with your life and stay out of other people's business. You have no clue what was really going on and you would seem like a gossipy neighbor more than trying to be helpful.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Haha. I hope the nannies who think OP needs to mind her business, have kids one day who get treated like crap and see then if they want someone who knows to stay quiet.

OP saw this girl 1 time. She answered 1 call. There is nothing about OPs post that indicates a pattern of bad behavior whatsoever. If you ask me, OP thinks a lot of herself and is ego tripping over the fact that this girl is working a position that wasn't good enough for her ie. she thinks she's better than her, and is looking for ways to lord it over her.

You couldn't be further from the truth. I care about child and it has nothing to do with my own superiority! How do you exactly know why I declined? I never stated why, so presuming it was because I felt it wasn't good enough for me is crap. I care about he child, and WHY does she deserve a nanny who calls her a PITA with such sincerity?

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This is seriously just making me laugh. Kids are pains in the ass on many days ("PITA" pftt....get real) and even people who genuinely love them are more than entitled to express this sentiment once in a while. OP mind your own damn business, you met the kid and her parents maybe once or twice for an interview, it is no where near your place to interfere.

[Anonymous]

I would run into a burning building to save the kids I nanny for and most days they're driving me out of my mind.

[Anonymous]

I would drop a note to the mom. A nanny who calls her charge a PITA is not someone I would want taking care of my children.

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Anonymous wrote:I would drop a note to the mom. A nanny who calls her charge a PITA is not someone I would want taking care of my children.

Your kids must be the only ones in the world who are perfect then, because at some point, all kids (except yours of course) are "PITA's"

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would drop a note to the mom. A nanny who calls her charge a PITA is not someone I would want taking care of my children.

Your kids must be the only ones in the world who are perfect then, because at some point, all kids (except yours of course) are "PITA's"

My nannies don't use that term. They are professional, loving , and well-paid.

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Pp, don't be so naïve, they use that and worse terms, they just don't do it in front of you!