MB's would you be offended if nanny...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:9:51:

I am sorry, but I have to disagree w/you on this.
Unsolicited advice should never be given. IF a parent asks the nanny for advice, then by all means it should be dispensed.
However as a working nanny, my responsibilities lie in caring for the children and as long as I am not asked to do anything negligent or abusive, I am to perform the duties I am being paid to do. Enough said.

What's the difference between you and a sitter, in your opinion?

[Anonymous]

OP I have an ADHD 8 year old. At this point, the school would have pointed something out especially if he is displaying the hyperactive part of this. There aren't really child therapies, the behavioral approaches are more for the parent or care giver. Medication and school setting accommodation is pretty much the only thing at this age. The meds are not 24 hours. They usually wear off after school so you would see the same behavior. You also only do medication if the ADHD is affecting their life..ie can't do schoolwork, disrupting the class, difficulty making friends.

If I were you, I actually wouldn't say anything as you are the afternoon sitter (no offense, its just that the teachers have more observation time with the child then you do). You may want to ask about enrolling him in some after school activities and mention that he has enormous energy when he gets home. Physical activity and structure/routine is good for ADHD kids.

He also may not have ADHD and just have a lot of pent up energy. Kids do not get much outdoor time or physical activity at school. My non-ADHD kid also needs to go outside and run or do sports after school. For homework, try breaking it up into smaller pieces. School work is pretty easy and boring for most kids in this area so not being able to focus on it may not be ADHD either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I have an ADHD 8 year old. At this point, the school would have pointed something out especially if he is displaying the hyperactive part of this. There aren't really child therapies, the behavioral approaches are more for the parent or care giver. Medication and school setting accommodation is pretty much the only thing at this age. The meds are not 24 hours. They usually wear off after school so you would see the same behavior. You also only do medication if the ADHD is affecting their life..ie can't do schoolwork, disrupting the class, difficulty making friends.

If I were you, I actually wouldn't say anything as you are the afternoon sitter (no offense, its just that the teachers have more observation time with the child then you do). You may want to ask about enrolling him in some after school activities and mention that he has enormous energy when he gets home. Physical activity and structure/routine is good for ADHD kids.

He also may not have ADHD and just have a lot of pent up energy. Kids do not get much outdoor time or physical activity at school. My non-ADHD kid also needs to go outside and run or do sports after school. For homework, try breaking it up into smaller pieces. School work is pretty easy and boring for most kids in this area so not being able to focus on it may not be ADHD either.

OP here. When I was writing symptoms down, I had written a whole post with a lot more examples and things I've experienced with him. Sometimes my bowser on my freaking tablet just sorta reloads the page and I lose Everything I wrote!!! Happens quite often which actually prevents me from posting more often cause it is annoying! So I didn't write on second time around but Yes, teacher has complained a couple of times to parents regarding his behavior in class. Not only last parents conference was terrible, but mom and teacher also communicate via email often. I do not know to what extent these conversations have been but I do know mom is always threatening kid with "if I don't hear a good report from Ms. x next week then..." but it is always the same story. He is not paying attention, been disrespectful, not mindful of others opinions etc. To what mb always settles when kid says "I will (respect teacher etc...).

Now, PP, may I point out, in a civilized manner that yes, I do take offense when you say I'm "only the afternoon sitter". Fact of the matter is you don't know that to be true or false. I happen to first and foremost, be a NANNY, not a sitter and that's major difference. Second, I have been with them for 5+ years. I saw the younger, now 4, be born! Parents leave for work before kids are up and aside from when the 8 and 6 yo are in school, they are always with me. I'm what's their constant during weekdays in all aspects of their routines. Getting dressed, meals, baths, reading, outings, playdates, doctors appointments, getting material needed in school, practicing all they need to practice (part in a play, karate for belt test, soccer game? I'm there!!). I am the furthest thing from the afternoon sitter!!!