Nanny and stealing low cost items
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Anonymous
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Stealing is wrong, whether its a pen or a roll of toilet paper. Ask the nanny if she took it- and move on. Why would you want someone in your home that you can't trust?
-A nanny |
Anonymous
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You could ask her without accusing, "have you seen the toothpaste, tp, etc.?" If you're otherwise happy with her, give her the benefit of the doubt before firing her. If she knows you notice the missing items, she might stop stealing.
I'm a nanny, and purposely taking items to use at home is stealing. I've probably gone home with an employer's pen before. But I've probably left just as many of my own pens at work. I would never take a roll of TP home. |
Anonymous
Seriously? Then that's her problem, not her bosses' problem. Either she lives in the burbs and has a car so can drive to the store on her way home from work to pick up toiletries (supermarkets, drugstores and convenience stores ALL sell these items) or she can place a delivery order to have them delivered to her home, OR, as a very last resort, she could say, "Larla, I couldn't help but notice you have 7 tubes of toothpaste. As you know, I was quite ill last week and stupidly didn't plan ahead. Consequently, I've run out of toothpaste. Is there any way you could give me one of yours, and when I come back to work tomorrow, I'll arrive with minty-fresh breath and a new tube replacing the one you gave me tonight? Nothing like this will ever happen again." But really, you simply DO NOT just TAKE anything that does not belong to you without permission. It's just that simple. There are no extenuating circumstances here. |
Anonymous
+1 The pp was saying that like it's oh so normal and shouldn't be questioned. |
Anonymous
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Haha these responses are just so stupid.
OP, if you think your nanny took something like that, ask if she's seen the items and you should be able to tell by her face/tone of voice/etc. if she lies about it. If she DID take them, and you think that's all she has ever taken, then it's up to you to decide how much you like her and can still trust her. For me, it'd depend on the nature of what she said (if she confessed to taking them), how i trust her as a person overall, and how great of a nanny she is to my child. I wouldn't jump to firing her right away, but would consider it if the aforementioned factors weren't up to my satisfaction. |
Anonymous
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Yikes! What a tricky predicament OP!! You must feel so conflicted since it seems your daughter really loves this nanny.
First and foremost, make one hundred percent sure that there is no other viable way that these items could have disappeared. Do you have a cleaning lady? The reason I say this is because once you ask someone if they have taken anything from you, just know that the relationship will most likely be permanently damaged after that. Even if you ask tactfully, the person on the receiving end will feel like you are accusing them. If you come to the conclusion that your nanny did take these things, then you are in your right to fire her on the spot. It doesn't matter if she steals a roll of toilet paper from you or an expensive heirloom from you. It's all about principle here. Stealing is stealing and it is wrong to steal. It would show a side of this nanny's true colors that could be a red flag of things to come later on. I am so sorry that your daughter will have to re-adjust to another nanny, but to keep your daughter in the care of someone who steals would just be plain irresponsible. |
Anonymous
| I posted in the "nannies what have you stolen" thread that I took a ziplock bag and got mocked. I suspect if I'd said I took a roll of toilet paper the response would have been the same. OP just ask her. |
Anonymous
| Ask her!! Act dumbfounded as to where said items are and how they could have been used so quickly. If she's taking stuff thinking you won't notice, let her know you do notice! The only things nannies should take with out telling you are tampons every once in awhile! |
Anonymous
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Toilet paper is more tricky- I know a nanny who uses nearly a roll/day at home- I'm sure she would go through it fast at work too
Toothpaste is different. I don't think you have any good solutions to this problem. I hate thieves. :/ it's not about what is taken or the value of it- it's about the loss of trust!! |
Anonymous
| I would definitely ask about the toothpaste, but probably not the tp since it could have been used legitimately. It would definitely concern me that she didn't ask before she took it. My MBs have been generous and insisted that I never need to ask for things like tampons, but on the one or two occasions that I have used something I made sure I told my MB and thanked her. |
Anonymous
It depends. If I sent a text to ask my employer if I could get a ziplock bag, knowing them, they would probably roll their eyes. Roll of toilet paper and tube of toothpaste - yeah, they would notice. |
Anonymous
| Just do the test,like put one money inside de trash can,if she's take it and doesn't say anything,she is the one.gotona. |
Anonymous
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I can't say anything about the toilet paper as I know I used a whole roll one day because of a stomach bug. I also know I spread toilet paper out through out the house where I work in the different bathrooms so if my boss was to look in the basement where they keep it she would assume I was stealing too.
Toothpaste is hard to say where it went. Since you don't have kids that are old enough to use it then it probably did walk off but to where. Ask her if you are really upset about it. |
Anonymous
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I just coming from my vacation,my boss just give me a call and say ,we don't
Need you anymore, their even give me a chance to say good bye to the kids,I wondering what guys think about that.thanks. |
Anonymous
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Toilet paper I can see being used quickly, as when then nanny is working in your home all day, she can end up using more than you might think. Especially if it is her time of the month, I go through much more during those few days that I would normally like to. You don't use nearly as much when you work out of the home and are gone most of the day. Also, you have 2 bathrooms so maybe they were just both running low and needed to have TP replaced? I know around here, the toddler constantly has a running nose (we are unsure of why, the doctor says she is just a snotty kid, hah). So we always have one or 2 rolls laying around to use for wiping her nose, and one gets put into the car as well.
Toothpaste on the other hand, I can't come up with any explanation about that. |