Am I overreacting, or INSANE for staying?

[Anonymous]

The issues I see are them not paying for extra time, the kid hitting you and anger problems, and parents not following through with discipline. Can you talk to her about these issues.

Honestly, the heating up food, outside play, bath, and homework help doesn't seem all that bad, but if you are just there for a few hours a day, I could totally see how in a short span of time that would be a lot of work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
All these people are nuts. I wouldn't be happy and I don't blame you for not being happy either! But this board seems full of drones who like being slaves.


Oh dear, I thought you'd moved on...


I've never posted about being treated like a slave before so no I'm not who you're thinking of.

Right.

It's hard to believe there is more than one fool who equates nannying with slavery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The issues I see are them not paying for extra time, the kid hitting you and anger problems, and parents not following through with discipline. Can you talk to her about these issues.

Honestly, the heating up food, outside play, bath, and homework help doesn't seem all that bad, but if you are just there for a few hours a day, I could totally see how in a short span of time that would be a lot of work.

Okay. Thanks for clarifying. And just so I'm straight, you're saying that those of us who don't think all of these issues - aside from not being paid for all the hours - are actually problems are "drones who like being slaves?"

Kids hit. Then they experience consequences. This is how they learn not to hit. It's a problem if the kid is 12, it's kind of expected if the kid is 5. Hence why OP should have informed us of their ages. Let us be clear that it is not the same as being beaten the way slaves were.

Parents shouldn't need to follow through with separate discipline - the nanny should have her own system in place for the hours she's there. Whether this is a behavior chart, a special privilege that can be taken away, or simple time-outs, she shouldn't need the parents to impose punishments for the kids' behavior while she's there. This undermines the nanny's authority the same way that "Wait until your father gets home!" makes mom a doormat. IF a nanny and her employers can work together to enforce discipline, that's great and ideal, but it is not necessary. Explain to me how this equates to drone-ness or slavery?

Let's say OP is there from 3:30pm until 7pm. 3:30-4:30 = outside play, 4:30-5:30 = homework help, 5:30-6:00 = dinner, 6:00-7:00 = bath, pjs, playtime. That is a busy 3.5 hours but that is WHAT SHE IS PAID TO DO. I fail to see, again, how thinking this is reasonable makes me happy to "be a slave."

[Anonymous]

OP if you're unhappy you need to have a sit down and explain your frustrations, or find another job. If you refuse to do either then you need to suck it up. Sorry to put it so blatenly.

Alot of people tend to be passive-aggressive and go online to vent their frustration in a way to cool down for a bit. But the frustration will continue until actions are taken.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The issues I see are them not paying for extra time, the kid hitting you and anger problems, and parents not following through with discipline. Can you talk to her about these issues.

Honestly, the heating up food, outside play, bath, and homework help doesn't seem all that bad, but if you are just there for a few hours a day, I could totally see how in a short span of time that would be a lot of work.

Okay. Thanks for clarifying. And just so I'm straight, you're saying that those of us who don't think all of these issues - aside from not being paid for all the hours - are actually problems are "drones who like being slaves?"

Kids hit. Then they experience consequences. This is how they learn not to hit. It's a problem if the kid is 12, it's kind of expected if the kid is 5. Hence why OP should have informed us of their ages. Let us be clear that it is not the same as being beaten the way slaves were.

Parents shouldn't need to follow through with separate discipline - the nanny should have her own system in place for the hours she's there. Whether this is a behavior chart, a special privilege that can be taken away, or simple time-outs, she shouldn't need the parents to impose punishments for the kids' behavior while she's there. This undermines the nanny's authority the same way that "Wait until your father gets home!" makes mom a doormat. IF a nanny and her employers can work together to enforce discipline, that's great and ideal, but it is not necessary. Explain to me how this equates to drone-ness or slavery?

Let's say OP is there from 3:30pm until 7pm. 3:30-4:30 = outside play, 4:30-5:30 = homework help, 5:30-6:00 = dinner, 6:00-7:00 = bath, pjs, playtime. That is a busy 3.5 hours but that is WHAT SHE IS PAID TO DO. I fail to see, again, how thinking this is reasonable makes me happy to "be a slave."

That was my first post on the thread...and as you can see, I never metioned anything about slavery in it. As far as discipline, I didn't mean separate discipline by the parents, but that it seem that while the OP tries to discipline the kids, they might not be accepting it because the parents aren't disciplining when the parents are home.

[Anonymous]

I don't think I would be ok with this either. However, at the end of the first week I would've sat down and said Due to the amount of time it takes me to help John with his homework I am unable to complete all the house hold tasks you have asked me to. Would you prefer me to drop a task or two, or would you like me to take half an hour while the kids are outside to do those tasks (ie exchange time spent playing with the kids in order to complete tasks). I would ask if there is anything I could do better and would maybe take note of the specific way MB wants things done. I wouldn't be happy about being texted/ called late or early about something that could wait untill later in the day and I would expect to be paid for the time i was there

You as the OP have two choices. Sit down and have a chat about whats going on. Ask about the stuff thats troubling you. Ask how the MB wants things done - ask if she wants you pay for you to stay later to finish jobs/ do less/ spend less time with the kids ect. Say she doesn't seem interested does she just want the important info, ask for a specific work calendar, ect, ask how she wants you to discipline said child. If things are covered to your satisfaction great stay on in a better work environment, otherwise find a new job (where you clarify these things before you start) give some notice and leave.

[Anonymous]

Do you have a contract?

[Anonymous]

Geez people...it seems in every other posting, someone accuses the OP of repeating herself over and over.

Did it ever occur to you guys that some of these issues are common in the nanny profession?
I am quite new on this blog and am so surprised by all the negativity on this blog.

I live in CA and cannot believe the people of D.C. can be this rude.
Where I come from, we stay classy.

Anyway, there are some nice people on here so I don't want to seem like I am bashing D.C. because I am not.

And for those that state I shouldn't be visiting this website if I am on the West Coast, I disagree.
As an internet subscriber, I do not see anything listed in my "Terms + Conditions" that states I must only visit local websites.