Nanny quit and now does not want to leave...communication issues
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Anonymous
+10000 If you absolutely can't afford an emergency back-up nanny through an agency (and that is expensive) then make sure you do NOT let on that you'll be letting her go until the day comes to do it. Have DH there, ask for the keys back, and send her (nicely) on her way. You don't need to tell the 3yo any stories about her being sick in the head, but you SHOULD tell her not to go with the nanny as she doesn't work for you anymore. And if you don't already have a code work for pick-ups (that is, if someone comes to school and tells your daughter "Mommy sent me to come get you" they should also have a codeword - pet name, favorite color, something easy for your DD to remember - that they can say to let her know they can be trusted) institute one now and make it absolutely clear that unless someone know it, she is to stay with her teacher... just so there is no way your ex-nanny would be able to convince her to come with her. |
Anonymous
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If I was 3.5, I wouldn't want to go home with this lunatic either.
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Anonymous
| No healthy grown woman would take offensive to ANYTHING a 3 yr old says or does. She seems to view your daughter as an opponent or a peer by having her feeling so easily hurt by her. What kind of childish mentality is that? |
Anonymous
| I feel so sorry for these kids. |
Anonymous
I do not think this is fair, OP realized that something is off with he nanny, asked for advice and is going to let the nanny go. the nanny seems to be having some kind of mental problems. these problems can arise with time and it is not that easy to spot them right away, is not that a person one day shows up to work with a big red sign on her forehead "I am getting paranoid". OP is right in not taking chances, I am not sure what you get by trying to make her feel worse than she already feels |
Anonymous
| OP any updates? |