I gave notice, worried about the reaction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was right to be nervous about the reaction. They are letting me go before my notice is up.

What happened? What did they say? Sorry to hear that. Will you get severance?

[Anonymous]

To all the MBs who go on about the bitter entitled nannies on this site: take note! It is situations like this that take a good considerate nanny and turn her into a bitter (because she tried to be professional and got burned) and entitled ( because she feels she has to protect herself and will never be treated well) nanny. We are people, equal to yourselves, and free to move on as we see fit. We are not your indentured servant there to take orders until it no longer pleases you.

[Anonymous]

Another nanny taken advantage of.....

I am sorry.

[Anonymous]

The nanny was with the family for five years.
I can't tell you all how disturbing this is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To all the MBs who go on about the bitter entitled nannies on this site: take note! It is situations like this that take a good considerate nanny and turn her into a bitter (because she tried to be professional and got burned) and entitled ( because she feels she has to protect herself and will never be treated well) nanny. We are people, equal to yourselves, and free to move on as we see fit. We are not your indentured servant there to take orders until it no longer pleases you.

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I wonder about these same MBs who rave on about how little oversight there is for nannies and therefore nanny cams are essential or reasonable (which I should note I don't disagree with - I am a pro-cam nanny), but seem not to recognize that no one is holding them accountable either. Even managers have managers, or company policies, to keep them in line, while nanny employers can get away with all kinds of bad behavior because the nanny has no coworkers to consult with, no upper management to take her issues to, and no company policy that she can rely on to stand up for her.

Which is why I consistently advocate for hiring a great nanny, paying her a living wage, and remembering that you are both people. Hopefully good people, but people nonetheless, and you should be working every day to build a human, understanding, supportive relationship together. This means nannies don't get worked up if MB leaves her breakfast dishes on the counter and MB appreciates that her nanny cannot automatically stay late without notice, and so on. But never mind me, I'll just be over here, dreaming of the day.

OP, I'm very sorry it's ending this way for you. I hope when a few weeks have passed you can send a little card to your MB and that she will receive it well and won't harbor this hostility for long.

[Anonymous]

Why are you leaving, OP? That might shed some light on their reaction.

[Anonymous]

You think the mum needs to approve her reason for leaving, after 5 years??? Are you serious, woman?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You think the mum needs to approve her reason for leaving, after 5 years??? Are you serious, woman?

No, but it would give us an idea how the MB's mind works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was right to be nervous about the reaction. They are letting me go before my notice is up.

That sucks, OP. I'm sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you leaving, OP? That might shed some light on their reaction.

I'm leaving to start my own business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To all the MBs who go on about the bitter entitled nannies on this site: take note! It is situations like this that take a good considerate nanny and turn her into a bitter (because she tried to be professional and got burned) and entitled ( because she feels she has to protect herself and will never be treated well) nanny. We are people, equal to yourselves, and free to move on as we see fit. We are not your indentured servant there to take orders until it no longer pleases you.

[Anonymous]

What awful people! They're threatening to take away your accrued leave because you've given (ample!) notice? Awful, just awful. I'm so sorry OP.

I think you went above and beyond, honestly. The fact that basically found your own replacment for the afternoons is great - when I'm happy with a nanny, I always ask if she has a trusted sister when I need back-up, because so much of caring for children is based on your family/culture/up-bringing. So if you've made this family happy for the last five years, surely the friend you trust is a good option - worth interviewing, at the very least.

I think this family is awful and I hope you're moving on to greater and better things.

[Anonymous]

Even though it's an old thread, nannies still encounter this persistent problem.

What to do??

[Anonymous]

Never, but NEVER, give more notice than pay you can afford to lose. NEVER let them get away without paying you. No pay, you don't work. Simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you leaving, OP? That might shed some light on their reaction.

It shouldn't. People can leave a job for any reason they see as important. It's their choice. The employers are still expected to act professionally in response.