Dw is rude to our teen sitter

[Anonymous]

Get a new babysitter. It is not worth risking your marriage. Clearly this person has struck some sort of cord- your wife is jealous of her and you are attracted to her. Your kids will get over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:and you^ are a jerk.

Yeah, to trolls; I make a point of being polite to everyone else.

[Anonymous]

Can we just pause for a second and address the fact that if OP did get into a relationship with his sitter. ... that doesnt make him a "perv". Pervs are people who like children... not teen girls that have bodies of women, but little 5 and 7 year olds.

Just think about that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can we just pause for a second and address the fact that if OP did get into a relationship with his sitter. ... that doesnt make him a "perv" Pervs are people who like children... not teen girls that have bodies of women, but little 5 and 7 year olds.

Just think about that.

Right. Because having sex with underage girls is perfectly legal.

WTH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can we just pause for a second and address the fact that if OP did get into a relationship with his sitter. ... that doesnt make him a "perv". Pervs are people who like children... not teen girls that have bodies of women, but little 5 and 7 year olds.

Just think about that.

Um, yes it does. She is under 18. It is against the law. If he were to have sex with her, that would be statutory rape. If it would be statutory rape even with her consent, then you can say that makes him a perv if he follows through with a relationship. I agree that with the way some girls look these days, it can be hard to not be attracted to them, BUT the difference between being attracted and not doing anything about it or following through with your attraction to the next level (dating) can be perverted...

per·vert·ed
/p?r?v?rtid/
Adjective
(of a person or their actions) Characterized by sexually abnormal and unacceptable practices or tendencies.

It is unacceptable for people over 18 to have sex with people under 18. I wouldn't say that a year or 2 difference in age make a huge difference, but many years difference for someone that wants to get it on with their underage babysitter, then definitely yes. There are plenty of other people for the person to find, and just because you are attracted to someone, doesn't mean that you need to act on it.

[Anonymous]

Op here, I am 46 and I do not necessarily want to sleep with her. However I do think that I feel more towards her than my wife

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here, I am 46 and I do not necessarily want to sleep with her. However I do think that I feel more towards her than my wife

tell your wife. You need to tell her what was written in the OP.

[Anonymous]

Sorry but this post sounds more like you are the sitter than the parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't usually do this, but...

TROLL.

Go away, please.

Not trolling, I promise. I thought about posting here for a while because I knew that people would flame me as a troll.

You are a troll and anyone with sense can see that. This self-defense claim is written in perfect English while your other posts sound mysteriously like a 5th grader wrote them. Oh, you're on your phone? BS. Go away. Go bang your sitter or ignore your wife or whatever you want to do.

OMG you people who always accuse OP's of being trolls are so paranoid/weird. Why do you think everyone is a troll? I know there are some people who makeup questions but those questions are usually obvious, even if just a little.
Calling everybody a troll and actually believing your assumptions shows that you are the one without sense. Go take your daily meds because your paranoia is in full force today. OP's question isn't even far out there. Yeah maybe it's a troll but then again, I don't think people are going to sit on DCUM making these questions up. It sounds completely plausible.

OP is sick of his old, beat-up looking, jealous, insecure, wife and wants his hot young, confident, kind, babysitter. OP's wife thinks bragging about money and talking negative about the babysitter is making her look good but the truth is, it's doing the absolute opposite and it's making the babysitter look better.

OP please just ignore the troll comments. Don't even try to prove yourself because certain people will interrogate you. Just focus on the ones offering advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can we just pause for a second and address the fact that if OP did get into a relationship with his sitter. ... that doesnt make him a "perv". Pervs are people who like children... not teen girls that have bodies of women, but little 5 and 7 year olds.

Just think about that.

No, I think you're thinking of 'pedofiles' -- Pedofiles are sexually attracted to young children.. Perverts can be perverted towards woman of any age. Just want to clarify that one.

[Anonymous]

but what makes someone a pervert then? just being attracted to a woman?

I think that OP is not a troll and that the wife is being certainly obnoxious. OP should simply tell his wife that she is acting like she is 8 years old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here, I am 46 and I do not necessarily want to sleep with her. However I do think that I feel more towards her than my wife

Well if you feel more towards her than your wife, and yet you don't want to sleep with her, then I think that means you should be leaving your wife. If you don't feel that attracted to your own wife, then you have more serious problems than your wife being rude to the teen sitter...

[Anonymous]

DCUM: Where everybody's a marriage therapist.

Also, the age of consent in DC and MD is 16 while it's 18 in VA, so not necessarily illegal.

[Anonymous]

I don't think the OP is attracted to to sitter in a sexual way. I read it as she is more mature acting than his wife so he admirals that in her.

Anyhow she's working like 20 hours a week. Teenagers have disposable cash. So she buys what she wants. I did to as a teen.

As far as your wife goes. Tell her to grow up. Tell her her actions are a big turn off. But make sure she knows how you feel about her

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry but this post sounds more like you are the sitter than the parent.

This is what I think, too. This sounds like 17-year-old self-aggrandizement/wishful thinking and a crush on DB.