Rush at UVA
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Anonymous
| There is no more Rush at UVA or anywhere else. Neal Peart is dead and they won't tour without him. |
Anonymous
ba-dum ching |
Anonymous
That may be the case at UVA, but it is not true at all schools. At my daughter’s college, they post the data after rush each year. Last year 7 girls didn’t get bids. The previous year, it was 17. |
Anonymous
Oh, and you can also get completely dropped from recruitment any night of the week. That is actually quite common and happens just because you weren’t invited back by the sororities you picked. Many girls don’t even get invites to the next round. It’s not the safe and comfy process you make it out to be |
Anonymous
My daughter is a 3rd year at UVA and this describes her and her sorority rush experience 2 years ago perfectly. |
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Ok. I feel like many people here don’t know rush works. In a nutshell there are several days of parties/events. After each day, the girl ranks which houses they want to go back to and the sorority ranks which girls they want back. The computer generates a list of parties/events for day 2, and as each day goes by, the girl gets a shorter list each day of which parties/events she is attending the next day until there are only 2 or 3 left. The following day she will most likely receive a bid to join on of those 2-3 remaining.
On any given day, the possibility exists that the girl does not get invited back to any sororities and is dropped out of the process. This is the harsh reality, feels like rejection by thousands of girls, and often leaves a girl wondering what’s next and having to adjust her mindset for what her social life at college will look like. I can see how it could be upsetting for most, and girls need to go into the process prepares for any outcome. It is presented as though the girl is selecting a sorority, but the sororities are actually doing 95% of the selection and they have the final say. I would never have put myself through this process, and presented myself to be judged, but my daughter is determined and I hope she is as prepared for any possible outcome as she says she is. |
Anonymous
| I do remember one girl who was cut everywhere. It was hard to watch. She was plain and shy—very smart and kind though—and she took it better than I would have!!! |
Anonymous
I do think schools and organizations are trying to make the process better. Trying to figure out how to keep the good parts of sorority recruitment and minimizing the hurtful parts. For example changing the rules at uva so you can’t go all the way to the end and go bidless after prefs. And I’ve heard some schools don’t allow a girl to get dropped everywhere. Fine line though letting girls select their members vs being inclusive. |
Anonymous
Wow--this is a heck of a process for young women who are at an age where they care deeply about what others think of them and are away from home for the first time! At least it is in January and not the first week of school! |
Anonymous
Can you read? I said "any young woman who COMPLETES the recruitment process." Potential new members are dropped for a variety of reasons, but to get dropped by every group, you have to have 1) bad grades or 2)bad morals or 3) a mean, mean personality. If you're not dumb or a total slut or a total bitch, you will be fine. Ordinary potential new members will get a bid. |
Anonymous
| My 1980s memories: either I got dropped, or I got so stoned I forgot to attend some parties. I think I am repressing something. |
Anonymous
+1. AS at least five posters have noted, the situation at UVA has changed. You can pledge a house if you want to. That being said, it is possible to go all four years at UVA and never once step inside a frat or sorority house, which my fourth year DS did. Greek life is what you want to make it at UVA. He was never interested and other than the few drunks at the Corner on Friday night, he had nothing to do with the Greek houses for all four years. He created a very wonderful social life from clubs and other volunteer societies. |
Anonymous
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To be fair, most schools guarantee a spot to any girl who completes formal recruitment and follows all the rules (no skipping parties/events, no “suiciding,” etc.) BUT not all schools have this guarantee.
The sororities want new members. That’s how they make money, and the houses have to have a certain number of active members to remain on campus. I guess I could imagine a situation where hundreds more PNM’s go through formal recruitment than the college was expecting and they have to cut some people as a result? |
Anonymous
Nnnoooooo! Such a bummer. |