Anonymous wrote:Summer - midnight bedtime, wake at 11am

School - 10pm bedtime, wake 6:30-7
weekends midnight bedtime, wake... depends on sports/activities

Anonymous wrote:To the OP: My kids are expected to be able to set their own sleep schedules and to function normally without any help from me. My adult sons have had no problem on their jobs (all of them live far from me) and my teenage kids also have no problems at school because of their personal set schedules (my 17 yr old just moved in with an older brother and his family, so is also very far away). I am dying, and I do not know how long I have left, plus I had a close call last year. My kids MUST learn to navigate on their own. Life is tough, so I raise competent men and women.

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Anonymous wrote:You have to begin allowing your teen to regulate their own sleep patterns. If she doesn't get enough sleep on a school night at age 14+, let her learn from it before she goes to college in a few years. You can suggest she get some sleep, but enforcing a bedtime for a 15-year-old is something no parent should be doing anymore. Do you cut her meat, too?

Honest question: what's the benefit of her having four years to regulate her own schedule before college, over, say, one year? Or one summer? Conversely, why shouldn't 10-year-olds be regulating their own sleep, or 6-year-olds?

Dp. You are being dishonest if you don't think there is adifference in age between a 6 year old and a 10 year old or a 10 year old and a 14 year old or a 14 and an 18 year old.

You can't treat a six year old the same as a ten year old or a 14 with an 18 year old. The idea is you give the tools of what works than when they are older and you loosen the rules they know what they should do. Not many six year olds know this and that is why you enforce good eating habits, bedtime. Homework and exercise and limit the social media and screens.

But, you knew that right, pp?

Anonymous wrote:DD is 15.5 (going into 10th grade).

Phone away, devices and screens off by 7:30pm. Showers at 9, bedtime 9:30ish.

During the summer it shifts later but by no more than 30 min (so bedtime by 10).

Critical for mental and physical health.

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Anonymous wrote:DD is 15.5 (going into 10th grade).

Phone away, devices and screens off by 7:30pm. Showers at 9, bedtime 9:30ish.

During the summer it shifts later but by no more than 30 min (so bedtime by 10).

Critical for mental and physical health.

Phone away, devices and screens off by 7:30pm.

Does that mean she doesn't need a computer to do her homework? Or does she do it before 7:30 pm? Or does the rule not apply to academic screen use?

People live so differently. I know a lot of teenagers and none of them has a schedule like this. (Are group projects ever a problem?)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD is 15.5 (going into 10th grade).

Phone away, devices and screens off by 7:30pm. Showers at 9, bedtime 9:30ish.

During the summer it shifts later but by no more than 30 min (so bedtime by 10).

Critical for mental and physical health.

Phone away, devices and screens off by 7:30pm.

Does that mean she doesn't need a computer to do her homework? Or does she do it before 7:30 pm? Or does the rule not apply to academic screen use?

People live so differently. I know a lot of teenagers and none of them has a schedule like this. (Are group projects ever a problem?)

We're had a very similar plan with our 15-year old DD. DD likes getting 8 hours of sleep. There's an occassional reason to stay up later for academic reasons (maybe 4 times in 9th grade). We'll see what's needed in 10th grade.