Attracting age appropriate men

Anonymous
Enjoy those younger men, OP. You are not missing anything with the older guys.
Anonymous
Science says the average age Gap is about two years in people's 20s and 5 years by late 40s. If you ran the trend line it's probably 7 years by mid 50s to 60. So it's not likely that all these men in their 50s are dating 20 year olds unless they are rich. But it does give a clue that the average late 40s woman is dating a mid 50s man. On average.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/fivethirtyeight.com/features/whats-the-average-age-difference-in-a-couple/amp/
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Anonymous wrote:Science says the average age Gap is about two years in people's 20s and 5 years by late 40s. If you ran the trend line it's probably 7 years by mid 50s to 60. So it's not likely that all these men in their 50s are dating 20 year olds unless they are rich. But it does give a clue that the average late 40s woman is dating a mid 50s man. On average.


That survey is not relevant because it is distorted by people who are still married - first marriages usually have a small age gap.

The age gap of divorced men who remarry is larger than in first marriages.

http://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2014/12/04/tying-the-knot-again-chances-are-theres-a-bigger-age-gap-than-the-first-time-around/

Some 20% of men who are newly remarried have a wife who is at least 10 years their junior, and another 18% married a woman who is 6-9 years younger. By comparison, just 5% of newlywed men in their first marriage have a spouse who is 10 years younger, and 10% married a woman who is 6-9 years younger.
Anonymous
It always gives me pause how really, really important it is to some people to make women feel bad about themselves.

I can tell you I am absolutely certain that there are a lot of women much happier not having those individuals in their lives, so I guess it all works out.
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Anonymous wrote:This is not a terrible problem to have, but I’ve always looked younger than my age. I’m 48 but the men who ask me out are usually mid thirties. I would like to be asked out by the 45-55 set but they aren’t the ones who ask me out. I’m in a profession where there are a lot of younger people so that’s who I tend to meet.


If older men aren't asking you out... it could be that you don't look as young as you think you do.


Your comment makes no sense. She must be reasonably attractive or she wouldn’t be getting asked out at all, especially if she doesn’t do online dating.


She could be attractive for 48, but the fact remains, men age 45 to 55 do not want 48. They probably just divorced 48, and now they want younger.


It doesn't matter what they "want" -- the vast majority 30-something women don't want to date 45-55 yr old men. I've always been much more open-minded about age than my friends, and even I drew the line at 10 years older.


It does matter what they want, because it means they are much less likely to date the OP.

And nobody, least of all a man age 45 to 55, cares what kind of woman you think a man of that age should date.


^^This goes the same for women. WGAF who you date, how old, and what kind of man you date--as long as you are into each other.
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OP, I would stick with the younger guys. There is a sharp decline in, um, performance among the age range you seek.


Or men should stick with younger women as there is a sharp decline in, um, attractiveness in the age range noted.

It might be that the decline in performance is related to older women's decline in attractiveness.


I think you’re right. Why should women maintain themselves if all they get at the end of the day is substandard? Is that why women decide to cut their hair short and go full frump?



No, they go full frump because they like it.
Anonymous
Poor you looking younger than your age and having younger men attracted to you. That really sucks. We all have our crosses I'm sorry yours is do rough.
Anonymous
I am in the same boat as you. I attract men at least five to ten years younger than me... I was called out on OKCupid for having a narrow age range 40-45 on my profile. I know I look younger than my age from a whole range of people.
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Anonymous wrote:I am in the same boat as you. I attract men at least five to ten years younger than me... I was called out on OKCupid for having a narrow age range 40-45 on my profile. I know I look younger than my age from a whole range of people.


FYI I was 44 at the time. The younger men said I was too restrictive.
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Anonymous wrote:It always gives me pause how really, really important it is to some people to make women feel bad about themselves.

I can tell you I am absolutely certain that there are a lot of women much happier not having those individuals in their lives, so I guess it all works out.


Yes, and it is amazing that almost no one actually answered the question, which was where to meet men 45-55. I guess no one knows the answer, or it was just more important to make her feel bad when she formerly fe!t good.

Unfortunately the internet is increasingly a toilet, where everyone gets to dump...
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Anonymous wrote:Science says the average age Gap is about two years in people's 20s and 5 years by late 40s. If you ran the trend line it's probably 7 years by mid 50s to 60. So it's not likely that all these men in their 50s are dating 20 year olds unless they are rich. But it does give a clue that the average late 40s woman is dating a mid 50s man. On average.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/fivethirtyeight.com/features/whats-the-average-age-difference-in-a-couple/amp/


This tracks for me. I am 48 and my SO is 54.
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Anonymous wrote:This is not a terrible problem to have, but I’ve always looked younger than my age. I’m 48 but the men who ask me out are usually mid thirties. I would like to be asked out by the 45-55 set but they aren’t the ones who ask me out. I’m in a profession where there are a lot of younger people so that’s who I tend to meet.


If older men aren't asking you out... it could be that you don't look as young as you think you do.


Your comment makes no sense. She must be reasonably attractive or she wouldn’t be getting asked out at all, especially if she doesn’t do online dating.


She could be attractive for 48, but the fact remains, men age 45 to 55 do not want 48. They probably just divorced 48, and now they want younger.



PP - I beg to differ as I’m 52, widowed and 45-50 y.o. ladies are in my “wheel-house”... Not all of us are looking really young types...

Lonely_Sojourner
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Anonymous wrote:It always gives me pause how really, really important it is to some people to make women feel bad about themselves.

I can tell you I am absolutely certain that there are a lot of women much happier not having those individuals in their lives, so I guess it all works out.


Yes, and it is amazing that almost no one actually answered the question, which was where to meet men 45-55. I guess no one knows the answer, or it was just more important to make her feel bad when she formerly fe!t good.

Unfortunately the internet is increasingly a toilet, where everyone gets to dump...


OP - Perhaps you could share a bit about yourself (interests, hobbies, etc) as that would assist us with your dilemma...

L_S
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Anonymous wrote:It always gives me pause how really, really important it is to some people to make women feel bad about themselves.

I can tell you I am absolutely certain that there are a lot of women much happier not having those individuals in their lives, so I guess it all works out.


Yes, and it is amazing that almost no one actually answered the question, which was where to meet men 45-55. I guess no one knows the answer, or it was just more important to make her feel bad when she formerly fe!t good.


I am at my gym every weekday morning from 6 to 730. Come and talk to me, I won't mind.
Anonymous
Try wearing more conservative clothing and makeup and see what happens.


Or, try doing the opposite of that. Stand out.
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