OP here - I am 100% a worrier and I dealt with a nasty bout of postpartum anxiety - which is why[i] I asked if I was being overly worried. I know that she will survive if they watch her, but I'd also like her to be as happy as she can be if we aren't there. We also worked hard to have a good sleeper, and I am also (selfishly I suppose?) worried that we'll come home to a baby who no longer takes naps or STTN. I've been in that awful sleep deprived place and do not want to go back. I'm trying to get a gauge on the reasonableness of my position. |
I wouldn't leave a one year old for a week with anyone. Much less someone I didn't trust. This trip will be a disaster, OP. Don't do it. |
She'll be happy, OP. Honestly. She'll probably not even notice you're gone. She'll have special time with her grandparents, and in the end this will improve your relationship with them. It's a win win.
(Note to other posters: told you so . . .) |
Nope. Cancel the trip—or DH stays home and you go.
Not worth the worry and stress. At the end of the day, they don’t respect you and your DH—and they will likely make some stupid safety decisions because “well we did it this way and it was ok.” Nope. |
NP when you post for or against something in multiple posts it gives the illusion that there are numerous people who feel the same way. I feel like it's bullying when someone posts against the poster over and over again in several posts on the same page. It's anonymous so it looks like you're more than one person instead of one person who just keeps posting against the poster. |
LOL. The baby is in day care all day! |
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Did you read the OPs post? The inlaws don't want the baby in daycare. |
There are at least two of us, I assure you . . . I'm trying to help, not validate anxious feelings. |
NP here - when you say they are older, do you mean over 70? That will inform my opinion. |
So instead of leaving her with people she knows and dealing with an altered schedule you'd rather leave her with a total stranger (babysitter or nanny)? THAT makes no sense. |
I have had others care for her and have relaxed. I leave her in daycare everyday! She's been with my mother, a doula, and sitters. It is specifically the length of time and the caretakers that worry me. And goodness - yes I AM an anxious person! I'm not trying to say that I'm not. But anxiety doesn't make everything you think automatically unreasonable. I work hard to try and sort out what is anxiety and what is valid parental concern. I just feel that this trip would be better for everyone if DD was in daycare during the week. I would love to cancel, but my sister is getting married. DH wants to come on the international trip and he is part of the family. I think our marriage will benefit from the alone time. |
This matters. DH and I are 50. My grandkids are 2 years old and 7 months old. I'm easily able to care for them. I'm not sure I could do it at 70. |
No she'd be in daycare for presumably 8 hours a day still and being in her own home, her own crib with her own toys. I have left my DD with my parents when she was 1 and I wouldn't have wanted them taking her on a trip out of state. For one, if something happens, it's a different pediatrician. OP you also need to sign a medical waiver to give your inlaws permission to take her and treat her in case of emergency. |
Yes, they are over 70. |