sister is giving me an aneurysm

Anonymous
As someone posted I would ask my sister to provide snacks and drinks. However I would be happy to have people over for such joyful holiday.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Leave it as it is, don't buy any more food or anything else. Let your sister and family know that she is responsible for food for HER guests, since she decided to invite them.


+1. I think uninviting people at this point would be acceptable, but too dramatic for me. Reiterate to your sister that you already said no to inviting these people, therefore, she has to accommodate them. And if/when she does it again, you can uninvite.

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP here,

I would cancel but that would impact the rest of the family. Plans have already been made. I called my sister and said if she did not contact her uninvited friends by 5 pm today I would call them myself and make sure she is embarrassed beyond words. She said if I did not relent she would not come. I asked her who in the hell she thought she was and told her that would be fine with me. I told her she was so out of line going against my wishes and the most inconsiderate person I have ever met. She said I was haughty (who uses that word?) and needed Jesus in my life.

I told her to cut the shit. She is the one that acts all superior when in reality she is just a hypocrite and I proceeded to name a few instances where she acted very unchristlike, I asked her what her church friends would think?

She told me good luck throwing together an easter egg hunt on short notice. I told her not to worry. I will buy those plastic eggs and stick them full of candy. At the end of the day that is all the kids cared about. She might slave for hours decorating eggs but I sure won't. I hung up on her.


Good for you. Seriously, I would have said the same thing. Easter is my favorite holiday and it’s definitely not about hosting people you don’t like for an egg hunt.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP here,

I would cancel but that would impact the rest of the family. Plans have already been made. I called my sister and said if she did not contact her uninvited friends by 5 pm today I would call them myself and make sure she is embarrassed beyond words. She said if I did not relent she would not come. I asked her who in the hell she thought she was and told her that would be fine with me. I told her she was so out of line going against my wishes and the most inconsiderate person I have ever met. She said I was haughty (who uses that word?) and needed Jesus in my life.

I told her to cut the shit. She is the one that acts all superior when in reality she is just a hypocrite and I proceeded to name a few instances where she acted very unchristlike, I asked her what her church friends would think?

She told me good luck throwing together an easter egg hunt on short notice. I told her not to worry. I will buy those plastic eggs and stick them full of candy. At the end of the day that is all the kids cared about. She might slave for hours decorating eggs but I sure won't. I hung up on her.


What now? Is there more to an egg hunt than I think there is?

- a Jew
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here,

I would cancel but that would impact the rest of the family. Plans have already been made. I called my sister and said if she did not contact her uninvited friends by 5 pm today I would call them myself and make sure she is embarrassed beyond words. She said if I did not relent she would not come. I asked her who in the hell she thought she was and told her that would be fine with me. I told her she was so out of line going against my wishes and the most inconsiderate person I have ever met. She said I was haughty (who uses that word?) and needed Jesus in my life.

I told her to cut the shit. She is the one that acts all superior when in reality she is just a hypocrite and I proceeded to name a few instances where she acted very unchristlike, I asked her what her church friends would think?

She told me good luck throwing together an easter egg hunt on short notice. I told her not to worry. I will buy those plastic eggs and stick them full of candy. At the end of the day that is all the kids cared about. She might slave for hours decorating eggs but I sure won't. I hung up on her.


What now? Is there more to an egg hunt than I think there is?

- a Jew


No there is not. My sister can be very elaborate with her parties. She gets her inspiration from Martha Stewart. Me on the other hand I will go buy those cheap plastic eggs at the store, stick my husband in a bunny costume and call it a day.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:As someone posted I would ask my sister to provide snacks and drinks. However I would be happy to have people over for such joyful holiday.


At your age, how can you not have learned that not everyone is like you....and that they're wrong, rude or shitty people?
Anonymous
I can't believe your sister and her Bible beating friends participate in Easter egg hunts! Don't they know the pagan origins of it?
Anonymous
I generally think getting along with family and taking a bit more on is fine, but not this time. She invited over 12 people to your house, without asking you, knowing that you are fully against and told her not to invite people? Just no. Nobody invites people to my house but DH, kids(their friends) and me. Honestly, that conversation you had with your sister was clearly overdue. Her not coming would be a relief, I am sure, not a punishment! How very "Christian" of her to act so benevolent and generous to her friends, but screw her own sister over and over again? If I were you, I would have told her she is no longer welcome when she "threatened" not to come. I can't imagine that you want her at your house on Sunday anyway.
Anonymous
I could understand if she came to you and asked if she could invite a family who would be alone or whatever, but inviting over a dozen people, after you specifically asked her not to invite precisely those people, is just so out of line. And then threatening not to come? Nuts.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I can't believe your sister and her Bible beating friends participate in Easter egg hunts! Don't they know the pagan origins of it?

+1

I grew up in a conservative Christian family and we definitely did not do Easter egg hunts or anything with the Easter bunny. Easter was for going to church and maybe having extended family over only.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:As someone posted I would ask my sister to provide snacks and drinks. However I would be happy to have people over for such joyful holiday.


Really? Almost 50 people to host? With one third you don't even know? Is OP Melania Trump to host all of DMV for Easter?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:As someone posted I would ask my sister to provide snacks and drinks. However I would be happy to have people over for such joyful holiday.

Including people you don't care for and specifically told your sister not to invite?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP here,

I would cancel but that would impact the rest of the family. Plans have already been made. I called my sister and said if she did not contact her uninvited friends by 5 pm today I would call them myself and make sure she is embarrassed beyond words. She said if I did not relent she would not come. I asked her who in the hell she thought she was and told her that would be fine with me. I told her she was so out of line going against my wishes and the most inconsiderate person I have ever met. She said I was haughty (who uses that word?) and needed Jesus in my life.

I told her to cut the shit. She is the one that acts all superior when in reality she is just a hypocrite and I proceeded to name a few instances where she acted very unchristlike, I asked her what her church friends would think?

She told me good luck throwing together an easter egg hunt on short notice. I told her not to worry. I will buy those plastic eggs and stick them full of candy. At the end of the day that is all the kids cared about. She might slave for hours decorating eggs but I sure won't. I hung up on her.

You're my hero OP! Before your sister can try to develop a case of amnesia and act like your coversation didn't happen, call her friends and tell them it's family only and/or that your sister is no longer coming so they shouldn't either. I hate to see people rewarded for bad behavior and am so, so glad you are sticking up for yourself!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Tell her to uninvite those people or the entire thing is canceled.


Yes, this.


+1

She totally overstepped.
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Anonymous wrote:An anyerysm is actually a physiological weakness. She’s giving you stress.

This is an Easter egg hunt, not a visit from the president. Tell your sister that as you are cleaning and providing the venue, she is responsible for snacks and drinks.

I’m guessing you’re non religious, but one of the points of Easter is to celebrate with the “no where to gos”, which is maybe something you could learn. It’s very wonderful that you have a big backyard and pool and whatnot, but it really sounds like you don’t really enjoy them to share above bragging about them.

I mean, that’s your right, as it’s your house, but would sharing it one day a year (the most important Christian holiday, with a sister who is obviously very religious)really kill you?

Oh wait, it would. I get it. So cancel it. And wash your hands of it.

So cancel


No. Canceling it deprives you of family time. Tell her clearly to uninvite her guests.
She has taken a liberty which wasn't hers to take.
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