sister is giving me an aneurysm

[Anonymous]

My sister who has 4 kids asked me if we could have an easter egg hunt/lunch at my house. She lives in the city and has no yard. I live in the suburbs and have a big yard with a pool. I told her that was fine but I was very clear I only wanted family to attend. I did not want to deal with her bible beater friends and their kids. I don't like her group of girlfriends and I am sure the feeling is mutual. I was very clear don't invite them to my house. With family alone there will probably being around 25-30 people.

I just found out from my sister TODAY that she invited some of her friends "who had no where to go". This will add another 12-15? people. I told her that was unacceptable. Her friends can go hang out at their church. Her story is complete BS. My husband told me if I wanted to prove a point to cancel the whole thing but that would upset the rest of the family. He said we could contact those my sister invited and tell them we are sorry but she was not authorized to invite anyone to our house and embarrass her. Or just leave it as it is. I am really leaning toward #2. I am so pissed. If I let this ride I will have to get more food and hang out with people I don't like. My sister is so inconsiderate. I feel I can't let her get away with this.

[Anonymous]

Learn. Now you know. Learn to say no.

[Anonymous]

Call the people and I invite them, let them know your sister was mistaken and it's a family only affair. You don't like them and they don't like you, so they shouldn't be coming to your house anyway!

Your sister may be embarrassed but I think that's fine; what she did was unacceptable and she has to learn. Kudos to you for being willing to take action on this, so many just talk and complain to no end.

[Anonymous]

*uninvite

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister who has 4 kids asked me if we could have an easter egg hunt/lunch at my house. She lives in the city and has no yard. I live in the suburbs and have a big yard with a pool. I told her that was fine but I was very clear I only wanted family to attend. I did not want to deal with her bible beater friends and their kids. I don't like her group of girlfriends and I am sure the feeling is mutual. I was very clear don't invite them to my house. With family alone there will probably being around 25-30 people.

I just found out from my sister TODAY that she invited some of her friends "who had no where to go". This will add another 12-15? people. I told her that was unacceptable. Her friends can go hang out at their church. Her story is complete BS. My husband told me if I wanted to prove a point to cancel the whole thing but that would upset the rest of the family. He said we could contact those my sister invited and tell them we are sorry but she was not authorized to invite anyone to our house and embarrass her. Or just leave it as it is. I am really leaning toward #2. I am so pissed. If I let this ride I will have to get more food and hang out with people I don't like. My sister is so inconsiderate. I feel I can't let her get away with this.

Don't you do it, make her do it. And tell her that if they show up, you will politely tell them that she was mistaken, and you aren't able to host them. This is on her.

[Anonymous]

Tell her to uninvite those people or the entire thing is canceled.

[Anonymous]

If her friends show up, tell them it's a family only function and send them on their way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell her to uninvite those people or the entire thing is canceled.

Yes, this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell her to uninvite those people or the entire thing is canceled.

Yes, this.

Agreed. So what if the rest of the family is upset? They are free to have it at their homes with yards, or even a park.

[Anonymous]

An anyerysm is actually a physiological weakness. She’s giving you stress.

This is an Easter egg hunt, not a visit from the president. Tell your sister that as you are cleaning and providing the venue, she is responsible for snacks and drinks.

I’m guessing you’re non religious, but one of the points of Easter is to celebrate with the “no where to gos”, which is maybe something you could learn. It’s very wonderful that you have a big backyard and pool and whatnot, but it really sounds like you don’t really enjoy them to share above bragging about them.

I mean, that’s your right, as it’s your house, but would sharing it one day a year (the most important Christian holiday, with a sister who is obviously very religious)really kill you?

Oh wait, it would. I get it. So cancel it. And wash your hands of it.

So cancel

[Anonymous]

Leave it as it is, don't buy any more food or anything else. Let your sister and family know that she is responsible for food for HER guests, since she decided to invite them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:An anyerysm is actually a physiological weakness. She’s giving you stress.

This is an Easter egg hunt, not a visit from the president. Tell your sister that as you are cleaning and providing the venue, she is responsible for snacks and drinks.

I’m guessing you’re non religious, but one of the points of Easter is to celebrate with the “no where to gos”, which is maybe something you could learn. It’s very wonderful that you have a big backyard and pool and whatnot, but it really sounds like you don’t really enjoy them to share above bragging about them.

I mean, that’s your right, as it’s your house, but would sharing it one day a year (the most important Christian holiday, with a sister who is obviously very religious)really kill you?

Oh wait, it would. I get it. So cancel it. And wash your hands of it.

So cancel

you are an idiot

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell her to uninvite those people or the entire thing is canceled.

Yes, this.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An anyerysm is actually a physiological weakness. She’s giving you stress.

This is an Easter egg hunt, not a visit from the president. Tell your sister that as you are cleaning and providing the venue, she is responsible for snacks and drinks.

I’m guessing you’re non religious, but one of the points of Easter is to celebrate with the “no where to gos”, which is maybe something you could learn. It’s very wonderful that you have a big backyard and pool and whatnot, but it really sounds like you don’t really enjoy them to share above bragging about them.

I mean, that’s your right, as it’s your house, but would sharing it one day a year (the most important Christian holiday, with a sister who is obviously very religious)really kill you?

Oh wait, it would. I get it. So cancel it. And wash your hands of it.

So cancel

you are an idiot

+1
PP missed the whole point.

[Anonymous]

OP here,

I would cancel but that would impact the rest of the family. Plans have already been made. I called my sister and said if she did not contact her uninvited friends by 5 pm today I would call them myself and make sure she is embarrassed beyond words. She said if I did not relent she would not come. I asked her who in the hell she thought she was and told her that would be fine with me. I told her she was so out of line going against my wishes and the most inconsiderate person I have ever met. She said I was haughty (who uses that word?) and needed Jesus in my life.

I told her to cut the shit. She is the one that acts all superior when in reality she is just a hypocrite and I proceeded to name a few instances where she acted very unchristlike, I asked her what her church friends would think?

She told me good luck throwing together an easter egg hunt on short notice. I told her not to worry. I will buy those plastic eggs and stick them full of candy. At the end of the day that is all the kids cared about. She might slave for hours decorating eggs but I sure won't. I hung up on her.