Online dating -- turns out guy is 4 inches shorter

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[Post New]04/12/2017 18:00
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Anonymous
5'6" to 5'10" is a rather large gap. If you like other things about him, go on the date. have an open mind. If you were already not that enthused, cancel.

[Post New]04/12/2017 18:08
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am very tall. I check profiles 2-3 times for height and other things before I reply. I swear this guy's profile said he was my height, but after we started texting, I reread it again, and noticed it said he was 4 inches shorter. I think 4 inches is a huge deal, because if I wear heels during a relationship, I am going to be 6+ inches taller.

It is possible I missed it. But it is also possible that detail was changed before and after he messaged me the first time and we started chatting.

We are supposed to meet soon. I am turned off at this point. What do I do? Meet up? Come up with a lame excuse?

Stop judging a man on his height would be a good start. It's one thing to have a preference and some things should be absolutes but I feel that within the framework that you mention this shouldn't be one of them.

FWIW I am above the average height but my father was shorter than my mother and it never bothered them.


LOL. And are men going to stop judging women based on weight?

Seriously, I find it amusing when men get all bent out of shape because a woman rules out men with certain physical features. Men do it all of the time. I've seen men rule out women for far less (physical things that aren't even nearly as noticeable as height). And the men themselves weren't even that attractive. But that's supposedly okay. But if a woman does it, then she's bad.

The reality is if OP isn't going to be attracted to this guy, then why bother? It's far better for OP to not meet up than to meet the guy, like him as a friend (with no physical attraction), and then get into that situation (you know, the one where the man likes the woman, but the woman just wants to be friends).

No, I don't think people should expect physical perfection. And yes, people should be open to people they aren't necessarily wowed by at first physically. But if there are certain things you KNOW you are going to have a hard time getting past physically (and especially if those are things that can't be changed), it's just a waste of everyone's time to go on the date.
[Post New]04/12/2017 18:24
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You cannot prove the deception for sure, so let it go.

I am taller than my husband when I wear heels and it doesn't bother us.

And I sincerely hope that my very short son will meet a woman who doesn't mind being taller than him!!!



FUN FACT: You get your height from your mother so your son won't have to worry


Anecdotally, I don't believe you. My mom was 5'2". Father stood 6'1". I fall right down the middle between them in height. I am 5'81/2".
[Post New]04/12/2017 18:27
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You cannot prove the deception for sure, so let it go.

I am taller than my husband when I wear heels and it doesn't bother us.

And I sincerely hope that my very short son will meet a woman who doesn't mind being taller than him!!!



FUN FACT: You get your height from your mother so your son won't have to worry


FUN FACT: Must be hard to go through life knowing so little.
[Post New]04/12/2017 18:38
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You cannot prove the deception for sure, so let it go.

I am taller than my husband when I wear heels and it doesn't bother us.

And I sincerely hope that my very short son will meet a woman who doesn't mind being taller than him!!!



FUN FACT: You get your height from your mother so your son won't have to worry


FUN FACT: Must be hard to go through life knowing so little.


My 5'2" mom and 6'2" dad had a 6'5" son (my brother). I'm 5'8" husband 6'2". My Sons are 6' and 5'8". Go figure.
[Post New]04/12/2017 19:31
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You cannot prove the deception for sure, so let it go.

I am taller than my husband when I wear heels and it doesn't bother us.

And I sincerely hope that my very short son will meet a woman who doesn't mind being taller than him!!!



FUN FACT: You get your height from your mother so your son won't have to worry


FUN FACT: Must be hard to go through life knowing so little.


FUN FACT: Anyone who starts a sentence with "FUN FACT" (in all caps, no less) is probably not much FUN, and probably full of... FACTS.
[Post New]04/12/2017 19:41
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You're within your rights to reject someone based on his height.

I just think it's funny that the conventional wisdom is that women are less concerned about appearance, when it's clear that they are just as picky as men when it comes to physical appearance. They just prioritize slightly different things.


What does that statement even mean? If her deal breakers keep her single, she's an idiot. Otherwise she has a plan that works.


If she's not into short guys, then that's her prerogative. As long as she's not cruel about it to him, I don't see what the fuss is about. Just make up an excuse and move on. Who said that she can't find another date?
[Post New]04/12/2017 19:52
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Lonely_Sojourner
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Anonymous wrote:A guy is a piece of shit for ruling out a woman based on her weight but it's OK for a woman to write off a guy for his height?


Happens all of the time...

L_S
[Post New]04/12/2017 19:57
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:4" is too much. Cancel. He's also probably lying if he says 5'10". I bet he's really like 5'8.5"


This is very funny and true.

I dated a guy who was 5'9. Like, he was ACTUALLY 5'9.

He would laugh and tell me that every other guy he met who claimed to be 5'9 was actually 5'6-5'7.

I don't get why guys lie on this when it's so plain to see.

I've got A cup boobs. I don't claim to have a "full B". Just own it!
[Post New]04/12/2017 20:04
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:4" is too much. Cancel. He's also probably lying if he says 5'10". I bet he's really like 5'8.5"


This is very funny and true.

I dated a guy who was 5'9. Like, he was ACTUALLY 5'9.

He would laugh and tell me that every other guy he met who claimed to be 5'9 was actually 5'6-5'7.

I don't get why guys lie on this when it's so plain to see.

I've got A cup boobs. I don't claim to have a "full B". Just own it!


Men lie about their height. Women lie about their weight.
[Post New]04/12/2017 21:38
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Anonymous
Wait, someone lied in an on-line dating profile?

Do tell.
[Post New]04/12/2017 21:44
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:4" is too much. Cancel. He's also probably lying if he says 5'10". I bet he's really like 5'8.5"


This is very funny and true.

I dated a guy who was 5'9. Like, he was ACTUALLY 5'9.

He would laugh and tell me that every other guy he met who claimed to be 5'9 was actually 5'6-5'7.

I don't get why guys lie on this when it's so plain to see.

I've got A cup boobs. I don't claim to have a "full B". Just own it!


Men lie about their height. Women lie about their weight.



And dress size
[Post New]04/12/2017 21:56
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Anonymous
Online dating -- turns out the gal is 4 sizes larger...
[Post New]04/12/2017 22:29
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:4" is too much. Cancel. He's also probably lying if he says 5'10". I bet he's really like 5'8.5"


This is very funny and true.

I dated a guy who was 5'9. Like, he was ACTUALLY 5'9.

He would laugh and tell me that every other guy he met who claimed to be 5'9 was actually 5'6-5'7.

I don't get why guys lie on this when it's so plain to see.

I've got A cup boobs. I don't claim to have a "full B". Just own it!


Men lie about their height. Women lie about their weight.



And dress size


Why are you even asking women what their dress size is?

And I don't lie about my weight. I am very upfront I am packing way more weight than I was a year ago and I am taking steps to correct it. If I think someone is into me, even though I'm upfront about it, I make sure again before the first date. I don't want anyone to be unhappy with the date they get, just like I don't want to be unhappy. But if you want to see me do 20 burpees in a row on the first date to prove that I am athletic underneath, happy to do it.

Also, when asked, I am misrepresenting my cup size. I am still packing my DD bras, but the extra weight has added a cup size, which I am not happy about. They are fabulous, though.
[Post New]04/12/2017 23:14
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Do not mention it is height. Ladies, would you want a guy telling you that you were too fat too date? Just ghost him. People ghost pre-first-date all the time. Don't waste his time with a date and don't tell him he's too short.


That is such immature, spineless crap. A sign of the times that you can't even expect common courtesy. These people who 'ghost' are probably the ones bitching about poor communication in a relationship.
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