Online dating -- turns out guy is 4 inches shorter

[Anonymous]

Tell him you're pregnant and getting back with the father.

[Anonymous]

You get your height from
Your
Mother? I don't think that is right.

[Anonymous]

5'9" (honest) man here.

If there is no way you would be interested you should not meet him and waste his time. You do not owe an explanation.

[Anonymous]

I don't know. The shorter guy could have all the better qualities. I'd probably meet if everything else sounds good unless you're sure he lied. I'd also run his name on the internet to see what comes up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell him you're pregnant and getting back with the father.

Or her Herpes is flaring up again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am very tall. I check profiles 2-3 times for height and other things before I reply. I swear this guy's profile said he was my height, but after we started texting, I reread it again, and noticed it said he was 4 inches shorter. I think 4 inches is a huge deal, because if I wear heels during a relationship, I am going to be 6+ inches taller.

It is possible I missed it. But it is also possible that detail was changed before and after he messaged me the first time and we started chatting.

We are supposed to meet soon. I am turned off at this point. What do I do? Meet up? Come up with a lame excuse?

Stop judging a man on his height would be a good start. It's one thing to have a preference and some things should be absolutes but I feel that within the framework that you mention this shouldn't be one of them.

FWIW I am above the average height but my father was shorter than my mother and it never bothered them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's the rule about online dating and height claims. Any guy who says he's over 6 foot (6'1 or taller) is telling the truth. The other guys round up to the nearest even inch. Any guy who says he's 6 foot even if probably 5'10, and any guy who says he's 5'8 is 5'6.

This is my DH! He swears he had always listed his height as 5'10" but I sincerely remember seeing 6' there. It's not a dealbreaker for me, just a funny thing that he may have tweaked. We will never know! He is a scrupulously honest person but I have a wicked good memory. Screenshots for every stage of dating on an online dating site?

[Anonymous]

5'7 - 5'8 guy here - it's better to tell him. Though he's in the wrong if he misrepresented. Being told I'm too short doesn't bother me because I can't change that. Better to tell me straight up so both can move on.

This is why I don't really date online. Most of the women I've dated have been my height or taller - but we met in person. Women are way harsher judges online

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's the rule about online dating and height claims. Any guy who says he's over 6 foot (6'1 or taller) is telling the truth. The other guys round up to the nearest even inch. Any guy who says he's 6 foot even if probably 5'10, and any guy who says he's 5'8 is 5'6.

Seems about right.

[Anonymous]

Break the date, but don't use his height as the reason. Tell him something like work or other commitments are taking over and you realize you just don't have time for a relationship right now.

[Anonymous]

I am a 5.11 female and being taller than me is a must for any man I would want to date. I would not ghost but tell him I am no longer interested.

Btw OP how are the pickings based on height online?

[Anonymous]

You're within your rights to reject someone based on his height.

I just think it's funny that the conventional wisdom is that women are less concerned about appearance, when it's clear that they are just as picky as men when it comes to physical appearance. They just prioritize slightly different things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're within your rights to reject someone based on his height.

I just think it's funny that the conventional wisdom is that women are less concerned about appearance, when it's clear that they are just as picky as men when it comes to physical appearance. They just prioritize slightly different things.

What does that statement even mean? If her deal breakers keep her single, she's an idiot. Otherwise she has a plan that works.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't tell him he's too short for you. It's hurtful and he can't change it.

Any it's pretty superficial, while I'm mentioning it.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks for the feedback.

I am 5'10'', I am pretty sure his profile said 5'10'' when I looked the first several times. It currently says 5'6''. There was a photo of him several inches shorter than friends, and I am pretty sure I triple checked before responding. Lots of guys are taller than me, so when I thought read 5'10'' again, I thought his friends were taller than me.

I am dating guys I am not initially attracted to based on looks, but looking for someone I would connect with, because I have learned that it's not all about the looks. But don't really know if I connect with people until I meet them.

16:57 -- There are lots of guys that say they are 5'10'' or taller. I've gone on some dates with guys taller than me. But there were other issues. I like OK Cupid, because it asks for a lot of information that other apps don't ask for.