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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am very tall. I check profiles 2-3 times for height and other things before I reply. I swear this guy's profile said he was my height, but after we started texting, I reread it again, and noticed it said he was 4 inches shorter. I think 4 inches is a huge deal, because if I wear heels during a relationship, I am going to be 6+ inches taller.

It is possible I missed it. But it is also possible that detail was changed before and after he messaged me the first time and we started chatting.

We are supposed to meet soon. I am turned off at this point. [b]What do I do?[/b] Meet up? Come up with a lame excuse?[/quote]
[b]Stop judging a man on his height would be a good start. [/b]It's one thing to have a preference and some things should be absolutes but I feel that within the framework that you mention this shouldn't be one of them.

FWIW I am above the average height but my father was shorter than my mother and it never bothered them.[/quote]

LOL.  And are men going to stop judging women based on weight?

Seriously, I find it amusing when men get all bent out of shape because a woman rules out men with certain physical features.  Men do it all of the time.   I've seen men rule out women for far less (physical things that aren't even nearly as noticeable as height).  And the men themselves weren't even that attractive.  But that's supposedly okay.  But if a woman does it, then she's bad.

The reality is if OP isn't going to be attracted to this guy, then why bother?  It's far better for OP to not meet up than to meet the guy, like him as a friend (with no physical attraction), and then get into that situation (you know, the one where the man likes the woman, but the woman just wants to be friends).

No, I don't think people should expect physical perfection.  And yes, people should be open to people they aren't necessarily wowed by at first physically.  But if there are certain things you KNOW you are going to have a hard time getting past physically (and especially if those are things that can't be changed), it's just a waste of everyone's time to go on the date.[/quote]

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