Anonymous wrote:I had a moment of clarity this weekend, too. I can still love my spouse AND have a lover. It doesn't have to be either or.

Anonymous wrote:I confess that I start threads on here as a troll and continue to be amazed at the direction they go.

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Anonymous wrote:I confess that I start threads on here as a troll and continue to be amazed at the direction they go.

continue please. i love to trash you and make myself feel better when you post these miserable threads.

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Anonymous wrote:Many years ago a close GF of mine told me about the amazing sex (multiple O's etc.) she was having with a guy we both worked with. I always liked him but never wanted to risk dating someone I worked with. But now I was intrigued even though I was definitely not someone who slept around. I hit on him soon after and the sex was amazing. We've been married 35 years and the sex is still great. Just this morning I told him that "I missed him" since he's been recovering from minor surgery. He said "I'm back" so I'm looking forward to tonight! BTW, I'm still friends with my old GF. Many years ago I was dumb enough to tell my DH what my GF had said and he said something like advertising does work. They weren't really dating, more like today's FWB, so I never felt like I stole him from her.

That is so great. How old are you now? Are you one of those rare post-menopause DWs who still has sex? 51 here and my DW could be fine never having sex again. I hear stories like yours and I get so jealous and frustrated in equal measure....

We should get together. I am a frustrated 51 year old woman...

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Anonymous wrote:I had a sexual affair with my AP when she was nine months pregnant with her husbands' baby.

Surprised this doesn't happen more often. So many men neglect their pregnant spouses and those women have a hormonal imbalance that often creates a need.

Anonymous wrote:Many years ago a close GF of mine told me about the amazing sex (multiple O's etc.) she was having with a guy we both worked with. I always liked him but never wanted to risk dating someone I worked with. But now I was intrigued even though I was definitely not someone who slept around. I hit on him soon after and the sex was amazing. We've been married 35 years and the sex is still great. Just this morning I told him that "I missed him" since he's been recovering from minor surgery. He said "I'm back" so I'm looking forward to tonight! BTW, I'm still friends with my old GF. Many years ago I was dumb enough to tell my DH what my GF had said and he said something like advertising does work. They weren't really dating, more like today's FWB, so I never felt like I stole him from her.

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Anonymous wrote:So I kind of want to go out for a drink with the 51 year old with a great sense of humor and a phd. I'm single, so no flaming!

My ears are burning.

Post with a username and I'll pm you

I'm 44, have a pretty good sense of humor myself, and am considered attractive.

Anonymous wrote:I've attempted suicide more than once. I've thought about it multiple times since then but won't tell anyone. I don't want to lose access to my kid.

I often feel when I'm gone, no one will care.

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Anonymous wrote:I've attempted suicide more than once. I've thought about it multiple times since then but won't tell anyone. I don't want to lose access to my kid.

I often feel when I'm gone, no one will care.

Noone should have to feel this way. I have a friend who suffered from depression and suicidal thoughts for a looong time. He got help and a script and it worked for him. Really the counseling was neither here nor there, but his very first doc was a depression survivor who was able to tell him what to expect with the Wellbutrin.

Basically over time the negative lens went away.

Your child would never get over the pain of losing you this way.

You seeking help for this is noones business and confidentiality should be absolutely ensured by any professional. You could leave out the specific mention of suicidal thoughts. You could just frame it as you said "I often feel when I'm gone, no one will care." THAT is depression. Period. They can treat that without knowing your every thought.

Dont let the wrong fear stop you from getting yourself into a better place. Your kid loves and needs you. Your kids needs will change over time AND you may need to be there for him/her later in ways you cannot see right now because of how you are feeling. Best to you. Do this for your kid.

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Anonymous wrote:I've attempted suicide more than once. I've thought about it multiple times since then but won't tell anyone. I don't want to lose access to my kid.

I often feel when I'm gone, no one will care.

Noone should have to feel this way. I have a friend who suffered from depression and suicidal thoughts for a looong time. He got help and a script and it worked for him. Really the counseling was neither here nor there, but his very first doc was a depression survivor who was able to tell him what to expect with the Wellbutrin.

Basically over time the negative lens went away.

Your child would never get over the pain of losing you this way.

You seeking help for this is noones business and confidentiality should be absolutely ensured by any professional. You could leave out the specific mention of suicidal thoughts. You could just frame it as you said "I often feel when I'm gone, no one will care." THAT is depression. Period. They can treat that without knowing your every thought.

Dont let the wrong fear stop you from getting yourself into a better place. Your kid loves and needs you. Your kids needs will change over time AND you may need to be there for him/her later in ways you cannot see right now because of how you are feeling. Best to you. Do this for your kid.

Oh, I should add that my friend never married or had a child. But he has been an integral part of my and my daughters life. He is "Uncle Joe" and if had killed himself any of the many times he thought of it, my daughter would have lost a person who would become central to her life.

Anonymous wrote:I've attempted suicide more than once. I've thought about it multiple times since then but won't tell anyone. I don't want to lose access to my kid.

I often feel when I'm gone, no one will care.

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Anonymous wrote:Many years ago a close GF of mine told me about the amazing sex (multiple O's etc.) she was having with a guy we both worked with. I always liked him but never wanted to risk dating someone I worked with. But now I was intrigued even though I was definitely not someone who slept around. I hit on him soon after and the sex was amazing. We've been married 35 years and the sex is still great. Just this morning I told him that "I missed him" since he's been recovering from minor surgery. He said "I'm back" so I'm looking forward to tonight! BTW, I'm still friends with my old GF. Many years ago I was dumb enough to tell my DH what my GF had said and he said something like advertising does work. They weren't really dating, more like today's FWB, so I never felt like I stole him from her.

That is so great. How old are you now? Are you one of those rare post-menopause DWs who still has sex? 51 here and my DW could be fine never having sex again. I hear stories like yours and I get so jealous and frustrated in equal measure....

We should get together. I am a frustrated 51 year old woman...

I would love to have a FWB setup. I just have to have the guts to step out, but I need to feel alive again

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Anonymous wrote:Many years ago a close GF of mine told me about the amazing sex (multiple O's etc.) she was having with a guy we both worked with. I always liked him but never wanted to risk dating someone I worked with. But now I was intrigued even though I was definitely not someone who slept around. I hit on him soon after and the sex was amazing. We've been married 35 years and the sex is still great. Just this morning I told him that "I missed him" since he's been recovering from minor surgery. He said "I'm back" so I'm looking forward to tonight! BTW, I'm still friends with my old GF. Many years ago I was dumb enough to tell my DH what my GF had said and he said something like advertising does work. They weren't really dating, more like today's FWB, so I never felt like I stole him from her.

That is so great. How old are you now? Are you one of those rare post-menopause DWs who still has sex? 51 here and my DW could be fine never having sex again. I hear stories like yours and I get so jealous and frustrated in equal measure....

We should get together. I am a frustrated 51 year old woman...

I would love to have a FWB setup. I just have to have the guts to step out, but I need to feel alive again

Just let me know...

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Anonymous wrote:I had a moment of clarity this weekend, too. I can still love my spouse AND have a lover. It doesn't have to be either or.

No. You don't cheat on someone you truly love