Daughter tanked every midterm -- all As to all Bs (possibly one C)
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Anonymous
| This is a major deal. My kid's iPhone would be confiscated, grounded, and constant volunteering at homeless shelter and nearest Boys & Girls Club. |
Anonymous
What does that do for an 18 year old who needs to get their grades up? |
Anonymous
Seems very unlikely unless everyone did early admission or is going to a college with incredibly fast turn around times. Let me also say that you have no way of bailing her out. She has to want it and fix it, you can't do this one for her. At some point, kids have to earn their own grades and be responsible on their own. Have you tried talking with her? Or only irrationally screaming about how her life is ruined? |
Anonymous
| Fairfax semester ends in 2 weeks |
Anonymous
Even if they all did early admission they should be aware that those offers of admission can be rescinded if their grades really tank. |
Anonymous
| If this is Virginia, lots of kids can have UVA VTech and GMU already locked up. Public Us don't really care about Cs on the mid-year report of admitted students. |
Anonymous
| Most importantly - what was HER reaction? We know what you think but what does she think is going to happen now? That will say a lot about moving forward (which again, B's are not the end of the world. It just seems that way in some schools/communities around here!) |
Anonymous
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Is she was aiming at top50, she would need to finish the year strong and take a gap year.
Otherwise cc or the cheapest instate option. I would be uncomfortable paying for more expensive colleges knowing that she might strike out again. Lay it out for her now. |
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| What schools did she apply to? What are her test scores like? |
Anonymous
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Unless she only applied and got accepted to top tier schools, she is probably in no danger of being rescinded. It sounds like she was doing the work to get As in her classes and simply blew off studying for midterms. Totally normal senioritis. The exam results may look bad, but having a B semester grade is hardly the end of the world. You do realize that students who get mostly Bs with a few As and a few Cs throughout high school go to college and do fine there, right? You are overreacting.
If she didn't apply to any safety schools and you're really concerned that she won't be able to attend any of the schools that already accepted her, suggest that she submit a couple of applications to less competitive schools. That can be her "punishment" |
Anonymous
UVA would definitely rescind an offer if senior grades are downward trending. It shows immaturity and a lack of discipline. VTech would, as well, especially if accepted to the engineering department. |
Anonymous
NP here. Good God, "downward trending"? OP said this is a slide from As to Bs, not As to flunking or Cs/Ds. And don't muddy the waters, PP. OP's DD is not in VT engineering or UVA yet--I think OP's real anger is that DD hasn't been fast enough about college applications and isn't as enthusiastic about being straight-As as OP wants. It's frightening that one set of Bs is making so many adults so crazed on this thread. Yes, the DD needs to take responsibility and bring her grades back up but nowhere have I seen OP come back here and say OP actually talked with DD about WHY this happened and what they can do together to work on it. OP angrily cites "senioritis" and brushes off earlier posters who suggest looking into whether something else is going on with OP's DD beyond academics. But OP only seems to come back wanting support for being angry at DD. So, OP, have you and DD talked with the counselors at the high school who handle college stuff, to see how disastrous this is -- or isn't? Have you talked with your DD --without anger and judgement -- about whether this is really pure senior slackness or whether she slacked because she's just so tired of being pushed? Maybe something changed in these classes themselves? Or would you rather just be angry with her? |
Anonymous
OP's original post says A/B's to C/D's. That is a definite major downward trend. >>Literally every midterm exam is a C or D. Are we supposed to punish an 18yo? Not accepted anywhere, yet. Mid-year report looks horrible now. Worst report card ever, by far. |
Anonymous
I flunked many exams and entire classes, which I had to make up in summer school. Graduated HS in the bottom third of my class. Managed to get into an out-of-state Big State U, where I blossomed and graduated cum laude. Now working in my field of study (which most left). That probably horrifies some people here, but my world didn't end. As far as my career field goes, I'm doing pretty well. Whether I'm happy in the field is another story, but it doesn't have anything to do with academics. Just some anecdotal experience from the other side. |
Anonymous
| "Flunking" or essentially flunking all your semester exams warrants severe punishment. Why the hell would it not? Most of you are obviously trolling. |