Anonymous wrote:UGH!
Why don't you like him? Can you give some examples?
Agree that you tell him to come close in time to sitting down to eat, and have your family and friends come a little earlier.

The choice is between (A) guilt at disinviting him or (B) dealing with him at your holiday meal. Is there anyone else coming who might hit it off with him?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:UGH!
Why don't you like him? Can you give some examples?
Agree that you tell him to come close in time to sitting down to eat, and have your family and friends come a little earlier.

The choice is between (A) guilt at disinviting him or (B) dealing with him at your holiday meal. Is there anyone else coming who might hit it off with him?

OP - Since you've asked - your stereotypical Trump supporter, he's really not respectful to women. I have some pretty leftist attendees. The more I Think about it, I think he may just be joking. I will see him next week so in case he's not, I will extend the welcome only if he asks. Nobody will hit if off with him, I'm certain about that. I may do what a pp suggested about asking him to check his xyz behavior at the door.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:UGH!
Why don't you like him? Can you give some examples?
Agree that you tell him to come close in time to sitting down to eat, and have your family and friends come a little earlier.

The choice is between (A) guilt at disinviting him or (B) dealing with him at your holiday meal. Is there anyone else coming who might hit it off with him?

OP - Since you've asked - your stereotypical Trump supporter, he's really not respectful to women. I have some pretty leftist attendees. The more I Think about it, I think he may just be joking. I will see him next week so in case he's not, I will extend the welcome only if he asks. Nobody will hit if off with him, I'm certain about that. I may do what a pp suggested about asking him to check his xyz behavior at the door.

The problem with doing what you say is that he might just be waiting for you to bring it up again, and so since you're not going to, he could end up alone on Thanksgiving feeling rejected.

It's better that you be proactive. Either politely Uninvite him or tell him about details of when and where for the invite. He needs time to find something else if you uninvited.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:UGH!
Why don't you like him? Can you give some examples?
Agree that you tell him to come close in time to sitting down to eat, and have your family and friends come a little earlier.

The choice is between (A) guilt at disinviting him or (B) dealing with him at your holiday meal. Is there anyone else coming who might hit it off with him?

OP - Since you've asked - your stereotypical Trump supporter, he's really not respectful to women. I have some pretty leftist attendees. The more I Think about it, I think he may just be joking. I will see him next week so in case he's not, I will extend the welcome only if he asks. Nobody will hit if off with him, I'm certain about that. I may do what a pp suggested about asking him to check his xyz behavior at the door.

The problem with doing what you say is that he might just be waiting for you to bring it up again, and so since you're not going to, he could end up alone on Thanksgiving feeling rejected.

It's better that you be proactive. Either politely Uninvite him or tell him about details of when and where for the invite. He needs time to find something else if you uninvited.

I don't know, if he had the balls to invite himself to another person's Thanksgiving dinner and follow up immediately with a "What should I bring?" I think he can it from here on.

Anonymous wrote:OP here -
"What are you doing for Thanksgiving?"
"Dinner at home, family and friends coming over"
"I don't have any plans, can I come over?"
"...Sure, I don't have a lot of room.."
"I wonder what I should bring over"
Topic changes

I work with this person, so we know a lot about each other, but do not have a relationship outside of work. I truly do feel bad if he has nobody to spend it with, because that's sad. But his personality is not what I consider enjoyable and to be honest I rather spend it with people I know really well. He does not know where I live but again, we see each other every day he would just ask when the date is closer. If I was in his same situation I would not ask myself to people's homes and just do the sad face and hope for an invitation. However, he's suggested outside work events before, but it never comes close to fruition so I hope this will end up the same way.

I already screwed myself when I said "Sure", so I'm just venting.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here -
"What are you doing for Thanksgiving?"
"Dinner at home, family and friends coming over"
"I don't have any plans, can I come over?"
"...Sure, I don't have a lot of room.."
"I wonder what I should bring over"
Topic changes

I work with this person, so we know a lot about each other, but do not have a relationship outside of work. I truly do feel bad if he has nobody to spend it with, because that's sad. But his personality is not what I consider enjoyable and to be honest I rather spend it with people I know really well. He does not know where I live but again, we see each other every day he would just ask when the date is closer. If I was in his same situation I would not ask myself to people's homes and just do the sad face and hope for an invitation. However, he's suggested outside work events before, but it never comes close to fruition so I hope this will end up the same way.

I already screwed myself when I said "Sure", so I'm just venting.

He can wonder to himself what he should bring w/o directly asking OP what he should bring.

OP, you said in your original post that he didn't ask what to bring. Now I'm thinking you're making things up as you go along.