Inviting yourself to somebody's Thanksgiving dinner

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In case I didn't mention it, we are all on a cleanse in honor of the Supermoon, so I'm only serving a thin vegetarian broth for dinner. Also, please arrive by 3pm because we want to hike up the mountain before sunset. Do you have something made of hemp that you can wear for the throat-singing ceremony?

Winner!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In case I didn't mention it, we are all on a cleanse in honor of the Supermoon, so I'm only serving a thin vegetarian broth for dinner. Also, please arrive by 3pm because we want to hike up the mountain before sunset. Do you have something made of hemp that you can wear for the throat-singing ceremony?

[Anonymous]

Tell him he can come and that he can bring either a Nebuchadnezzer or a Jeraboam of wine from Bordeaux...not Burgundy!!

[Anonymous]

Well you should not have said sure come over. Now that you did you could just come down with the stomach flu Wednesday night. It would be a shame to have to cancel.

[Anonymous]

UGH!
Why don't you like him? Can you give some examples?
Agree that you tell him to come close in time to sitting down to eat, and have your family and friends come a little earlier.

The choice is between (A) guilt at disinviting him or (B) dealing with him at your holiday meal. Is there anyone else coming who might hit it off with him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well you should not have said sure come over. Now that you did you could just come down with the stomach flu Wednesday night. It would be a shame to have to cancel.

Dick move. He won' t have time to make other plans.

OP, you will have to be gracious and hope for the best! Tell him to come 15 min before dinner and sit him next to your most tolerant guest. Come back and tell us what happened.

[Anonymous]

I'm seriously hoping he's my brother-in-law's brother, who usually comes to our place. He can't go 15 minutes without offending someone.

[Anonymous]

Be kind. Kindness always wins in life. Happy turkey day!

[Anonymous]

Wow. I can't believe some of the nastiness on this thread. OP just doesn't like him, it's not like he's a horrible person who does nefarious things to other people. Any co-worker who isn't evil would certainly be welcome to join me and my family for a holiday meal.

OP, please find some kindness in your heart. This man reached out to you, admitting he had no plans. Try to find something you like about this person and find a way to look forward to his joining you. I hope both you and your colleague enjoy a wonderful holiday.

[Anonymous]

This reminds me of a children's book, I think it was called "Cranberry Thanksgiving". The smelly guy winds up being the good guy and the supposedly good guy winds up being a thief. Your coworker might wind up being a better guest than you think.

[Anonymous]

You need to figure it out sooner than later. Don't let the guy not have any plans for Thanksgiving because he thinks he is dining with you.

[Anonymous]

I just spoke with an American person at a party who once told a German person "you need to come stay at my place some day" or something along these lines, and the guy did show up at her door with a suitcase one day....
This is to say it could be worse!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I already screwed myself when I said "Sure", so I'm just venting.

No reason you couldn't pull him aside and say, "Roger, are you serious about wanting to come for Thanksgiving? Because you're going to have to check the [racist jokes, stories about your drunken misbehavior, constant interrupting, long monologues, whatever it is that he does] at the door. You should bring an apple pie and you're going to meet my aunt Betty and my friends Joe and Susan. They're nice people and I would need you to try to get along with them. Are you still up for it?"

I like this, op you should say this.

[Anonymous]

If I were hosting this year, I would say send him over to my house. We always have a few lost/lonely souls at the table on Thanksgiving and they have always surprised us (in a good way).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. I can't believe some of the nastiness on this thread. OP just doesn't like him, it's not like he's a horrible person who does nefarious things to other people. Any co-worker who isn't evil would certainly be welcome to join me and my family for a holiday meal.

OP, please find some kindness in your heart. This man reached out to you, admitting he had no plans. Try to find something you like about this person and find a way to look forward to his joining you. I hope both you and your colleague enjoy a wonderful holiday.

I'm one of the PPs who said that since she said Sure... then she needs to go with it and she said she is. However, generally, I am of the belief that you don't need to have to invite anyone into your home that you don't like- horrible people or not.