My new adult stepsister told me I can't use "her" baby girl name (and it's my #1 choice)
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Anonymous
| I want to know the name! |
Anonymous
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My cousin and I were once talking when neither of us were pregnant and a girl's name came up. I exclaimed that I loved that name. She got very territorial and said they she was older and would have a baby first and she was going to use it so not to even think about it. I was very taken aback.
Guess what? However many years later she had the first baby - a girl. She did not use the name. Do what you want. |
Anonymous
| This is why you never ever discuss your baby names with other potentially fertile females. Did I mention never? |
AnnaTjacks
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While this is a hard decision because you don't want to offend, it is still your choice. When I named my babies, I had to go with what was right for me. I really feel that you should too. If that is the perfect name for you, then use it. You won't be able to please everyone in your family. I won't be surprised that some people will like the name and some will not. I believe (just my thought) that God will put in our heart what to name our children. It's your choice. It's your baby. Go for it! 
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Also...maybe the name would sound stupid with her yet-to-be-determined married last name. (I know she could have a baby unmarried or keep her maiden name, but odds are she will change her name AND for sure the baby will have its dad's last name, right?)
My long-loved baby name sounded absolutely asinine when paired with my married name. Baby would have sounds like a stripper. So much for that name!!! Use the name!! |
Anonymous
OP didn't discuss names. She was asked what she was naming her child and she said they are not sharing. Sister then said "I hope you're not naming your baby _____." OP never shared the name. |
Anonymous
| Use the name you want. This person is nearly a stranger and prob won't be around long. |
Anonymous
| Use it and laugh it off if your stepsister gets mad about it. "Sorry, I didn't think you were serious. We had this name picked out for a long time!" |
Anonymous
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The only potential awkwardness I see here is that you stayed quiet when she told you that was "her" name, which may have suggested to her that you wouldn't use it. She may be a little miffed now when she finds out. I would have probably said something like "hey, you can't reserve a name! If people were allowed to do that there would be no names left" or something like that to indicate that you don't buy into her name reserving bs
However, there is nothing you can do about that now- you will just have to say "oh I remember you said you liked this name too, but it's the only one we could agree on! Guess we may have two larlas in the family!" Or whatever. |
Anonymous
Men do it too! When my DH told his male cousin our name, cousin freaked and told him that he had dibs on the name. He's not even married yet. Things got so heated between them about it, we used a different name to avoid the family conflict. I was in the hospital giving birth and we couldn't agree on an alternate name, ugh. We did use it as his middle name though. |
Anonymous
+1 PP, your idea of fairness matches squarely with mine. Lets be friends. |
Anonymous
You weren't totally crushed? |
Anonymous
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It is your right to name your new baby whatever name you + your hubby select for her.
No one has any legal & inclusive rights to names they hope to name their potential future child. If you decide to appease your selfish step-"sister" OP, you will be resentful toward her the rest of your life I guarantee you. Who wants life regrets? |
Anonymous
| This is dumb. She's not pregnant? Not even married? May change her mind whoever she is actually pregnant? Yeah, use the name you picked for your child. There is no dibs on a name. |