New Poll - for married folk
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Anonymous
Don't get me wrong...we went through a very rough patch and almost broke up, mostly my fault. Now I am so thankful for him and our son and what we have. I think for me it really did take almost losing everything to truly appreciate what I had. |
Anonymous
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Yes
Yes Married 1.5 years... I often wonder if my happiness will subside and look for clues... healthy I know 
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Anonymous
Please, I'm a queen. |
Anonymous
I like you. |
Anonymous
No, I don't get butterflies but I feel deeply grateful, warm, and secure when he tells me he loves me while we watch tv together. We don't have butterflies anymore but we have each other's back and that feels wonderful at this stage in my life. I both miss him a lot (in part because I realize that he'll probably die before me someday and then he will never come back) and I luxuriate in all the space I have and being able to do what I want without having to worry about what he wants to do. We've been married 26 years. I think we're an example of things getting better once the children are raised and the debts are paid off and you have some extra money and time. Plus I think it's really important that you carve out time for yourself so you don't feel smothered by your partner. And finally, I learned by watching both my mom and my mother-in-law that I'm responsible for my own happiness. Both of them blamed their problems on their husbands and yet they were devastated when their husbands died. |
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Yes, I love looking at him across the room at a party and seeing him ~ I still get butterflies.
Yes, I miss him when he's traveling but I love the travel too. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that. The kids and I get in a very easy rhythm when he is away (which is almost weekly) an then I get really excited when he is coming home. It strikes a good balance for us. 12 years, 10 married, 3 kids. |
Anonymous
This. Thank you. |
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No. She's been openly and aggressively critical of me for years -- the butterflies have flown elsewhere.
No. Travel is a welcome and peaceful break. 13 years. |
Anonymous
I'm sorry you feel lonely. You don't have to. Be persistent with him, or if you already have, move on. Don't just ride it out and hope for years and years. Show your kids what happiness and taking care of oneself looks like. |
Anonymous
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Sometimes.
I miss him when he's been gone more than a week. I'm always happy when he gets home from a trip though. 15 years |
Anonymous
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Does your heart still "flutter" or do you get "butterflies" when you see him/her?
Ha, I wouldn't say my heart flutters or I get butterflies when I see him, but I do get excited and happy when I see him and much prefer having him around than not around. Do you miss him/her when he/she is on a business trip? Yes, I miss my husband when he is on a business trip. How long have you been married? 3 and a half years. We have an 18 month old son. |
diz
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| Was never too much the butterfly type so no, I don't get them. But I would miss her if she were away, am happy when she comes home and still find her incredibly sexy. Two young kids. 15 years. |
Anonymous
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Together 5; Married 10.
We've had a few bad years, but it's getting better. This thread made me stop and think. I get extreme relief and comfort by my DH's presence. He's always worked so hard to make my life easier. Always puts me first. And I realize and recognize How much better and easier my life is because of him. He is a wonderful human being. He is also a grouch and temperamental. But a good man. This thanksgiving I am grateful for so many things. Among them, my DH. |
Anonymous
Personally, I'm impressed that you've been married longer than you've been together! 
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yes.
yes. together 21 years, married 13. |