I'm Transgender. Come talk to me!
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Good gravy you are a dense hair splitter. Opinion that transgender is just this natural awesome thing and not at all some type of mental disorder or cry for help/attention. Hows that? |
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I disagree with you and I disagree with transgender. But, I believe in tolerance. |
Anonymous
PP who was asking about the terminology: I agree with this statement. I don't understand how someone can agree or disagree with someone else's experience of their own gender. Say, "No, you don't feel like a woman, I disagree with your feelings"? Say, "I do not believe that you really have those feelings?" I get that people think that transgender people have many issues, are maladjusted, need to get over themselves, or whatever, but I have never understood how someone can hear someone else's sincere experience of their own lives and say, "I don't agree." |
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Normal adjective 1. conforming to the standard or the common type; usual; not abnormal; regular; natural. 2. serving to establish a standard. |
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| Do you use the ladies room in public? Ever encounter an issue? |
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+1,000,000 |
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Having a word (cisgender) for people whose gender expression matches their biological sex is the same theory as having a word (neurotypical) for people who aren't on the autism spectrum. It serves to avoid a value judgment or use of the word "normal." |
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I overcompensated when I first transitioned. I wore a lot of makeup because for the first time, it was socially acceptable to do so. I wore age-inappropriate clothing because I could finally wear the clothes that I'd seen in magazines or on celebrities. Imagine transwomen as teenage girls experimenting with their looks for the first time, because that's pretty much what we are. You had your awkward puberty years in middle school, whereas some transwomen have that awkward stage in middle age! I've finally settled into a style that's still more work than I'd like. I want to wear short hair and wear little to no makeup, but that makes me look more masculine. DMAB (designated male at birth) have different facial features than women. HRT changes the face slightly, so perhaps the women you see have not yet started on hormones. Some transwomen, like Caitlyn Jenner, have surgery to make their faces more feminine. Congratulations, you're good at picking out transwomen. You're observant. But ask yourself if how these women dress affects you, and please do not out them. |
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My boss knows after I was outed by somebody who was a friend of mine, but my boss is fine with everything. I haven't told any coworkers, but I'm pretty sure that some of them suspect. A coworker used to make a lot of tranny jokes that were cruel and hurtful, but my boss and one coworker who I think knows cracked down on that and put a stop to it. I've been debating coming out to them for a few months now, but haven't yet found the courage to do it. |
Anonymous
Does this mean you present as male (Im sorry if I screw up the lingo) at work? That must be hard, I'm sorry. To have to flip back and forth like that. FWIW, I'm not sure that transitioning is the best way to treat transsexualism but I think that everyone should be allowed to live their lives in pursuit of their own happiness. |
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That's exactly right, PP. I have to present a certain why to fit in society's beauty standards for women. If I wear a dress, even if people would be able to tell from my face and body that I was DMAB, it's kind of obvious that I am at least trying to be a woman. (I hated typing out that sentence, by the way. I am not trying to be anything. I simply am.) But if I were clothes, even just jeans and a shirt, that are not obviously gendered, I get perceived as a man more often than I would like (which is never.) |
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| Thank you for doing this AMA - it is very helpful and you seem like a lovely woman. |
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No. I might have been able to suppress my feelings enough to get by on a day to day basis, but I would have been very unhappy. Every trans person has a different experience, so please understand that my views and history are mine alone. I felt uncomfortable growing up. I'm a very sensory person, so I've described it as constantly feeling like there was a tag itching me on my clothing, or that uncomfortable toe seam on socks. I was never truly at ease. I didn't hate my penis, but hated that having it meant that I was automatically supposed to subscribe to traditional masculine thoughts and actions. I felt like I was pretending. I would study what boys and men did and then replicated the behaviors that I saw, but constantly felt like I was playing a character. Transitioning has changed me from wearing an itchy wool shirt to the smoothest, softest silk shirt that feels wonderful when I wear it. |
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Cisgender is somebody whose outwards genitalia matches with their gender identity. Basically, the opposite of transgender. Some people do not like that there is a word for this, but I like having that word. It makes being trans less "other". We have a word for people who are sexually attracted to people of the opposite gender and sex (straight) that is the opposite of gay. |