I'm Transgender. Come talk to me!
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I knew something wasn't really right before I got married, but I was young and thought that things would sort themselves out as I aged. They didn't! Yes, I was straight (in that as a DMAB, I am attracted to people with vaginas and breasts). I now identify as a lesbian woman, but I'm more asexual now. I came out to my wife and some of my closest friends. Some of my friends were supportive, and others I have not heard from since that conversation. |
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Yep! http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/718619_13 Basically, there are side effects but those are minimal when weighed against the psychological and health ramifications of not doing it, particularly if you look at suicide rates among trans* teens. |
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Do you love yourself?
Did you love yourself before? |
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You're on the right track, PP. Minors who identify as being transgender often take hormone blockers so their bodies do not go through puberty. Stopping these blockers allows puberty to progress naturally, or they can go right into HRT. I wish I had been able to take those blockers. Puberty is never fun! |
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How do you feel about Caitlyn Jenner? Kristen Beck? Do you think all this media attention is helpful or harmful?
BTW, I think it's very brave to try and live your authentic life, even though it is so much more difficult. |
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Did you ever have intensive long term therapy? Specifically cognitive?
Do you wish you had? |
Gaia
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Here's a great tool for understand the spectrum that is gender/sex/orientation: http://itspronouncedmetrosexual.com/2015/03/the-genderbread-person-v3/ I'm physically attracted to women. If I'm dating a woman, she can decide what term to use for herself. I've dated once since starting my transition, and she identified as a straight woman because she was attracted to my penis. Some lesbians are not open to dating transwomen because they don't like penises, other lesbians will date transwomen because of the woman-ness in our minds. I agree, it's confusing and complicated! I personally think that trying to use labels can be harmful when it comes to orientation. Just be attracted to who you are, and don't try to fit yourself in a box. Makes life much more simple! |
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So interesting. This are really personal questions so feel free to ignore, but I'm curious so... Would you have normal intercourse with a woman now or would that feel weird to you to use your penis in that way now that you've transitioned? Would you consider dating another transgender woman (one that still has her penis)? |
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| I love you for starting this thread. Thank you. You are already handling the subtle derogatory questions graciously. |
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I'm attracted to people with vaginas and breasts. (Not everybody who has those genitalia is a woman, just as not every woman has them.) I'm pretty much asexual now (a side effect of HRT), but if I were to date, I would bring up my history before the first date. |
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"Normal intercourse"...? |
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It was fine. He worked a lot when I was growing up, but we became closer after my mother died. I'm an only child, so we were the only family the other had. I talk to him a couple of times a week now. He's retired and his girlfriend, who he met at his senior activity club, are currently on a year long trip traveling the country. |
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| How old are your kids and how is your relationship with them? |
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Penis into vagina. Not sure how else to describe it. |
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Yes, normal intercourse. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_intercourse
Or are we redefining piv too to suit some "spectrum"? |