Anonymous wrote:got it. but i also visit alot etc... she's so resentful and i think jealous of a life style that my husband and i have provided for ourselves... it sucks because i feel that family is so important...

Anonymous wrote:where are your 2 degrees from?
because your English makes me wonder...

I don't like women who go through artificial reproduction either but I don't hate them. I just feel pity...

the fact that you're trying to buy her also makes me wonder...
do you really think that just because you're rich and you can give cars, vacation and computers to people they have to like you?

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Anonymous wrote:got it. but i also visit alot etc... she's so resentful and i think jealous of a life style that my husband and i have provided for ourselves... it sucks because i feel that family is so important...

See her for what she is. You won't be able to make her into the perfect (or even good) MIL. She's probably miserable in life and there's not much you can do about that, other than be compassionate. But that doesn't mean you should let yourself get walked on either.

What does your husband say about all this, since it is his mother?

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Anonymous wrote:where are your 2 degrees from?
because your English makes me wonder...

I don't like women who go through artificial reproduction either but I don't hate them. I just feel pity...

the fact that you're trying to buy her also makes me wonder...
do you really think that just because you're rich and you can give cars, vacation and computers to people they have to like you?

i'm not rich, just middle class.

Anonymous wrote:where are your 2 degrees from?
because your English makes me wonder...

I don't like women who go through artificial reproduction either but I don't hate them. I just feel pity...

the fact that you're trying to buy her also makes me wonder...
do you really think that just because you're rich and you can give cars, vacation and computers to people they have to like you?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:where are your 2 degrees from?
because your English makes me wonder...

I don't like women who go through artificial reproduction either but I don't hate them. I just feel pity...

the fact that you're trying to buy her also makes me wonder...
do you really think that just because you're rich and you can give cars, vacation and computers to people they have to like you?

i'm not rich, just middle class.

you give money away, computers, overseas vacations, cars and now you're saying you're not rich?

please, decide.

anyway... forget the word rich and read the rest of what I wrote...

Anonymous wrote:where are your 2 degrees from?
because your English makes me wonder...

I don't like women who go through artificial reproduction either but I don't hate them. I just feel pity...

the fact that you're trying to buy her also makes me wonder...
do you really think that just because you're rich and you can give cars, vacation and computers to people they have to like you?

Anonymous wrote:where are your 2 degrees from?
because your English makes me wonder...

I don't like women who go through artificial reproduction either but I don't hate them. I just feel pity...

the fact that you're trying to buy her also makes me wonder...
do you really think that just because you're rich and you can give cars, vacation and computers to people they have to like you?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:where are your 2 degrees from?
because your English makes me wonder...

I don't like women who go through artificial reproduction either but I don't hate them. I just feel pity...

the fact that you're trying to buy her also makes me wonder...
do you really think that just because you're rich and you can give cars, vacation and computers to people they have to like you?

i'm not rich, just middle class.

you give money away, computers, overseas vacations, cars and now you're saying you're not rich?

please, decide.

anyway... forget the word rich and read the rest of what I wrote...

Anonymous wrote:...i have a mother in law who can't stand me. there are a couple of reasons: (1) i went through IVF man times and she felt I put her son through too much (actually had the gaul to ask me if he was "getting any" and told me I was the most selfish person on earth and that I should have adopted when I finally got pregnant -- all because I was having a difficult pregnancy). (2) She is not educated and I have two degrees and because of those degrees made a 6 figure salary. I'm sure that some issues stem from this difference and economic disparity.

I don't know what to do. I've sent her on at least 5 vacations (oversees etc). I've helped out her kids (loaned them money, gave them computers, cars. etc..) and her husband find jobs. But I think she still hates me...

Can anyone relate? Why do I feel so bad? I feel terribly sad that I feel her distaste for me.

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Anonymous wrote:...i have a mother in law who can't stand me. there are a couple of reasons: (1) i went through IVF man times and she felt I put her son through too much (actually had the gaul to ask me if he was "getting any" and told me I was the most selfish person on earth and that I should have adopted when I finally got pregnant -- all because I was having a difficult pregnancy). (2) She is not educated and I have two degrees and because of those degrees made a 6 figure salary. I'm sure that some issues stem from this difference and economic disparity.

I don't know what to do. I've sent her on at least 5 vacations (oversees etc). I've helped out her kids (loaned them money, gave them computers, cars. etc..) and her husband find jobs. But I think she still hates me...

Can anyone relate? Why do I feel so bad? I feel terribly sad that I feel her distaste for me.

While I do wish you luck in having a healthy child, I still wonder about your attitude. Perhaps your MIL (I'm not supporting her as my MIL is a real beast who's forced me - happily, I might add - to create boundaries) senses a haughty tone. Who cares how much you make? I suppose you have you actually discussed salary and education with her, or else why would she feel this need to lash out at you? I think you're adding to the mix.

Zip it and move on with your life. If you're this intent on having a child, you certainly don't need to deal with someone who meddles.