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Anonymous wrote:OP, you're a tool.

I know. I actually kind of hate myself. And not in the haha way but like I really despise who I am as a person.

Anonymous wrote:I've become facebook friends with a person who works in my building and she and I FB message a lot and some of it might be considered inappropriate for a married man to say. She's going through a tough time this Christmas due to aging parents health issues, being single Etc. Anyway today I told her that I was afraid of what my wife would say if she ever saw our messages. She responded that she doesn't "kiss and tell" but that we should stay friends because "remember I'm pretty fragile right now".

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Anonymous wrote:You're pretty awful OP. And I think you're just screwing around here for sport.

Kind of pathetic really.

I know I sound like a douchebag but I've been quite nice to her actually. I've listened as she griped about her 20 yr old son who makes bad choices, her issues with her parents and her sister, her loneliness etc. It's surprising how people who seem to have a "ton of friends" are really lonely inside. And when my wife has finished watching Bravo and drank a half bottle of wine before 9:30 and she's snoring like a bulldog sure we have some online fun, but like I said it's only been her sending a few pics. And it's probably made her feel good about herself and her body image.

Anonymous wrote:OP, you're a moron, but you know that. Are you just screwing around on this message board like you are with this cougar or do you want to act on some advice?

If the latter, here's what you do - send a brief note and say you know she has a lot going on in her personal life and you wish her luck. Sweet and simple. And then never message her again. Set your settings to private so she sees nothing; block her cell from your cell. Smile and say hello if you run into her at work. otherwise, don't engage in Facebook messages, nudie pic exchanges or otherwise.

If you feel guilty, and you should, you really, really should, then take this as a lesson that could have cost you your marriage, and decide to be a better person and not emotionally cheat on your wife again. This is your do-over. You are lucky you are getting one. If you decide to be a supreme douche and screw with people again, which it sounds like you will, then have a fucking brain and don't do that shit with someone you know in person. And I also hope your wife finds out. Bravo and wine is probably a zillion times better an option for her than having to deal with your small dick.

Anonymous wrote:I think you should bend her over a desk and have some mutual fun.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you're a moron, but you know that. Are you just screwing around on this message board like you are with this cougar or do you want to act on some advice?

If the latter, here's what you do - send a brief note and say you know she has a lot going on in her personal life and you wish her luck. Sweet and simple. And then never message her again. Set your settings to private so she sees nothing; block her cell from your cell. Smile and say hello if you run into her at work. otherwise, don't engage in Facebook messages, nudie pic exchanges or otherwise.

If you feel guilty, and you should, you really, really should, then take this as a lesson that could have cost you your marriage, and decide to be a better person and not emotionally cheat on your wife again. This is your do-over. You are lucky you are getting one. If you decide to be a supreme douche and screw with people again, which it sounds like you will, then have a fucking brain and don't do that shit with someone you know in person. And I also hope your wife finds out. Bravo and wine is probably a zillion times better an option for her than having to deal with your small dick.

You are correct. And yes I do know I am a moron. I don't feel great about it afterwards but in the moment I can't stop. And I understand that part of the reason that we're having these issues are probably due to my own detachment and also my not living in reality. I'm willing to admit all of that.

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if your IT people at work will tattle

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder if your IT people at work will tattle

Lol. OP, think on that. It's not just this FB friend who knows.

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I'm not stupid. I only use my cell phone and I disable Wi-Fi.

Anonymous wrote:I'm must be the only one thinking she meant she needed a friend and wouldn't cause you any trouble.