Is this a threat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you're a tool.

I know. I actually kind of hate myself. And not in the haha way but like I really despise who I am as a person.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you're a moron, but you know that. Are you just screwing around on this message board like you are with this cougar or do you want to act on some advice?

If the latter, here's what you do - send a brief note and say you know she has a lot going on in her personal life and you wish her luck. Sweet and simple. And then never message her again. Set your settings to private so she sees nothing; block her cell from your cell. Smile and say hello if you run into her at work. otherwise, don't engage in Facebook messages, nudie pic exchanges or otherwise.

If you feel guilty, and you should, you really, really should, then take this as a lesson that could have cost you your marriage, and decide to be a better person and not emotionally cheat on your wife again. This is your do-over. You are lucky you are getting one. If you decide to be a supreme douche and screw with people again, which it sounds like you will, then have a fucking brain and don't do that shit with someone you know in person. And I also hope your wife finds out. Bravo and wine is probably a zillion times better an option for her than having to deal with your small dick.

You are correct. And yes I do know I am a moron. I don't feel great about it afterwards but in the moment I can't stop. And I understand that part of the reason that we're having these issues are probably due to my own detachment and also my not living in reality. I'm willing to admit all of that.

OP, I really, really hope for you - and your wife - that you'll hear this. My husband has done much worse than what you've described in this thread, but I am hearing the same exact words from him in our therapy sessions. He has royally fucked up our lives, and he may end up losing everything that mattered to him - his wife, his child, the respect and support of his family, his home, etc.

Please get help. Please see a therapist. You need to stop speaking with the woman in question, but if you don't get yourself some help you're going to do this again, and again, and again. Please seek help for yourself now before this gets worse. Don't destroy your wife's life and self-esteem along with your own.

If you can't get yourself to a therapist soon, you might want to try this: http://www.sa.org/

[Anonymous]

Defriend her, I personally never friend folks I work with on Facebook. If I get a friend request I just ignore it and say I don't really go on facebook like that.