Is this a threat?

[Anonymous]

Dude - it's time for a gut-check. Sometimes life gives you one (ill parent or child) and sometimes you have to give it to yourself. Is this the life you imagined yourself leading? Is this the guy/husband you wanted to be?
If not, reconsider and take action before the choice is taken out of your hands (e.g. the 'work woman' rats you out to your wife, or your wife finds your messages).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm must be the only one thinking she meant she needed a friend and wouldn't cause you any trouble.

I know... paranoid DCUMers on here...

So you are married and send your friends nude pictures of yourself to them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if your IT people at work will tattle

Lol. OP, think on that. It's not just this FB friend who knows.

I'm not stupid. I only use my cell phone and I disable Wi-Fi.

You are really stupid. There's obviously no way around that. I mean c'mon.

I think you have some mental health issues you need to address. You sound like you could have NPD or some type of sexual addiction/addictive behavior. You don't seem like the type to stop this side stuff cold turkey. You sound like the type who has done this before and will do this again. If you told us you have these little text relationships with multiple other people other than the cougar no one here would be surprised. At all.

Just the fact that you are reading and replying to every message here, furthering the conversation, spinning the dumb rhetoricals, is a big indication that you are someone who needs a lot of attention. And you want it from multiple sources. Someone answering your question (yes, what you're doing is wrong) is not enough. You want everyone to weigh in, everyone to chime in and keep the conversation going so it does not end. You don't want it to end. You seem to thrive off of this drama -- the drama you created with the side piece and the drama you keep spinning here on this message board. Deep down I bet you are really insecure and depressed -- on the surface here you come off as a sheepish bad boy, looking for an excuse to emotionally screw around with someone who may have some real problems and completely dismiss your life. You are willing to have a negative impact on at least two lives - your wife's and the cougar's - yet you continue to focus on you, you, you and what you need and what you want with little to no disregard for anyone else in the situation. That's pretty sick. Take a good look at yourself - who you are and what you are portraying. WTF are you doing with your life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Ladies, up until this point is everything forgivable? I'm feeling a bit guilty. She's been FB messaging me all day and I've been ignoring her.

If you were my husband, and I found out you were engaging in explicit online flirtation with someone else, your bags would be packed. Maybe if we had kids I'd entertain the idea of counseling first, to see if you would get your head on straight. No kids? No chance.

You are not living in a fantasy world. Your attention-seeking is not innocent. It's not enough to "feel bad" about yourself. Cut the crap and knock it off, or you are going to find yourself sad and alone and you will deserve every bit of your misery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Ladies, up until this point is everything forgivable? I'm feeling a bit guilty. She's been FB messaging me all day and I've been ignoring her.

If you were my husband, and I found out you were engaging in explicit online flirtation with someone else, your bags would be packed. Maybe if we had kids I'd entertain the idea of counseling first, to see if you would get your head on straight. No kids? No chance.

You are not living in a fantasy world. Your attention-seeking is not innocent. It's not enough to "feel bad" about yourself. Cut the crap and knock it off, or you are going to find yourself sad and alone and you will deserve every bit of your misery.

Agree 100%

OP crossed the line. he is going to get what he deserves.

I laugh when stuff works out this way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if your IT people at work will tattle

Lol. OP, think on that. It's not just this FB friend who knows.

I'm not stupid. I only use my cell phone and I disable Wi-Fi.

You are really stupid. There's obviously no way around that. I mean c'mon.

I think you have some mental health issues you need to address. You sound like you could have NPD or some type of sexual addiction/addictive behavior. You don't seem like the type to stop this side stuff cold turkey. You sound like the type who has done this before and will do this again. If you told us you have these little text relationships with multiple other people other than the cougar no one here would be surprised. At all.

Just the fact that you are reading and replying to every message here, furthering the conversation, spinning the dumb rhetoricals, is a big indication that you are someone who needs a lot of attention. And you want it from multiple sources. Someone answering your question (yes, what you're doing is wrong) is not enough. You want everyone to weigh in, everyone to chime in and keep the conversation going so it does not end. You don't want it to end. You seem to thrive off of this drama -- the drama you created with the side piece and the drama you keep spinning here on this message board. Deep down I bet you are really insecure and depressed -- on the surface here you come off as a sheepish bad boy, looking for an excuse to emotionally screw around with someone who may have some real problems and completely dismiss your life. You are willing to have a negative impact on at least two lives - your wife's and the cougar's - yet you continue to focus on you, you, you and what you need and what you want with little to no disregard for anyone else in the situation. That's pretty sick. Take a good look at yourself - who you are and what you are portraying. WTF are you doing with your life?

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if your IT people at work will tattle

Lol. OP, think on that. It's not just this FB friend who knows.

I'm not stupid. I only use my cell phone and I disable Wi-Fi.

You are really stupid. There's obviously no way around that. I mean c'mon.

I think you have some mental health issues you need to address. You sound like you could have NPD or some type of sexual addiction/addictive behavior. You don't seem like the type to stop this side stuff cold turkey. You sound like the type who has done this before and will do this again. If you told us you have these little text relationships with multiple other people other than the cougar no one here would be surprised. At all.

Just the fact that you are reading and replying to every message here, furthering the conversation, spinning the dumb rhetoricals, is a big indication that you are someone who needs a lot of attention. And you want it from multiple sources. Someone answering your question (yes, what you're doing is wrong) is not enough. You want everyone to weigh in, everyone to chime in and keep the conversation going so it does not end. You don't want it to end. You seem to thrive off of this drama -- the drama you created with the side piece and the drama you keep spinning here on this message board. Deep down I bet you are really insecure and depressed -- on the surface here you come off as a sheepish bad boy, looking for an excuse to emotionally screw around with someone who may have some real problems and completely dismiss your life. You are willing to have a negative impact on at least two lives - your wife's and the cougar's - yet you continue to focus on you, you, you and what you need and what you want with little to no disregard for anyone else in the situation. That's pretty sick. Take a good look at yourself - who you are and what you are portraying. WTF are you doing with your life?

#OPdestroyed #Fact #Boom

[Anonymous]

Not for nothing, but don't you have an unmarried male friend who might be interested in meeting her, to divert her away from you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if your IT people at work will tattle

Lol. OP, think on that. It's not just this FB friend who knows.

I'm not stupid. I only use my cell phone and I disable Wi-Fi.

You are really stupid. There's obviously no way around that. I mean c'mon.

I think you have some mental health issues you need to address. You sound like you could have NPD or some type of sexual addiction/addictive behavior. You don't seem like the type to stop this side stuff cold turkey. You sound like the type who has done this before and will do this again. If you told us you have these little text relationships with multiple other people other than the cougar no one here would be surprised. At all.

Just the fact that you are reading and replying to every message here, furthering the conversation, spinning the dumb rhetoricals, is a big indication that you are someone who needs a lot of attention. And you want it from multiple sources. Someone answering your question (yes, what you're doing is wrong) is not enough. You want everyone to weigh in, everyone to chime in and keep the conversation going so it does not end. You don't want it to end. You seem to thrive off of this drama -- the drama you created with the side piece and the drama you keep spinning here on this message board. Deep down I bet you are really insecure and depressed -- on the surface here you come off as a sheepish bad boy, looking for an excuse to emotionally screw around with someone who may have some real problems and completely dismiss your life. You are willing to have a negative impact on at least two lives - your wife's and the cougar's - yet you continue to focus on you, you, you and what you need and what you want with little to no disregard for anyone else in the situation. That's pretty sick. Take a good look at yourself - who you are and what you are portraying. WTF are you doing with your life?

Did your husband cheat on you or something? You sound angry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if your IT people at work will tattle

Lol. OP, think on that. It's not just this FB friend who knows.

I'm not stupid. I only use my cell phone and I disable Wi-Fi.

You are really stupid. There's obviously no way around that. I mean c'mon.

I think you have some mental health issues you need to address. You sound like you could have NPD or some type of sexual addiction/addictive behavior. You don't seem like the type to stop this side stuff cold turkey. You sound like the type who has done this before and will do this again. If you told us you have these little text relationships with multiple other people other than the cougar no one here would be surprised. At all.

Just the fact that you are reading and replying to every message here, furthering the conversation, spinning the dumb rhetoricals, is a big indication that you are someone who needs a lot of attention. And you want it from multiple sources. Someone answering your question (yes, what you're doing is wrong) is not enough. You want everyone to weigh in, everyone to chime in and keep the conversation going so it does not end. You don't want it to end. You seem to thrive off of this drama -- the drama you created with the side piece and the drama you keep spinning here on this message board. Deep down I bet you are really insecure and depressed -- on the surface here you come off as a sheepish bad boy, looking for an excuse to emotionally screw around with someone who may have some real problems and completely dismiss your life. You are willing to have a negative impact on at least two lives - your wife's and the cougar's - yet you continue to focus on you, you, you and what you need and what you want with little to no disregard for anyone else in the situation. That's pretty sick. Take a good look at yourself - who you are and what you are portraying. WTF are you doing with your life?

Did your husband cheat on you or something? You sound angry.

PP doesn't sound angry at all- they sound like they have the OP pegged!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I actually don't plan to have actual physical intercourse with her. I like the play, and her sendinme pics etc but I don't want to get inside of her. That's a line I won't cross. She's tried to have coffee or grab lunch and I blow it off.

Oh, honey, you are so amazingly naive. I love how you think you set a boundary. Well, obviously you haven't. What you've done is let her think you are or could be available if she played her cards right. Stop deluding yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Ladies, up until this point is everything forgivable? I'm feeling a bit guilty. She's been FB messaging me all day and I've been ignoring her.

If you were my husband, and I found out you were engaging in explicit online flirtation with someone else, your bags would be packed. Maybe if we had kids I'd entertain the idea of counseling first, to see if you would get your head on straight. No kids? No chance.

You are not living in a fantasy world. Your attention-seeking is not innocent. It's not enough to "feel bad" about yourself. Cut the crap and knock it off, or you are going to find yourself sad and alone and you will deserve every bit of your misery.

Agree. OP is now going on about feeling bad, which is something that some people use as an excuse, as in, I did the wrong thing but I feel really, really bad about it. OP, you don't get points for feeling bad about it. You get points for taking action and changing your behavior.

[Anonymous]

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. You made a mistake, you wanted an ego boost, you got it.

And you've just given your wife, who's at worst a garden-variety inconsiderate wife, a martyr card for the next few years (or for life if she's feeling particularly vengeful.)

The women posting about how they'd throw out a guy who did that are blowhards, though, I doubt 1 of 10 would actually do what they say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if your IT people at work will tattle

Lol. OP, think on that. It's not just this FB friend who knows.

I'm not stupid. I only use my cell phone and I disable Wi-Fi.

You are really stupid. There's obviously no way around that. I mean c'mon.

I think you have some mental health issues you need to address. You sound like you could have NPD or some type of sexual addiction/addictive behavior. You don't seem like the type to stop this side stuff cold turkey. You sound like the type who has done this before and will do this again. If you told us you have these little text relationships with multiple other people other than the cougar no one here would be surprised. At all.

Just the fact that you are reading and replying to every message here, furthering the conversation, spinning the dumb rhetoricals, is a big indication that you are someone who needs a lot of attention. And you want it from multiple sources. Someone answering your question (yes, what you're doing is wrong) is not enough. You want everyone to weigh in, everyone to chime in and keep the conversation going so it does not end. You don't want it to end. You seem to thrive off of this drama -- the drama you created with the side piece and the drama you keep spinning here on this message board. Deep down I bet you are really insecure and depressed -- on the surface here you come off as a sheepish bad boy, looking for an excuse to emotionally screw around with someone who may have some real problems and completely dismiss your life. You are willing to have a negative impact on at least two lives - your wife's and the cougar's - yet you continue to focus on you, you, you and what you need and what you want with little to no disregard for anyone else in the situation. That's pretty sick. Take a good look at yourself - who you are and what you are portraying. WTF are you doing with your life?

Did your husband cheat on you or something? You sound angry.

PP doesn't sound angry at all- they sound like they have the OP pegged!

Agreed!

[Anonymous]

This is no worse then flirting with a woman that you meet at a bar during happy hour with the guys.