Anonymous wrote:Tell your husband you're going to the gym to "get back in shape" and leave the house for eight hours. Leave the baby with him. Don't call home and come back after eight hours looking deliriously happy.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell your husband you're going to the gym to "get back in shape" and leave the house for eight hours. Leave the baby with him. Don't call home and come back after eight hours looking deliriously happy.

+1000. Do this + mani pedi shopping spree

Anonymous wrote:I am 3 weeks postpartum and DH keeps making upsetting comments about me not losing weight. I am a petite woman ( pre-pregnancy, 5'2, 110lbs) and I gained 33lbs during pregnancy. With breastfeeding and eating healthy, I managed to lose 20 something lbs already. I haven't been able to get rid of these last 10lbs but I'm not too worried and I'm more focused on motherhood. I was all belly but 10lbs does look like more for a person with my frame. DH likes very petite women and has said things like

" do you fit into your old clothes, yet?"
" do you remember when you were skinny enough to fit into your bikini and lingerie I like? Those were great memories"

When I tell him I do want to get back to my normal weight but its been 3 weeks and I have more important matters. When he can see I'm upset, he will throw in line " it will make you feel your best and more confident. I just want you to be happy and feel you look good". It frustrates me to no end. I'm already feeling frumpy and unattractive. I don't need my husband, who should be my #1 supporter, harping on me. I'm at a loss here.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell your husband you're going to the gym to "get back in shape" and leave the house for eight hours. Leave the baby with him. Don't call home and come back after eight hours looking deliriously happy.

+1000. Do this + mani pedi shopping spree

Yes!

Anonymous wrote:Why do women marry men like this? And then they have babies with them. OP, I hope you didn't have a girl because he is going to destroy her self esteem, especially if she is not naturally skinny.

I don't think there is anything you can do. You married an asshole. You should certainly put your foot down and be firm and tell him never to make a comment like that again but he won't understand it because he is a dick.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, he is being a jerk in the way he is communicating but really it's more likely he is having a hard time coping with all the changes of parenthood and realizing that things have permanently changed in his life. He just wants things back to the way they were and he is grasping at straws and likely even a bit depressed. It's not an excuse for his comments but some acknowledgement here and there about all the changes might make him slightly less apprehensive.

MikeL wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do women marry men like this? And then they have babies with them. OP, I hope you didn't have a girl because he is going to destroy her self esteem, especially if she is not naturally skinny.

I don't think there is anything you can do. You married an asshole. You should certainly put your foot down and be firm and tell him never to make a comment like that again but he won't understand it because he is a dick.

+1

Anonymous wrote:Tell him to sh*t a butternut squash and see how much working out he feels like doing.

It will come off by breastfeeding over the next 3-4 months. Don't sweat it, just take the credit!

Anonymous wrote:Wow, no way can this be real. No one is that big of a dick to their wife.