- DH making negative comments about me weight
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I am 3 weeks postpartum and DH keeps making upsetting comments about me not losing weight. I am a petite woman ( pre-pregnancy, 5'2, 110lbs) and I gained 33lbs during pregnancy. With breastfeeding and eating healthy, I managed to lose 20 something lbs already. I haven't been able to get rid of these last 10lbs but I'm not too worried and I'm more focused on motherhood. I was all belly but 10lbs does look like more for a person with my frame. DH likes very petite women and has said things like
" do you fit into your old clothes, yet?" " do you remember when you were skinny enough to fit into your bikini and lingerie I like? Those were great memories" When I tell him I do want to get back to my normal weight but its been 3 weeks and I have more important matters. When he can see I'm upset, he will throw in line " it will make you feel your best and more confident. I just want you to be happy and feel you look good". It frustrates me to no end. I'm already feeling frumpy and unattractive. I don't need my husband, who should be my #1 supporter, harping on me. I'm at a loss here. |
Anonymous
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DH here and sorry but your husband is a complete asshole. |
Anonymous
| Your husband is being a complete fucking asshole. Three weeks postpartum and he expects you to bounce right back into your pre-baby weight and shape? That is absolutely ridiculous. You are doing great!!!! Only10 pounds extra - that's nothing!!!! Don't listen to him and if need be show him this thread because he is truly an idiot. If I could I would punch him in the face for you. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| Maybe mention to him that you're not supposed to be working out or doing anything physical until after the 6 week check-up, so the fact that you've lost 20+ pounds just by eating right and breastfeeding is pretty great and you're not risking your physical health to lose 10 pounds right now whether he likes it or not?! |
Anonymous
+2 |
Anonymous
| A human came out of your body 3 weeks ago. It's just completely inappropriate to suggest that you should you losing weight/getting in shape now. |
Anonymous
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Wow. Just wow.
I would like to punch your husband in the face right now. For being such an insensitive and inconsiderate jerk. And that is to put if quite mildly. You have given him a healthy child for God's sake + that is how he is thanking you for it??! Where's the gratitude?? Your main priority now should be on nurturing your precious new baby and keeping him/her comfortable and healthy, not making sure your husband has nice arm candy to look at every day. Boy, he sure needs to get his priorities straight. This could seriously put you at risk for PPD. OP, ignore this idiot and everything he is saying and stay on the track you are on. Focus on keeping your new child happy because his/her happiness is what matters most now. Your husband's can wait. |
Anonymous
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Tell him that if he needs something realistic to worry about, he should check out his own ass in the mirror. Or show him this thread.
Total jerk. No way for you to soft-pedal it. |
Anonymous
| What a horrific person. |
Anonymous
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I'm sorry to say that I think you chose poorly.
You are doing great, seriously. But if you're 3 weeks pp and he's focused in on your weight, you married a real dud. |
Anonymous
| Total miscommunication - OP is hearing what she thinks not what he says. |
Anonymous
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Why do women marry men like this? And then they have babies with them. OP, I hope you didn't have a girl because he is going to destroy her self esteem, especially if she is not naturally skinny.
I don't think there is anything you can do. You married an asshole. You should certainly put your foot down and be firm and tell him never to make a comment like that again but he won't understand it because he is a dick. |
Anonymous
and you know this how? |
Anonymous
Because I am OP's DH. 
Sorry OP, he is a f'king moron! |