- DH making negative comments about me weight

[Anonymous]

You can't even have sex for another 3 weeks.

[Anonymous]

What a piece of shit. I am so sorry, OP. The way I see it, you have one option: put him in the doghouse till he loses his fucked up attitude. What a dud, ugh.

[Anonymous]

DH here -

My wife is fourteen YEARS postpartum and I'm still hoping the scale will stop moving UP, but at least I have the sense to keep my mouth shut.

5'2" and 123? Omg. Your husband is apparently blind as well as grossly insensitive. I guess everything's relative, cuz I'd jump that lovely little bod in a heartbeat ...

[Anonymous]

I re-read ... So 120 lbs, even better.

[Anonymous]

Ongoing it's only been three weeks!! It takes time. IME, by three months, I was back to or lower than, prepregnancy weight.
Your husband sounds like a jerk. Tell him that it's not even recommended to exercise until 6 weeks. Your body has gone through massive changes.

[Anonymous]

That's a dick move. Tell him it's offensive and you don't want to hear that shit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
DH here and sorry but your husband is a complete asshole.

+1

[Anonymous]

You stop this right now or he will keep doing this for years. Tell him what he says us unacceptable or you walk.

[Anonymous]

Tell your husband to fuck off or get into therapy.

[Anonymous]

Tell your husband you're going to the gym to "get back in shape" and leave the house for eight hours. Leave the baby with him. Don't call home and come back after eight hours looking deliriously happy.

[Anonymous]

Yes, he is being a jerk in the way he is communicating but really it's more likely he is having a hard time coping with all the changes of parenthood and realizing that things have permanently changed in his life. He just wants things back to the way they were and he is grasping at straws and likely even a bit depressed. It's not an excuse for his comments but some acknowledgement here and there about all the changes might make him slightly less apprehensive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 3 weeks postpartum and DH keeps making upsetting comments about me not losing weight. I am a petite woman ( pre-pregnancy, 5'2, 110lbs) and I gained 33lbs during pregnancy. With breastfeeding and eating healthy, I managed to lose 20 something lbs already. I haven't been able to get rid of these last 10lbs but I'm not too worried and I'm more focused on motherhood. I was all belly but 10lbs does look like more for a person with my frame. DH likes very petite women and has said things like

" do you fit into your old clothes, yet?"
" do you remember when you were skinny enough to fit into your bikini and lingerie I like? Those were great memories"

When I tell him I do want to get back to my normal weight but its been 3 weeks and I have more important matters. When he can see I'm upset, he will throw in line " it will make you feel your best and more confident. I just want you to be happy and feel you look good". It frustrates me to no end. I'm already feeling frumpy and unattractive. I don't need my husband, who should be my #1 supporter, harping on me. I'm at a loss here.

Tell him you read about a wonderful, result-guaranteed diet that will let you lose [insert approximation of his weight] pounds in a very short time span. Then add it's called the Divorce Diet.

Even if I believed in intentional weightloss, which I don't, you're three week post partum, FCS. Whose child is that again? He's being a huge a-hole.

[Anonymous]

Is it possible that you are hyper sensitive and hormonal and are taking his words out of context? When I had my baby, every weight comment was exaggerated by my own insecurities. Just trying to offer a slightly different perspective than your DH is an asshole. Maybe talk to him about it?

[Anonymous]

3 weeks out and he's already giving you crap? What a superficial, insensitive ass. I'm sorry that you are stuck with him. It's only going to get worse.

[Anonymous]

Kill him in his sleep. Kidding, though that is what he deserves.