Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Black people prefer to be with their own people. White people can't do that. It's racist.

So they tend to have one black friend as to avoid being labeled a racist.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP. I'm not trying extra hard to be nice to an AA woman because she's an AA woman - come on, how condescending is that?

I'm a girl's girl. I like other women. 99% of my friends are women so when I'm getting along with a woman, and she happens to be AA, I'll try and relate to her and chat. But while the AA lady will be receptive and friendly ON THE SURFACE, it never goes deeper - she keeps a wall up, where other women don't. I can't ask her out to the movies. She makes excuses to avoid outings and hangs out with only her black friends, etc.

Maybe you come as fake. Maybe she doesn't want any more friends, or commitments. Her specific behavior doesn't reflect the way all black people act.

Maybe you come off as annoying. You certainly do here, to me. And I'm white.

Agree and I'm black...

Anonymous wrote:African American woman here. I find that white people try VERY hard to act nice to me/us, as if they feel they have to be nice to us for lynching our people way back in the day. It's ok, I forgive, now act normal.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Black people prefer to be with their own people. White people can't do that. It's racist.

So they tend to have one black friend as to avoid being labeled a racist.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Black people prefer to be with their own people. White people can't do that. It's racist.

So they tend to have one black friend as to avoid being labeled a racist.

I do have black friends (plural) but non is AA. I assume OPs question refers to AAs.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Black people prefer to be with their own people. White people can't do that. It's racist.

So they tend to have one black friend as to avoid being labeled a racist.

I do have black friends (plural) but non is AA. I assume OPs question refers to AAs.

Anonymous wrote:OP here - this is something I've seen as a pattern since college. Not only towards me, but to anyone who is not black in general. Otherwise I wouldn't comment on it.

Anonymous wrote:First of all, segregation was a social and political SYSTEM that was an expression of white power that oppressed, exploited a critical mass of black people, so it is inappropriate and quite off to say that blacks are "self-segregating themselves."

Furthermore, whites create and maintain spaces for themselves all the time. Historically, when Blacks have entered white spaces it has often resulted in violence against them. So when blacks are too themselves now, it is because these are safe and normal cultural spaces where we can be ourselves. Other ethnic groups create their own cultural spaces too, and are not questioned.

Thirdly, it is the epitome of white privilege that would allow someone to actually pose such a question.

Fourth, if you are genuinely interested, please read some history books by authors such as Akinyele Umoja and Hasan Jeffries.

Anonymous wrote:First of all, segregation was a social and political SYSTEM that was an expression of white power that oppressed, exploited a critical mass of black people, so it is inappropriate and quite off to say that blacks are "self-segregating themselves."

Furthermore, whites create and maintain spaces for themselves all the time. Historically, when Blacks have entered white spaces it has often resulted in violence against them. So when blacks are too themselves now, it is because these are safe and normal cultural spaces where we can be ourselves. Other ethnic groups create their own cultural spaces too, and are not questioned.

Thirdly, it is the epitome of white privilege that would allow someone to actually pose such a question.

Fourth, if you are genuinely interested, please read some history books by authors such as Akinyele Umoja and Hasan Jeffries.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First of all, segregation was a social and political SYSTEM that was an expression of white power that oppressed, exploited a critical mass of black people, so it is inappropriate and quite off to say that blacks are "self-segregating themselves."

Furthermore, whites create and maintain spaces for themselves all the time. Historically, when Blacks have entered white spaces it has often resulted in violence against them. So when blacks are too themselves now, it is because these are safe and normal cultural spaces where we can be ourselves. Other ethnic groups create their own cultural spaces too, and are not questioned.

Thirdly, it is the epitome of white privilege that would allow someone to actually pose such a question.

Fourth, if you are genuinely interested, please read some history books by authors such as Akinyele Umoja and Hasan Jeffries.

Fifth, those four points are BS. Your body your choice, just don't blame the universe for what you/ others choose to do in 2014.

Anonymous wrote:First of all, segregation was a social and political SYSTEM that was an expression of white power that oppressed, exploited a critical mass of black people, so it is inappropriate and quite off to say that blacks are "self-segregating themselves."

Furthermore, whites create and maintain spaces for themselves all the time. Historically, when Blacks have entered white spaces it has often resulted in violence against them. So when blacks are too themselves now, it is because these are safe and normal cultural spaces where we can be ourselves. Other ethnic groups create their own cultural spaces too, and are not questioned.

Thirdly, it is the epitome of white privilege that would allow someone to actually pose such a question.

Fourth, if you are genuinely interested, please read some history books by authors such as Akinyele Umoja and Hasan Jeffries.