
Agree. Very good. EXCEPT "dad played". As a mom that played with a USWNT and married to a man that never played the game--I still see coaches on the boys side treat all mothers like a bunch of dumb soccer moms serving only for secretarial/managerial duties and snacks. Truth is some of us are more knowledgeable than the dad you assume is a soccer wunderkind because he has a foreign acccent. |
I cant tell you how happy I am to hear that... "mom played" instead of "dad played". This is a huge turning of the corner for the womens/girls game and something you rarely, rarely would have heard 10-15 years ago.
Thank you for the "mom played" post.. I am mostly focused on coaching girls teams right now and this comment just made my day ![]() |
I was here when WAGs started. This area was a hot bed of women's soccer in the 80s. Now former teammates are mothers to players as well. I run into many of them at tournaments/games. There are many of us--college players, national championship players on the sidelines all around the DMV. |
I can appreciate anyone who has played regardless of gender. What I do say is, come forward and provide a helping hand. Many do but not enough. I would rather see a mom that has played the game help, then a dad that has never kicked a ball. Unfortunately I have seen this many times. What can be done so that women do step and feel comfortable coaching or assisting? I've sometimes heard that women don't want to coach boys. Why not? Men coach girls so why can't it be the other way around. |
You can have great coaches and sessions, but I think what is lacking is kids working hard at home. Technique needs to be taught at practice such as shooting, passing, receiving, dribbling, etc etc but it needs to be practiced at home. Footskills need to be practiced at home at least every other day. Kids aren't able to trap a ball well after 2 or 3 sessions with coach. Kids need to practice...AT HOME! So many parents use soccer as baby sitting. The club I'm at has basically a kiss and ride at the field for U9/u10s/U11s. Parents don't even stay to see what's going on and leaves their 8 year old or whatever for up to 2 hours. They don't see what they are doing, if they are clowning around, etc. When I hear someone say that we don't have the culture in this country, what it makes me think of is that we don't have enough parents who love it and encourage working at home and being involved in a positive manner. We get nannies dropping junior off who tackles 5 kids during practice and the soccer mom/dad saying, "I love to watch you play." I'm not saying we need to scream from the sidelines but get involved. Play with them. Juggle with them. Play a little 1v1 with them. Ask them to show you some tricks. Ask them to show you what they are working on at practice. Let the kids dribble around the house with a size 1. Watch a game with them at home and have them explain what offsides is. Get off your phones. Pay attention. |
Great posts recently, very big picture that I agree with, but then I go back and read ones like this and think of my situation. Or many friends situations. Due to traffic, etc., we are at the best club we can find within reason, have the kids playing on very good teams (if you are evaluating based on results), but realize that our only option in this system is to wait for the system to continue to improve at the big picture level, and continue what we've been doing on the side, and with friends, if we really want something better. We watch the men play at these local pick-up fields, and how I'd love it if my kids could speak Spanish and were old enough to participate. I guess our only option is to accept the system, know that it is flawed, work to improve at the margins, and continue to seek out families who like to play soccer and build experiences around it outside of practice. But I am still put off by how much money we have to pay within the current system for what we get, too many teams training on one field, the tournamentitas (6 tournaments for a U9 team is NOT necessary!), etc. . . . but I don't see any other way to have good competition avenues with your school and community peers. My kids want to be on these teams with friends, but even they see now that the style of soccer being reinforced by the relative age effect and the "send her/him" crowds, is not the style of soccer we preach for our family's youngers. The sad thing is when I see the system start to work against my DC and I see them trading attempts at the beautiful game, even in the wing channels, for the more predictable big crosses of teammates. Makes me sad. Also, makes it hard to parent your child if system, club, coach, teammates, parent, and player are all on different pages about, for example, what sort of risks a younger should take when they receive the ball in the middle third. Sure we can let the game teach them, but they are being influenced in all sorts of directions, and many times these messages are allinconsistent. And no parent wants to tell their kid to ignore a certain aspect of the system or coach. We pay a lot of money for soccer. I wish I had some outlet that I could get behind. But I don't. For now, guess will just continue with our family's approach to date. I know several families who feel the same as us, but the VAST majority have no clue, and just drop their kids off and think everything is great because their kid is on the top team and scores lots of goals. ANYWAY, great posts, thanks to all. |
+100 I could have wrote this post myself. Wow. |
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These posts tell me that we are approaching the corner. I fully expect my grandkids to have a completely different experience. Even the technical difference between my oldest kids cohort and my youngest, separated by 4 years, is eye opening. But then I learned and sought out those pockets where the appreciation of technical play was evident. I also focused far more energy into working on the technical aspects of development. As long as I have my kids in the right environment they will grow to love the sport as well as players and will carry that passion, knowledge and experience forward. |
I help organize pickup soccer on fridays 5:30-7:00 at Draper Drive Park in fairfax, for boys and girls. Anyone who reads this is invited to come out tonight.
Most of the kids are U12 and younger but kids slightly older than that are certainly welcome to play also. All ability levels welcome. |
I think we get too hung up on "I love to watch you play." The idea is that too many parents get their kids in the car and launch into a dissection of what just happened, often from a place of pure ignorance.
You can say "I love to watch you play" after a game and then come back during the week and say, "Hey, want to work on that left foot?" |
I used "I love to watch you play" in my post to mean that some parents have no idea what to say other than that! They don't even care or know that their kid can't/won't use his/her weak foot (as an example to match yours). I honestly, don't care if people say that to their kids because I actually do love to watch my kids play, but I also am able to discuss strengths and weaknesses with them because I actually DO watch them play. |
Has Loudoun, Arlington or BRYC announced a DA girls tryout date? Ask yourself....why not?..they are affiliated with Spirit right? ....lol....truth is everyone affiliated with spirit is pulling out...to include the guy who was supposed to run the Academy....so now Loudoun is scrambling...they are in talks to work out a deal with FCV. |
What does Loudoun have that FCV wants? |
I have two boys so I don't pay attention to this girl stuff very much but I've been following these posts and I have no f-ing clue what is going on!!! I can't understand any of it. Head hurts. I'm glad I don't have a girl. : ) |
Fields and thousands of players |