Are you the Aids worker again? if so I'm sure you've heard the term "cultural competence"? You need to get your head out of the sand and start understanding some of the traditions of the populations that you claim to treat. If you truly understood the issue you would know that there is a huge range of ways in which FGM is performed. Please stop acting as if I am suggesting that it is a good thing. It is not. neither is cutting healthy tissue off an infant boy. |
I forgot my cite for the first quote with bolded risks / benefits, which was acog itself, since that's what you asked for. http://www.acog.org/~/media/For%20Patients/faq039.pdf?dmc=1&ts=20130411T1533015256 |
Sorry, dictionary wanna be, but you don't get to police the language. My kid is intact. your kid is, by definition, not intact. You may use a euphemism if you like, but you can't force me to do the same so you feel better about what you did. And yes, I stand behind my belief that no parent should be forcing elective surgery on a newborn for cosmetic reasons or because their "god" tells them to. How ridiculous. |
therefore, your "intact" child is superior to all others. Even if it grows up to be a total asshole, he'll be a superior asshole!
when I was in high school I worked at a high-end toy store - everyone's child was a genius who was well beyond every one of his/her classmates. Another truth about parenting in a wealthy area of the country, it seems. |
I don't understand - is this supposed to sway someone against or in favor of it? It seems like a pretty neutral report to me. Outlines potential risks, benefits, and what to expect regardless of the decision you make. Then again, I'm not trying to be convinced either way (and am hoping for a girl!). This report actually illustrated to me how difficult it must have been for my DH to figure out how to properly care for himself since his father was circumsized and had no idea how to help his son with the tight foreskin. Poor guy, peeing everywhere. Though now I have to ask him what his excuse is for still missing sometimes! |
Not only are you ignorant, but you're nasty too. Not the "Aids Worker" but totally in agreement with the PP you cite above. Outside the cultural roots there is NO similarity between female and male circumcision in terms of the severity of the procedure. And if you're going to use terms like cultural competence, at least apply it to the correct context (or don't use it because it simply reinforces that you don't really know what you're talking about). Also, anatomy brush up: foreskin isn't tissue.... It's skin and membrane. A labia on the other hand is tissue. Thanks for playing, though. |
Here's the problem I have with the term "intact". It's not nice. Just say, your child is not circumcised. That's fine. The term intact is loaded with the implication of superiority. Are you teaching your child that circumcised children are incomplete? How will that play out in the school yard? Not well I imagine. What's funny is that circumcised children don't walk around talking about being circumcised. It's the people who didn't have their children circumcised that seem hell bent on finding out the situation in everyone's pants. |
This discussion is so amusing. I imagine most of us have circumcised husbands. Are any of them traumatized? Mine certainly isn't. The way some of you are describing it, you'd think they'd all be in professional therapy or support groups. |
I was a nervous wreck but I did it. We are not observant but we are proud Jews. Circumcision is not optional for us. |
This is a response from the forum about female circumcision that was referenced earlier in this thread...interesting...sounds familiar. Althought I'm sure many of you would never consider doing this to your girls.
"Re: Have you Sunat your girls? Did sunat a week ago. Actually very mild. They basically removed about a third of your hood and leave the clitoris in tact. So basically your clitoris is exposed rather than covered by the hood. No pain and recovered in under a week. Thanks for everyone for there help" |
What I find horrific is telling an 8yo girl that you're taking her to a party in her honor, then leading her into a shed where some old lady with no medical training, no anesthetic, and unsanitary tools slices off her clitoral hood (or does any other form of FC/FGM under the same conditions). Honestly, if they wanted to remove the clitoral hood (or less) at infancy, with anesthetic and a doctor in a hospital, and valid scientific evidence showed that the risk was less than or at least roughly equal to any medical benefit--no, I would not have a problem with that. But the two procedures are so far different from each other that there is just no comparison, and it's offensive to suggest there is. |
Intact is accurate. It's not my job to use your euphemisms. Do you go around saying your hair is "uncut" or do you say long? You don't "un-circumcize" meaning, you don't undo it. Are you "un-tonsiiectomied" or do you just "have tonsils?" are you "un-ear tubed" or are your ears as is? Circumcise is a verb. Circumcised is a state of being. My baby is not "uncircumcised," though you're certainly free to use your own preferred terms. You either change the status-quo by actively circumcising, or you leave the baby intact, which is not "mean," it is simply an accurate description. I did not say incomplete, and I did not say, as a PP suggested, say "superior." I don't think my kid is superior to yours, though I think I made the right decision and you did not, it has nothing to do with your child. My DH is circ'd and uses the term intact to describe our son. He doesn't feel incomplete in any way, he is just secure enough to use the term accurately. |
I will readily grant that the majority of circumcisions go just fine and the typical adult circumcised man is "happy" with his penis. However, this does not negate the many men who have: buried penis, extensive scarring, pieces accidentally taken from their glans, skin bridges, meatal stenois, tight/painful erections, or experience loss of sensation (especially as they get older). I assure you that yes, these men are indeed traumatized by their circumcisions. Research helps you understand that while these things are not common, they absolutely do exist -- and circumcising your baby puts him (unnecessarily) at risk for any of these potential complications. Of course, the boys who actually die due to infection or blood loss have only their traumatized parents to speak for them. |
Do you really think this is representative if most female circumcisons? Educate yourself on FGM and then weigh in. Also, I don't believe for one second that removing a woman's clitoral hood isn't painful - you are delusional. |
I'm not Jewish, but my husband is. We did not circumcise our son because my husband did not want to and neither did I (for all of the reasons you can imagine).
We live on the Upper West Side, home to a large population of Jews of all types (including a huge community of Orthodox Jews), and our pediatrician said that it's about 50/50 among all of her patients. This suggests to me that there's a significant number of Jews who choose not to circumcise, but I could be wrong. |