"You're not as hot as when we got married"

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[Post New]07/21/2012 13:12
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:This is a direct quote from my husband when I asked him if he thought I had a flabby belly after two kids. I lost a huge amount of weight following my 2nd pregnancy but still have a chubby abdomen from excess skin. Husband considers himself "direct, no nonsense". Is there any way to interpret this in other than a completely insulting light? He said in the same sentence that he is still very turned on by me...but needless to say I am furious.


This is why I hate the totally American obsession of labeling people as "hot". So we are all reduced to some 1-10 scale and have to constantly work on how attractive we would be if single again?
[Post New]07/21/2012 14:10
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Anonymous
Of course my feelings would be hurt. However, I also know that I shouldn't have asked the question.
[Post New]07/21/2012 20:13
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Anonymous
He's an ass but, you shouldn't have asked.

Spend his money getting as hot as you were.
[Post New]07/21/2012 20:16
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Anonymous
She didn't ask if she was as hot. So it was gratuitous meanness on his part.
[Post New]07/21/2012 20:53
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Anonymous
Make him pay for the rummy tuck, problem solved
[Post New]07/22/2012 04:28
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Yes, a man who comments on a woman's weight is abusive. Everybody knows that.



You are obviously an ass.
[Post New]07/22/2012 11:25
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Anonymous
As a husband, you strike me as high maintenance. I told my wife when we were dating that I'd never blow smoke up her ass. She got really upset and was like "Sometimes I am shallow and just need to hear you think I look pretty!" So I said that was fine, and I'd make sure to compliment her when she DID look pretty, but when she is in sweats, not working out, not doing her hair, I'm not going to say she looks pretty.

It's worked well for us. You should always assume that getting plastic surgery to tighten or take away droops are a good thing. You don't need bigger tits, but hike up the ones you've got when it's an option. You asked, he answered. Get over yourself.
[Post New]07/22/2012 11:48
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Anonymous
OP, you know you aren't as hot as you were when you got married. That's why you asked the question. Your husband stated the obvious. Don't be pissed at him for it.

If what you really wanted to know is whether he is still attracted to you, you should ask him if he is still attracted to you.

Age is gonna get us all, eventually. At 43, I'm not as hot as I was when I was 20 or 30. I have mad blow job skills, though. My husband is still attracted to me.
[Post New]07/22/2012 11:55
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Anonymous
Let it go. Your husband is a straight shooter and it's delusional to think that you can be as hot as you were five or ten years ago. Please don't make this into a huge "That thing you said that one time," because it's just not worth it. If you are talking about a plastic surgery, things are going to be said that may be "tough" to hear.
[Post New]07/22/2012 12:03
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Anonymous
Seriously? I think you need to grow up - you say in your post that he said you still totally turn him on, isn't that enough? I mean, come on - do you think ANY of us are hot as we were when we met our husbands? Probably not.
[Post New]07/22/2012 12:03
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:As a husband, you strike me as high maintenance. I told my wife when we were dating that I'd never blow smoke up her ass. She got really upset and was like "Sometimes I am shallow and just need to hear you think I look pretty!" So I said that was fine, and I'd make sure to compliment her when she DID look pretty, but when she is in sweats, not working out, not doing her hair, I'm not going to say she looks pretty.

It's worked well for us. You should always assume that getting plastic surgery to tighten or take away droops are a good thing. You don't need bigger tits, but hike up the ones you've got when it's an option. You asked, he answered. Get over yourself.



Keep telling yourself you have a good excuse to be a dick.
[Post New]07/22/2012 22:00
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Anonymous
I don't know many people who are as hot as they were when they got married. but being married for a long time offers other kinds of gifts- comfort, security, intimacy..etc..
[Post New]07/22/2012 22:44
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hotteach
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Am hotter now than when I married (now separated for a month due to emotional, physical, and alcohol abuse)...I have a lot to offer...but I also know NOT to ask DH what he thinks...he's an ass most of the time!! HAHA!
[Post New]07/23/2012 15:06
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Anonymous
You know who you married; why expect anything other than honesty? And I don't think it was nasty, as he said 'Im still attracted to you, you are hot, not AS hot...'

If you are really thinking about the tummy tuck, though, I'd go back and review some before/afters with him and ask if he prefers loose skin or a scar. He may find a scar even less hot. If it were my hubby I'd ask, because I do care what he thinks.
[Post New]07/23/2012 16:02
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:As a husband, you strike me as high maintenance. I told my wife when we were dating that I'd never blow smoke up her ass. She got really upset and was like "Sometimes I am shallow and just need to hear you think I look pretty!" So I said that was fine, and I'd make sure to compliment her when she DID look pretty, but when she is in sweats, not working out, not doing her hair, I'm not going to say she looks pretty.

It's worked well for us. You should always assume that getting plastic surgery to tighten or take away droops are a good thing. You don't need bigger tits, but hike up the ones you've got when it's an option. You asked, he answered. Get over yourself.


Oh...wow.
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