"You're not as hot as when we got married"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a husband, you strike me as high maintenance. I told my wife when we were dating that I'd never blow smoke up her ass. She got really upset and was like "Sometimes I am shallow and just need to hear you think I look pretty!" So I said that was fine, and I'd make sure to compliment her when she DID look pretty, but when she is in sweats, not working out, not doing her hair, I'm not going to say she looks pretty.

It's worked well for us. You should always assume that getting plastic surgery to tighten or take away droops are a good thing. You don't need bigger tits, but hike up the ones you've got when it's an option. You asked, he answered. Get over yourself.

Keep telling yourself you have a good excuse to be a dick.

D'ya think his little dick needs to be "hiked up"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course my feelings would be hurt. However, I also know that I shouldn't have asked the question.

+1

[Anonymous]

The correct response is, "Neither are you, honey"...

[Anonymous]

Just work out more. Oh, and I bet DH isn't a prize. Remind him of that. Oh, and flirt with other men.

[Anonymous]

Women shouldn't ask these questions and men should not answer them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women shouldn't ask these questions and men should not answer them.

No. Women will ask. Men need to learn the correct answers. My husband always gets it right and that is why he gets laid regularly while so many of you do without.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women shouldn't ask these questions and men should not answer them.

No. Women will ask. Men need to learn the correct answers. My husband always gets it right and that is why he gets laid regularly while so many of you do without.

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+1
I like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women shouldn't ask these questions and men should not answer them.

No. Women will ask. Men need to learn the correct answers. My husband always gets it right and that is why he gets laid regularly while so many of you do without.

My wife continues to ask this type of question, and after 30+ years together with her, I'm still trying to get it right. Of course I'm always up for getting laid more often ( I actually find her hotter now than when she was younger). So what does your husband respond that "gets it right"? I may be an old dog, but I'm open to learn new ways to keep her (and me) satisfied.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women shouldn't ask these questions and men should not answer them.

No. Women will ask. Men need to learn the correct answers. My husband always gets it right and that is why he gets laid regularly while so many of you do without.

My wife continues to ask this type of question, and after 30+ years together with her, I'm still trying to get it right. Of course I'm always up for getting laid more often ( I actually find her hotter now than when she was younger). So what does your husband respond that "gets it right"? I may be an old dog, but I'm open to learn new ways to keep her (and me) satisfied.

I'm with you pal. 25 years together and maybe she is not techncially hotter, but just the thought that we have done it hundreds of times for whatever reason makes me want it more. It's as if there is a challenge to always making it different from the time before.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the PPs that the way he answered the question is what bothers me. There was no need to say that you were "less hot" (kind of a juvenile way of putting it) when a more apt answer to the question was "honey, you look like you had 2 babies. There's some excess there. But let me remind you that you're beautiful, and all the more beautiful for having those children." Even if he just said sentences 1 and 2 it would have been better, but the not hot thing is not only insulting, it's just pretty mean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a husband, you strike me as high maintenance. I told my wife when we were dating that I'd never blow smoke up her ass. She got really upset and was like "Sometimes I am shallow and just need to hear you think I look pretty!" So I said that was fine, and I'd make sure to compliment her when she DID look pretty, but when she is in sweats, not working out, not doing her hair, I'm not going to say she looks pretty.

It's worked well for us. You should always assume that getting plastic surgery to tighten or take away droops are a good thing. You don't need bigger tits, but hike up the ones you've got when it's an option. You asked, he answered. Get over yourself.

Wow. SO glad I'm not married to you. My husband told me that he thinks I'm the most beautiful when I have my ratty t-shirt and boyshorts on with my hair piled in a messy ponytail. It's certainly when he goes after me the most. He said no one gets to see me that way but him, and that I'm just down to the casual essentials, and that really turns him on. I guess different men are attracted to different things, but I am just so relieved I had the brains to marry this one instead of someone like you. What pressure!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a husband, you strike me as high maintenance. I told my wife when we were dating that I'd never blow smoke up her ass. She got really upset and was like "Sometimes I am shallow and just need to hear you think I look pretty!" So I said that was fine, and I'd make sure to compliment her when she DID look pretty, but when she is in sweats, not working out, not doing her hair, I'm not going to say she looks pretty.

It's worked well for us. You should always assume that getting plastic surgery to tighten or take away droops are a good thing. You don't need bigger tits, but hike up the ones you've got when it's an option. You asked, he answered. Get over yourself.

Wow. SO glad I'm not married to you. My husband told me that he thinks I'm the most beautiful when I have my ratty t-shirt and boyshorts on with my hair piled in a messy ponytail. It's certainly when he goes after me the most. He said no one gets to see me that way but him, and that I'm just down to the casual essentials, and that really turns him on. I guess different men are attracted to different things, but I am just so relieved I had the brains to marry this one instead of someone like you. What pressure!

I know right? I read this and felt the same way. I feel like my DH really KNOWS me and accepts me and thinks I'm hot whether I'm wearing a revealing dress or my sweats and a tank top. I can't imagine being married to a guy like that- I would feel like the whole thing was a fraud because it would be so much about an image..vs..who you really are

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women shouldn't ask these questions and men should not answer them.

No. Women will ask. Men need to learn the correct answers. My husband always gets it right and that is why he gets laid regularly while so many of you do without.

My wife continues to ask this type of question, and after 30+ years together with her, I'm still trying to get it right. Of course I'm always up for getting laid more often ( I actually find her hotter now than when she was younger). So what does your husband respond that "gets it right"? I may be an old dog, but I'm open to learn new ways to keep her (and me) satisfied.

He just very enthusiastically tells me that I am beautiful and that he has never found me any hotter than he does right now. It's such a turn on to know how sexy he thinks I am. How can you refuse when you feel that sexy and beautiful? He also points out everything he loves about me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women shouldn't ask these questions and men should not answer them.

No. Women will ask. Men need to learn the correct answers. My husband always gets it right and that is why he gets laid regularly while so many of you do without.

My wife continues to ask this type of question, and after 30+ years together with her, I'm still trying to get it right. Of course I'm always up for getting laid more often ( I actually find her hotter now than when she was younger). So what does your husband respond that "gets it right"? I may be an old dog, but I'm open to learn new ways to keep her (and me) satisfied.

He just very enthusiastically tells me that I am beautiful and that he has never found me any hotter than he does right now. It's such a turn on to know how sexy he thinks I am. How can you refuse when you feel that sexy and beautiful? He also points out everything he loves about me.

If only it were that simple! I do all those things already! From reading some of the prior posts I think I am not alone in this. My many heartfelt compliments to my wife are dismissed or ignored, but woe to me if I ever suggest any garment is unflattering.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not be mad about it, unless it was said in a mean or nasty way. I'm not as hot as I was when I got married. Almost no one is as hot age age 40 after 2 kids as they were at age 27 with no kids. If my husband said I was just as hot as I used to be, he would be lying.

+1 My husband is also not as hot as he used to be. What's the big deal?