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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the impulse to continue to invite kids who excluded your kids. They showed that they don't view your child as a sufficiently close friend (or whatever) to invite, so why should you do the same?

Because it's rude to invite most, but not all, of the kids in a particular playgroup. Just because the excluder was rude doesn't mean that you get to be in return.

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Anonymous wrote:

But in this case, it was this child's entire class and soccer team that were invited as far as I could tell, and my son is part of both those subgroups

Yes, it is not nice to exclude only one or two kids. Not sure why it is relevant whether the child's dad in your case was a "closeted gay."

Because I sense they are fake people, that's why. I have many gay friends and family members and there's not much I respect less than people who live a lie. I worked for one.

Meh, I think it's usually a stab at parents trying to saying "see how awesome we are! We invited you even when you didn't care abouts us. please like me, please like my kid!"

Yes, but the only problem with that is: as a non-invited one, you do not know how many were invited and who were not. So, you can't tell yourself, "Oh well, they only invited 5 people, no biggie, it wasn't personal." All you know, on our end of things, is that you (or, more accurately, your DC) was not invited. You don't know who else was and who wasn't. So you, in the absense of any other information, wonder why. Shrug. OH well.