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Anonymous wrote:How do you feel about seeing me (AA female) with my husband (WM)? I seem to get the most hostility from other AA...

AA woman here.

It depends. Some black women that I know who are married to white men are bourgeois and I usually don't like to be associated with bourgeois people. These same women have the "I was good enough to get a white man" vibe that comes off as a bit smug and superior.

If you're cool and down to earth, I'm happy if you're happy!! And also a little curious...A few of my friends have been trying to broaden their dating pool, but it's been tough.

-Where did you meet your husband?
-I somehow have this impression that white men are romantic. Is this true?

Not the pp you're asking. I have a different question. Define Bourgeois. Does it mean something different to AAs? To me it means middle class.

Can't speak for all, but to me it defines the "brown paper bag" mindset. Qualities include: snobby, elitist, superior, a very subtle (and sometimes not so subtle) need to separate and/or prove they are "not like" others within their race

Anonymous wrote:Bourgeois to me has nothing to due with skin color. I see it as being snobby.

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Anonymous wrote:How do you feel about seeing me (AA female) with my husband (WM)? I seem to get the most hostility from other AA...

AA woman here.

It depends. Some black women that I know who are married to white men are bourgeois and I usually don't like to be associated with bourgeois people. These same women have the "I was good enough to get a white man" vibe that comes off as a bit smug and superior.

If you're cool and down to earth, I'm happy if you're happy!! And also a little curious...A few of my friends have been trying to broaden their dating pool, but it's been tough.

-Where did you meet your husband?
-I somehow have this impression that white men are romantic. Is this true?

Not the pp you're asking. I have a different question. Define Bourgeois. Does it mean something different to AAs? To me it means middle class.

Can't speak for all, but to me it defines the "brown paper bag" mindset. Qualities include: snobby, elitist, superior, a very subtle (and sometimes not so subtle) need to separate and/or prove they are "not like" others within their race

Interesting. Can't it just mean you fell in love with someone? That you can see past a skin color? Snobby and elitist to me means only driving expensive cars, or wearing only designer labels. Sorry, but I also find a lot of us who have pledged to have the "snobby, elitist, superior, and not so subtle need to separate" attitude. None of this applies to me.

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Anonymous wrote:How do you feel about seeing me (AA female) with my husband (WM)? I seem to get the most hostility from other AA...

AA woman here.

It depends. Some black women that I know who are married to white men are bourgeois and I usually don't like to be associated with bourgeois people. These same women have the "I was good enough to get a white man" vibe that comes off as a bit smug and superior.

If you're cool and down to earth, I'm happy if you're happy!! And also a little curious...A few of my friends have been trying to broaden their dating pool, but it's been tough.

-Where did you meet your husband?
-I somehow have this impression that white men are romantic. Is this true?

Not the pp you're asking. I have a different question. Define Bourgeois. Does it mean something different to AAs? To me it means middle class.

Can't speak for all, but to me it defines the "brown paper bag" mindset. Qualities include: snobby, elitist, superior, a very subtle (and sometimes not so subtle) need to separate and/or prove they are "not like" others within their race

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Anonymous wrote:How do you feel about seeing me (AA female) with my husband (WM)? I seem to get the most hostility from other AA...

AA woman here.

It depends. Some black women that I know who are married to white men are bourgeois and I usually don't like to be associated with bourgeois people. These same women have the "I was good enough to get a white man" vibe that comes off as a bit smug and superior.

If you're cool and down to earth, I'm happy if you're happy!! And also a little curious...A few of my friends have been trying to broaden their dating pool, but it's been tough.

-Where did you meet your husband?
-I somehow have this impression that white men are romantic. Is this true?

Not the pp you're asking. I have a different question. Define Bourgeois. Does it mean something different to AAs? To me it means middle class.

Can't speak for all, but to me it defines the "brown paper bag" mindset. Qualities include: snobby, elitist, superior, a very subtle (and sometimes not so subtle) need to separate and/or prove they are "not like" others within their race

Same sad stuff: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Acting_white

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Anonymous wrote:How do you feel about seeing me (AA female) with my husband (WM)? I seem to get the most hostility from other AA...

AA woman here.

It depends. Some black women that I know who are married to white men are bourgeois and I usually don't like to be associated with bourgeois people. These same women have the "I was good enough to get a white man" vibe that comes off as a bit smug and superior.

If you're cool and down to earth, I'm happy if you're happy!! And also a little curious...A few of my friends have been trying to broaden their dating pool, but it's been tough.

-Where did you meet your husband?
-I somehow have this impression that white men are romantic. Is this true?

Not the pp you're asking. I have a different question. Define Bourgeois. Does it mean something different to AAs? To me it means middle class.

Can't speak for all, but to me it defines the "brown paper bag" mindset. Qualities include: snobby, elitist, superior, a very subtle (and sometimes not so subtle) need to separate and/or prove they are "not like" others within their race

Interesting. Can't it just mean you fell in love with someone? That you can see past a skin color? Snobby and elitist to me means only driving expensive cars, or wearing only designer labels. Sorry, but I also find a lot of us who have pledged to have the "snobby, elitist, superior, and not so subtle need to separate" attitude. None of this applies to me.

Anonymous wrote:I have a feeling I'm going back and forward with the same two Jamaican/something else women. This is no longer an exercise in education, but rather one to argue and nitpick.

So.......I'm out. But in the meantime, READ people and for the love of God, LEARN.

Anonymous wrote:I honestly think we should just skip the whole bourgeois debate all together. Someone seems like they're looking to take offense and I don't want to ruin the spirit of this thread if this turns ugly/personal.

Anonymous wrote:Why do you hit/beat your kids in public and say cruel things to them?

Anonymous wrote:Why do you hit/beat your kids in public and say cruel things to them?