Anonymous wrote:What does "natural" hair look like? Does any one famous have natural AA hair so I can google a pic?

Anonymous wrote:"How does that indicate ambition? The only thing that says is that some people are more interested in building wealth while others are more interested in building family. You can't take money with you; I'll chose family every time."

Ambition is not just wealth creation; it's an interest in position and title and power.

It's okay, you know, to say you'd rather spend time with your family. It just means you're not as ambitious as someone putting in more hours and trying to get ahead in the workplace.

Anonymous wrote:What does "natural" hair look like? Does any one famous have natural AA hair so I can google a pic?

Anonymous wrote:I find it very interesting that many AA women prioritize their hair over physical fitness. Is it really worth it to have straight hair if you can't exercise?

Anonymous wrote:What does "natural" hair look like? Does any one famous have natural AA hair so I can google a pic?

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Anonymous wrote:I find it very interesting that many AA women prioritize their hair over physical fitness. Is it really worth it to have straight hair if you can't exercise?

But many of those women have careers that find dreadlocks, cornrows, and natural hair unacceptable.

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I've got a question!

I live in a gentrifying part of DC, and every few weeks some long term resident posts a message to the local neighborhood mailing list complaining that "white people never say hello".

I've noticed that, when I'm walking down the street, I'm usually met with a grim glare by black people coming my way. When I dutifully say "Good morning!" the response is usually one of three variations:

a) The other person gives me a look as if my head has been sculpted out of dog poop.

b) I get no response whatsoever.

c) I get a smile and a good morning in return.

Given that "not saying 'hi'" appears to be one of the major complaints about the "newcomers", one would think that 'c)' would be the most common, but in fact, I see a lot more of a) and b).

Do you have any idea what's going on? Is this an elaborate practical joke? Or is it possible my "old timer" neighbors might have deeper resentments and that "white folks don't say 'hi'" might just be a fig leaf to cover those up?

I think the unfriendly responders have something in common with my upper NW white neighbors because I've received the same response to my attempts at being friendly.

I don't doubt that for a second. My guess is that the "not saying 'hi'" goes both ways. And yet...do you get a lot of traffic on your local listserv from white professionals complaining that the reason the neighborhood's going to pot is that "black people just *won't* say 'Hi'!" ?

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Anonymous wrote:I find it very interesting that many AA women prioritize their hair over physical fitness. Is it really worth it to have straight hair if you can't exercise?

But many of those women have careers that find dreadlocks, cornrows, and natural hair unacceptable.

That is more reception that reality. I worked in a major new york law firm for 7 years with shoulder length braids and never had any issues. I interviewed with an got a job offer from Goldman Sachs with said braids. Natural black hair can be styled professionally.

Anonymous wrote:Once, just to make conversation with a co-worker while waiting for the microwave at lunch, I asked a AA women my age early 20's what she was eating for lunch. She told me to never ask a black person what they are eating. What was that all about?

Anonymous wrote:Once, just to make conversation with a co-worker while waiting for the microwave at lunch, I asked a AA women my age early 20's what she was eating for lunch. She told me to never ask a black person what they are eating. What was that all about?

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Anonymous wrote:I find it very interesting that many AA women prioritize their hair over physical fitness. Is it really worth it to have straight hair if you can't exercise?

But many of those women have careers that find dreadlocks, cornrows, and natural hair unacceptable.

That is more reception that reality. I worked in a major new york law firm for 7 years with shoulder length braids and never had any issues. I interviewed with an got a job offer from Goldman Sachs with said braids. Natural black hair can be styled professionally.