
So, let me get this straight. There is nothing wrong with what she is doing, so the police should not have been called and by calling them OP's friend could get her in trouble, have this escalated to CPS, or have her children taken away. Is that right? If she is doing nothing wrong, then why would she get in trouble for it?
Lastly, where are the highly educated DCUM parents? You people don't make any sense at all. |
If I came across a car with an unattended toddler and infant, I would probably call the police within a few minutes in order to ensure the kids are safe.
I doubt this mother has thought of the potential dangers. With an SUV and dance classes, she can most likely afford childcare. A running car is not an adjacent baby-proofed room. We are supposed to supervice and protect these little ones as best we can. They develop new skills all the time, like how to detach stuff, put random things in there mouths, get out of chairs....If something did happen, it would take a lot more than a quick run to the next room to help her infant/toddler. |
I'm new to this thread. This sounds like a really bad idea to me. Like, super bad. As in I would've called the cops on her and would continue to do so.
The kids won't get taken away... no worries about that. |
There are two good reasons to call the cops.
1. The car is idling for 45+ minutes. Like, hullo, pollution anyone? 2. There are primarily unsupervised, sleeping young kids in the car for 45+ minutes (who cares if it's a hot day or not). This isn't an occasional thing. It's weekly. To my mind, it's worth a call to the police. A smidge of sympathy for the mum who doesn't want to wake her napping kids, but only a smidge. Final analysis: call the clps. Mostly I'm thinking this parent should hire a sitter for two hours to keep the young'ns home. Use one hour for dance class and the second to get some grocery shopping in. |
Good grief, haven't you gotten bored and left yet? I know you will soon...just need to be patient... |
I'm still not getting why one mom wouldn't approach this mom directly. What exactly are you afraid of? As I stated before, if you really care as much as you say you do, approach mom directly, tell her your concerns and explain that if you see the behavior continue, you will at that point call the authorities. You're not looking to make a new friend here, right? Your main concern is the safety of the children, as you said yourself. |
Suv running for 45 min is about the same cost as a babysitter. Just thought I'd point that out.
Love, a highly educated DCUM. |
I'm glad you can be patient. That's a good quality to have. |
Just wondering if some of you can truncate these longer posts. It sucks on my phone - yet I still enjoy the childish bickering! |
I haven't read most of this thread but I'm willing to bet that OP's DD doesn't dance the same as this mom's. Just a hunch. |
Don't have it in me to read the whole thread, but why can't mom drop DD off for dance and sit in the car herself with the sleeping little ones. I'm betting another mom could walk her to the suv on the way out. Seems safer and like an obvious solution. |
I'm a PP who said that I would do this, but let me make clear. I would probably be spending 5 minutes in the car then go in and watch my daughter for a couple of minutes, then going back to the car for a while, so on and so forth. Probably doesn't make the situation more or less "right" but you sometimes you just have to make do with what you got going on. |
I would NEVER, EVER do this. Not even to my dog! |
According to a study published in the journal Pediatrics, showed that a car interior can heat up by an average of 40 degrees Fahrenheit within an hour, regardless of how cool the outside air might be. And 80 percent of the temperature rise occurred in the first half hour.
http://health.dailynewscentral.com/content/view/0001216/36/ And anyone who read Gene Weingarten's heartbreaking piece in the Washington Post last year will remember the woman whose child died in the car on a 60 degree day (don't read if you're not prepared to spend an hour weeping). http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/02/27/AR2009022701549.html I think we'd almost all agree that you never ever leave a child locked/strapped in a car with the engine off, regardless of monitor or line of sight. But somehow turning the engine on--which seems to me to make it arguably less safe due to the theft/carjacking/gear-shift issues (a/c aside, it can fail or not compensate enough)--makes this okay? PBFC. |
You're being too logical. Please go away. |