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Wow nothing like piling on.
I don't necessarily agree with the OP or her tone, but enough already. And, while I do think that a little extra time/compassion is a good and necessary thing, I will say that I do not particularly agree with some of the posters that all of the other kids/parents in a class have to adjust/re-adjust or go to the lengths implied in some of the posts for a single child. All of the children have academic needs that need to be considered. If it gets to the point that other children are suffering (in terms of lack of attention or academics and I am NOT saying that is happening in OPs situation) then, I'm sorry, other arrangements should be made for that child. Just my opinion. And, no, I do not have a SN child. But, I have family/friends that do and who are mainstreaming (their word) and have met with varied successes. They are wonderful families and great kids. But mainstreaming simply doesn't work for all kids. |
Anonymous
| So PP, if you are in public school and your child has needs, but does not qualify for a special needs classroom, what do you think the options are? |
Anonymous
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9:50 - the options include the parent stepping up and not jeopardizing the rest of the students classroom year. Even if it is a public school, homeowners are paying for it with their taxes, and have rights. To the dismay of any trouble maker parents. This is often the case with bullies.
The good news is, there are often fewer trouble maker/attention sucking/bully parents than not. That is in your favor. |
Anonymous
| please -- by that flawed logic my kid would have more rights than other kids because I own multiple properties in my area and pay more in taxes. How about we let the teacher do his/her job and let them do what they need to do to address any situations that develop in their classroom. And as a parent who provides a lot of stuff for the public school classroom -- it's not a bribe -- I personally don't think that teachers should have to use their personal money for school stuff so if a teacher tells me they would like to have it, I will buy it and it will benefit not only my own kid but yours as well. |
Anonymous
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OP here. I work full time. Not that it is any of your business. I may or may not show compassion on this thread, but I guarantee I am appropriately (not over, not under) involved and appropriately (again not over, not under) compassionate in person.
I somehow think that the student's parents seek attention, and therefor so does this child. It may that their priorities are all wrong. Perhaps they are doing too little too late. I believe they alienated many from their last school. That is the opinion of a bystander. As I mentioned, I do not know the parents very well, but am basing it on what I have heard, some of it from close friends. I am scrutinizing the information I receive and considering the source as well. It seems their parent/s are on here, as there are an unreasonable number of negative posts. I wish them luck. Most of the parents in the class are taking measures at this time, so I will again, observe for the time being. I am hopeful that this students parents are not a detriment to the student. |
Anonymous
And again, what exactly is "stepping up"? And what makes you think that parents with "problem children" are NOT stepping up? Even with all the therapy and intervention in the world, some kids are going to be more needy than others and require more of a teachers time. Not all these kids can or should go into a special needs classroom. |
Anonymous
if this kid's parents were on here, you'd get a load more cursing and flame throwing than you've already gotten. get over the fact that people don't agree with you. it's not them. it's you. |
Anonymous
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OP-
Your basing your opinions on what you have heard? In other words, people are gossiping, have an agenda and are working as a mob to do something about this kid. You all have no direct knowledge of what is really going on but have taken upon yourselves to make a judgement about the child and the parents. If you have direct concerns about your child's development and educational growth go to the principal. 16:33 gave a great post on how to handle this situation Use it. and stop being such a busybody. |
Anonymous
| Needy parents have needy children! |
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According to this statement, you are discounting everyone who has posted a dissenting view and you believe they are the parents of the child in your class? That is rich and paranoid. You are one of the very parents you are complaining about: drawing attention to yourself, stirring the pot and being a gossip. Just imagine what your friends are saying about you behind your back, since they are so willing to trash this other family behind their back. |
Anonymous
I'm curious as to what you mean by 'stepping up'. Under the law, every child is entitled to a free and appropriate education. That doesn't mean they are educated to their full potential, only that they meet the minimum education standards. I also don't understand what you mean by "jeopardizing the rest of the students classroom year". Are you fearful the other kids won't receive an education? I guarantee you that school administrators won't let that happen. The 'problem child' is in far more danger than any other child in that classroom - and we as a society pay a price for that. It's in everyone's best interest that those 'problem children' receive a good education as well as support. Also, what homeowner rights are you talking about? Real estate taxes aren't the sole funding source for schools. MD, VA and DC all receive federal funds for education which means anyone paying taxes pays for the schools. |
Anonymous
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OP--
What on earth do you mean by "The kid's parents want attention" anyhow?? You think that this child is "clingy" because his parents "want attention"? How does that even play out, in your mind? Parents tell the child, "Now, Billy/Barbara... when we drop you off at school today, be sure to cling to Miss Patty all you can, because we really want to be sure the teachers and school pay attention to us!" ??? |
Anonymous
OP, I'm the former teacher who took the time to write a long, thoughtful post yesterday. But now--I give up. Your interest in this other family is disgusting. If you are truly concerned with YOUR child and making sure her needs get met, there is no place for all of the idle gossip and rumors you are still discussing. I seriously think there is a special place in hell for adults who are cruel to children. And yes, it is absolutely cruel to gossip and speculate about this child with anyone who will listen. |
Anonymous
| OP- What exactly do the parents do to be needy? Describe their actions. |
Anonymous
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OP,
This sounds like a witch hunt. I have discussed problem children with other parents for years, YEARS, and never, not once, did anyone suggest the child was modeling his/her parents' behavior. Often they, the parents, were blind to their child's problems, in denial, etc., but we never sat around and said, Oh, that Micky, he's anxious, his parents are anxious, too. |