Problem child in classroom

[Anonymous]

20:07 Goodness, that was harsh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The child mentioned does not have special needs. If they did (which they do not), they would be assigned their own teacher instead of disrupting the class. I do not know if the students parents know about their childs clinginess and disruptiveness. I have been in the classroom and have seen it, which is why I brought up the question to other parents. I did not know the other parents were upset until I brought up the question of "is this normal". They all seem to agree it is not. We want to do the right thing, not just let it go.

What makes you think a child with special needs would be assigned his/her own teacher? There is no basis for this in school law or regulation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The child mentioned does not have special needs. If they did (which they do not), they would be assigned their own teacher instead of disrupting the class. I do not know if the students parents know about their childs clinginess and disruptiveness. I have been in the classroom and have seen it, which is why I brought up the question to other parents. I did not know the other parents were upset until I brought up the question of "is this normal". They all seem to agree it is not. We want to do the right thing, not just let it go.

What makes you think a child with special needs would be assigned his/her own teacher? There is no basis for this in school law or regulation.

Yes, I've never heard of such a thing...unless you mean a private aide?

[Anonymous]

If your child is at a private school it's one thing. You are paying big bucks and if it is not a school for special needs then I assume with time if things don't improve the school will meet with the family to discuss better options. At a public school there is inclusion (which if done right is a beautiful thing where everyone benefits). This child has special needs and an IEP. Maybe the family wants the child to have an 1-1 aide, but the county won't fund it since budgets are tight. I do understand that you don't want this child to take away from your own child's learning needs. I just think it is a little early. It's good to get info/ideas on here about how to proceed, but I would give the child time to adjust and assume the professionals will do what is best for everyone. I have a child who is quite bright, but has SN and I am already dreading the day DC goes off to K because I am petrified of how DC could handle 30 kidss in a class and I doubt DC will qualify for the amount oif support needed.

[Anonymous]

PP again...meant to say..we don't know if this child has an IEP and SN because that is confidential info.

[Anonymous]

How long has your child been back at school? Unless you are on a year-round schedule, didn't school just start in the last week or two? Perhaps the child is still warming up to the new environment, it seems premature to make a fuss about it at this point.

[Anonymous]

OP unless you are in a very unique school setting, you're talking about kids who have been in school for 2 weeks at most. How many times can you possibly have volunteered in the classroom during that time? Your post seems a huge overreaction given that you can't have very much real evidence of a problem yet.

[Anonymous]

True 5:44 and it's strange to me that the parents got so whipped up so quickly.

OP is this a private school?

[Anonymous]

I've never been in a school or taught in one (public/private) where a parent has so much time and energy to spend in a classroom "observing" through an untrained eye.

If you're in that room THAT often, YOU'RE the one who's mostly likely disrupting the routine and triggering certain behaviors.

Either get out of the classroom and let the teachers do their jobs or earn a degree in education (preferably special ed) or psychology.

'nuff said

[Anonymous]

Not OP but some parents volunteer weekly.

I don't think it is fair to dismiss what may be valid concerns as being OP's "fault". OP, the most productive thing is to document concerns with specifics to the teacher and principal as outlined above. Talking to others about the child is unfair to him/her, this might not be behavior they can even help. Keep the focus on your child. If this other child perhaps gets help, that would be a bonus.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks for all of the productive input! Apparently, at their old school, the child's parents used to bribe the teachers and school by being very visible and brown nosing early and often. Also by actually buying things for the teacher. This from a couple people who went to their school. They acquired a bad reputation quickly, but it seems the teacher/s were oblivious because of the bribes received. Obviously, neither party would call it that. I personally think, as do others, that any gifts should have been at the end of the year so as to not appear suspect. I don't know if that students parents are too sharp.

But I do know that set of parents try to make other children appear to be a problem and try to deflect when convenient for them. Some children had left their class early (at the old school) either because of or in spite of this student. They are clearly not helping their child, as they somehow believe they are.

I am really just listening at this point, since I have no information to contribute (yet) - so no PP, I am not a gossip. But it is quite obvious that there are issues with this student that do not fall into the special needs category. It seems a case of insecure parents trying to somehow overcompensate, to the detriment of their own child. There are different families presenting cases to the principal, as they want something done before the whole class falls behind. I am really just listening for the time being.

It seems this student's parents are very familiar with their child's behavior. Whether or not they do something that is actually productive remains to be seen. In the meantime, there are some pretty pissed off parents in the class.

[Anonymous]

Gossip kills three: the speaker, the spoken of, and the listener.

~ R. Samuel ben Nachman (3rd-4th century)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for all of the productive input! Apparently, at their old school, the child's parents used to bribe the teachers and school by being very visible and brown nosing early and often. Also by actually buying things for the teacher. This from a couple people who went to their school. They acquired a bad reputation quickly, but it seems the teacher/s were oblivious because of the bribes received. Obviously, neither party would call it that. I personally think, as do others, that any gifts should have been at the end of the year so as to not appear suspect. I don't know if that students parents are too sharp.

But I do know that set of parents try to make other children appear to be a problem and try to deflect when convenient for them. Some children had left their class early (at the old school) either because of or in spite of this student. They are clearly not helping their child, as they somehow believe they are.

I am really just listening at this point, since I have no information to contribute (yet) - so no PP, I am not a gossip. But it is quite obvious that there are issues with this student that do not fall into the special needs category. It seems a case of insecure parents trying to somehow overcompensate, to the detriment of their own child. There are different families presenting cases to the principal, as they want something done before the whole class falls behind. I am really just listening for the time being.

It seems this student's parents are very familiar with their child's behavior. Whether or not they do something that is actually productive remains to be seen. In the meantime, there are some pretty pissed off parents in the class.

Wow. Just wow. It's the day after Labor Day and you are this spun up. I can hardly imagine what this poor kid has in store with you asshat parents in the months to come.

[Anonymous]

Problem children have the right to an education, too. His parents' behavior is quite irrelevant.

Ask thar your child be moved to another class if you are not happy with that one for whatever reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for all of the productive input! Apparently, at their old school, the child's parents used to bribe the teachers and school by being very visible and brown nosing early and often. Also by actually buying things for the teacher. This from a couple people who went to their school. They acquired a bad reputation quickly, but it seems the teacher/s were oblivious because of the bribes received. Obviously, neither party would call it that. I personally think, as do others, that any gifts should have been at the end of the year so as to not appear suspect. I don't know if that students parents are too sharp.

But I do know that set of parents try to make other children appear to be a problem and try to deflect when convenient for them. Some children had left their class early (at the old school) either because of or in spite of this student. They are clearly not helping their child, as they somehow believe they are.

I am really just listening at this point, since I have no information to contribute (yet) - so no PP, I am not a gossip. But it is quite obvious that there are issues with this student that do not fall into the special needs category. It seems a case of insecure parents trying to somehow overcompensate, to the detriment of their own child. There are different families presenting cases to the principal, as they want something done before the whole class falls behind. I am really just listening for the time being.

It seems this student's parents are very familiar with their child's behavior. Whether or not they do something that is actually productive remains to be seen. In the meantime, there are some pretty pissed off parents in the class.

My advice:

1. Reread the bolded portion of what you just wrote.
2. Go look up the word gossip in the dictionary.
3. Try for an honest self-assessment.
4. Oh, and give it a little time before you schedule a meeting with the principal – it’s early September, for cryin’ out loud.