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Sister walks in with same engagement ring as you...what would you do?
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Anonymous
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"Sorry but you sound like someone who has forgotten what matters in life. "
Yup. What kind of parent can this airhead be? |
Anonymous
That would go over well. What's she going to say? "You said do whatever you want, and now I own this big honking rock that I can't really take back because it's my engagement ring and it's special to me". |
Anonymous
I am amazed that this annoys you after you have obviously been married awhile since you have kids. I have to tell you that though I love my ring and yes it is beautiful (it's the three stone one that a lot of people have with the middle diamond a whopper at 2 1/2 big ones , the ring that really makes me cry is the "mother's ring" I have with the birthstones set in a "eternity band setting of stones" of my children given by my hubby. My best friend saw it and got one later the same year and hers was bigger and you know what, I am happy for her and it doesn't change a thing. My advice is to let your sister shine in this special time. I feel like my engagement was so rushed because I wanted to be married so badly after waiting so many years that I didn't get to really enjoy the engagement period. Let it go.
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Anonymous
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This is totally silly. Are you sure you are not upset by the fact that she got the same ring but it was bigger????
And frankly, anyone who knows about jewelry knows that it is not just the size of the stone...it is the quality of the diamond. Mine is a little over a carat but is a D in color and amazing cut. I have seen a lot bigger less quality rings, especially in this town! |
Anonymous
| Grow up, OP. The ring doesn't matter. Your marriage and life with your DH and kids does. |
Anonymous
| I presume this is really about something other than metal and stones, right? How upset can you really be about objects? Is there something else going on? Jealousy about other things, resentment about your sister copying you in other ways? In any case, the time to have said something was a year ago and you didn't. Focus on something else, something that really matters. And thank your lucky stars that what you have to cry about is that someone else got a bigger version of your thing. |
Anonymous
What the heck would you say? "Hey, listen, remember when you asked me if it would bother me if you got an identical engagement ring, and I said no, do whatever makes you happy? The thing is, I lied - it bothers me a lot. I'm really upset, and spend a lot of time crying, because you failed to read my mind. We are sisters, you should know instinctively if something will bother me, instead of resorting to silly devices like, you know . . . asking. Just thought you should know." Good luck with that. |
Anonymous
| I think you should wait until you have the whole house to yourself, knock down a few glasses of wine, put on Beyonce's Put A Ring on It at full blast, and dance this crazy reaction out of your system. Da da da da da da da da da da da da. |
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| This is really superficial. These are material objects that don't mean anything. How long have you been married? Your sister ASKED YOUR PERMISSION before she went out and got this particular ring, you told her it was okay... and now you're wanting to recant that because she went out and bought it since she thought she had your blessing?!?!?!?! How do you think it makes your husband feel to see you so bent out of shape about this?? To see that after being married, starting your lives together and building a family, that your priorities still haven't changed from the time when you were picking out engagement rings?? I know if something like that were to come up in my marriage it would upset me greatly. You REALLY need to just get over this all on our own before you hurt feelings over something so meaningless. |
Anonymous
NP here: WAIT, this IS my ring. Swear. Now I feel self-conscience. Is there something wrong with this ring? Or is the point that it's just really generic? I did not find it generic, but I do not really care about rings and stuff so I wouldn't have known even it was on everyone's finger. |
Anonymous
Relax -- it's not generic . I think the point was that most enagement rings aren't actually "unique" in that many stores sell the same settings. But that doesn't mean your ring isn't special, of course!! And no, there's nothing wrong with this ring at all! I happen to find it beautiful, but I'm sure there are some who would disagree. That's ok -- people have different styles and preferences and tastes. Enjoy your (beautiful!) ring and don't worry about some of the wackos on this site.
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Anonymous
| OP, I'm glad you have nothing else to worry about. Be happy for your sister and let the play the games (if that is indeed what she is doing.) |
Anonymous
| I would tell her that it's nice and all, but it's just really not my style. |
Anonymous
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Why are you bothered?
If a jewelry store has multiple copies of the same setting, someone else - beside your sister - is walking around with "your" ring, too. |
Anonymous
You are way over thinking the ring. Geez. Let it go. The ring is really NOT. THAT. IMPORTANT. |